Response to Lisa

Submitted by Cat123 (United States), Feb 23, 2013 at 01:08

Hi Lisa, I am so sorry to hear about your troubles. This sounds absolutely hearbreaking. I imagine you really care about him and love him soo deeply. However, the important thing is, no matter how much you love him, and how much you believe he has/will changed, and even if he asks you to later, **** do not get back together with him****.

This is a clear cut case. It is much too great a risk based on his very aggressive reaction to your friends/posts on facebook. Regardless of the reason, regardless of whatever you wrote on facebook, regardless of his frustration, his upbringing, his culture---whatever the case---saying threatening things--even once-- is completely unacceptable behavior and is a relationship "deal breaker". A good Egyptian doesn't say such things. A good Muslim doesn't say such things. A good man doesn't say such things. A good person doesn't say such things. He may be a sweet prince on every other level, but he clearly has a serious aggressive jealousy and anger problem and that makes him a very bad candidate for marriage or any friendship/relationship.

Just imagine if your daughter or some else you love had written your post ---what advice would you give her? I strongly suggest you cut ties with him in any way possible-delete out of the cell, facebook etc. Do not wait around for him to change. I know it is sooo hard, but you can--and should-- do it!!!

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