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Re: Distance and truth by Luigi

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Submitted by Nourshehane (United States), Feb 16, 2013 at 21:50

Hi Luigi-

It's funny you say that, b/c even tho he's been the one to initiate meeting up all the time, he always stops short of meeting me in the exact spot i mention. He's only comfortable traveling so far, and then when I ask if he can take a train on the NJ Transit line to meet me in X town, he'll act all confused, ask me several times how i pronounce the name & how long it will take to get there. Basically giving me the runaround. He complains that: a) it will take too long to get there b) he can't afford the train fare as he makes so little money c) he's afraid he'll take the wrong connecting train & get lost in NJ. he's mentioned several times how he's afraid he'll get lost & this seems to be his dilemma. yet he's comfortable traveling around NYC & apparently has no problems taking the subways there. Really?

Again, for all i know, he could be living in California, Canada or Mexico. Anything's plausible. But if he's so in love with me as he claims to be, and has traveled all the way from Morocco to France to the US, why is it he has trouble taking a train in NJ?? kinda weird.. we're about 45 min- an hour away from each other, so he's also asked me to drive to his town since he doesn't have a car. I don't think that's fair which is why i suggested a nice, safe place to meet up, that is roughly halfway between us. i guess we're both hesitant but come on, he's been so forward with me from the get-go yet is only willing to meet on his terms? He can't have it both ways. It's even stranger b/c the last time he asked to meet me he said just name the place & he will go there b/c he wants me to feel comfortable. Sure enough, when i did he gave me the same runaround. Okay then..

I understand there's a world of possibilities when it comes to setting up accounts on facebook or any other social networking site, and his FB situation is truly a strange one. First of all, he doesn't have his real name on his profile- it's Keep Moving. could there be truth in advertising? Secondly, he had his friends list hidden, and i told him i found this suspicious. He said i was 'very smart to ask why' and then claimed it was because his male friends had sent rude messages or cursed at his female friends from school. Somehow that just doesn't sound right. And even if it were true, who the heck does he hang out with?

When i cut him off b/c of too many red flags, he finally caved and showed me his friends list. But it wasn't until at least a week after i made the complaint. So it's possible he had time to move people around (possibly to another profile) and/or delete anyone he didn't want me seeing. Why not just be transparent right away?

When i saw the friends list, it looked suspiciously ordinary- only 73 people- but i will say a fair amount were female. probably more than half, and many didn't have real pictures up. Lots of Muslim girls had just illustrations of women in hijab, or butterflies or cute babies. Aside from that, no one was unusually attractive. He did have a European model or two tho. Hmm.

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