Dear Angelica: Please Elaborate

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jan 26, 2013 at 22:03

Hi Angelica

I'm not sure how similar you situation is, but if you are just dating this man you really need to break it off because I can assure as a man the chance of it getting any better is pretty much zero.

If you are married you need to determine if he was even serious about the marriage. A lot of times, they act like it and are not. If you think the marriage is fraudulent, it is imperative for you to notify the proper authorities ASAP.

Dating a man for 10 years is a very long time and shows that a man is hesitant to commitment and I would guess usually that is for selfish reasons.

It would help if you could please more specific. I understand that privacy is important to women, as dating guru Marius Panzerella would say, but I do really think that more information will help you get some better advice.

Also, men like the one Teri describes are opportunistic and manipulative. If you went into this unsure or confused, then he knows he can lead you down the path he wants. If you look most of the other stories, that is exactly what has happened. Women would not be on here if they were sure or had it figured out like they tend to do more often with men from their culture, religion or country.

Teri also mentioned a sexual relationship. I advise against pre-marital sex, but especially on here because there is little chance that a religious man will throw away his faith in the end for you. Women who are open to pre-marital sex must understand that religious who break their own rules do so for selfish reasons and it may not mean that much to them; I can further assure that in the end they will want to marry someone from their own faith and/or country.

What I can tell you, Angelica, is that his behavior is unlikely to change.

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