Gosh Guest- why are you asking then?

Submitted by sara (United States), Nov 16, 2012 at 17:21

If you believe that you are describing the perfect love and union, fettered only by small details like finances and visas, then why are you on this site asking if this is real?

I don't know if you are old enough to know that what seems too good to be real usually is. You have no opportunity to vet this guy. every thing that you know of him is his version of the truth. it is a theoretical relationship, and if you keep it in that realm, you will probably be happy for a long time.

Once it emerges into reality and you start to deal with what he really wants and needs, I suspect things will deteriorate fast and will cause you grief and disappointment. So my advice to you is to keep it long distance and status quo. Do NOT go over there. do NOT send him any money, gifts, help his friends, his family, his store, help his visa application, anything at all. He gets insecure because he has invested a lot in you and doesn't want you meeting another on a webcam... really, a webcam. if that doesn't raise your suspicions.. The first test will be when he asks you for something and you decline in order to prove that this is not a long scam.

Are you prepared to face the consequences?

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