To Najib the Moroccan man

Submitted by RX (Morocco), Nov 6, 2012 at 09:57

Thank you for your response to my post , I have replied you point by point below as RX ..

First, i am truly sorry for what you had to go through, I was born and raised in morocco and i pretty much understand the mentality of some Moroccans, and i know for a fact that sadly your story is one in so many others, and i can write pages arguing and debating the motives, but i totally understand where you're coming from; however, there are few points i feel that i have to clarify:

RX ....Thank you for the sympathy , but this was all done by another individual and I am sure he doesnt feel any sorrow , except maybe that his scamming plans didnt quite work out as he thought they would with me ( yes , YOU ARE RIGHT this is exactly the MENTALİTY of this man and many others like him in Morocco ) hence the reasons people like me have chosen to post our stories on blogs like this !

I am also confused as to why YOU or any decent person would consider writing pages to argue or debate their motives , its clear what their motives are , they are targetting people like me for fınancial gain , there are thousands of people who have written on this blog alone that are emphasising this very clearly , its morally , religiously and hopefully recognised soon in my country to be "criminally " wrong , as its marriage fraud and theft ..

1) the claim that Islam allows him to cheat and steal your money as long as he'll be sharing with the poor and helping his family is False, it is not, and he will be asked about every cent he took from you, and you shall be rewarded from his good deeds (if any) in the judgement day (i am not sure about your faith and whether you are religious or not, but that s as far as His religion is concerned)

RX ... This may well be false by your religious beliefs only , in my opinion it is "morally "and religiously wrong , but as I said at the bottom of my post , I have written the true facts "meaning " when asked the question " how his god can accept what he was doing " his words , if they provide for their families they will be rewarded accordingly on " judgement day" ...

... 2) Morocco is not the perfect country nor do Moroccans, even brothers tend to be so different let alone 30 million + Moroccans. Meaning that it is illogical and unfair to generalise that all Moroccans are the same (not claiming that all Moroccans are honest, but just like any other nation there are good and bad people)

RX ...Agree that there are of course good and bad in every nation of people , but please remember this blog is about raising awareness for people like myself who have been targeted for money and are or have been pushed into fraudulent marriages by Moroccan men and their families , its fair to warn people that this is GENERALLY being practiced in countries such as Morocco, your own government are more than aware also as we were stopped by the police on many occasions, they personally asked me if I was ok being in this mans company , they advised me that they are there to protect me against the locals for this exact reason ...

3) the title on your post can t be right, as when you say Muslims, you are talking about a billion and half people, and i am sure that you have not met then one by one.. and trust me when i say that there are many Muslim/non Muslim couples that have worked out just fine, and i also know of many non Muslims that do the same thing to western women (Sub Saharan Africa), and for your information, there are many non Muslim Arabs and the vast majority of Muslims are not Arabs.

RX , I am not relating to ALL Muslims , this site is about mixed cultural / religious relationships and marriages , but its clear by my own experiences and reading about others here that westerners are at high risk of being scammed into false and fraudulent marriages , targeted for money , visas , sex etc by Muslim men who originate from countries that are listed many times in this blog such as Turkey , Morocco , Algeria , Tunisia , Jordan , Egypt etc .. its merely a warning from people who know it can happen and IS happening at a very high level..

4) In the Moroccan society, the family and friends do have influence in each others lives, but they absolutely do not control it, and have no right to decide on each others behalf. And the arranged marriages are not as common as you think, although they do exist is some places, and for your information, in Islam a women has the absolute right to accept or reject any proposed husband, sadly it is not the case in some places, but it surely is not the general rule.

RX .. In my own vast experience of life in the Morocco families I have seen and heard of many arranged marriages , some are first cousins !! I quoted on my post that this man was not able to marry a girl which he met previously , her family didnt accept him as he didnt earn enough money , her family chose her husband and she married immediately after this , .. also, when his brother had failed to find himself a wife by age 30 his mother arranged one for him...its fact !! ....this is only giving an INSIGHT into the life of Moroccans as it can be interesting and "very informational" to any person "who like many on this site" are meeting Moroccan men on dating sites or during short vacations and are considering marriage without having any prior knowledge of the country , the people, their lifestyle etc

Myself as example: my family is a very conservative family, i joke with my mother from time to time and ask her to find me a good wife, but my mother gently rejects the idea, my sisters cousins, and all the women i know have never been forced to marry somebody they did not want.

RX .. I am sure there are many families just like you , but there are many who are marrying people they dont want , and sadly there are very many marrying people falsely " for their own personal or financial gain "..

I do not mean to offend you or question your intelligence in any way, but i think that you have been a bit naive with that guy; you should have cut him off a bit earlier.

RX .. I would consider myself to be intelligent as I am sure are many people who have written posts on this site also , but Naive indeed , I was very naive to the fact that such people like him and his family existed in such a HIGHLY RELIGIOUS country and that we as Westerners are being targeted in such a way !!

When you come from countries such as mine , levels of poverty do not exist as they do in Morocco , therefore you can never experience (so never expect) that someone would actually marry you just to gain money etc (they are just selling themselves ) the qualities that we look for in a prospective spouse are compatibility to one another , true love and honesty and also when you are an honest, trusting, caring person you are not expecting someone to take advantage of that , how someone can tell you everyday that they love you , show genuinely that they do care for you for all this time , but at the same time they are just lying , scamming you into believing it all so they can gain what they want from you ...?

And lastly, I and a million others in morocco do not think that western women are spoiled people, and we do not resent you nor anybody else.

RX ... lol !!! I suppose you have spoken to the " million others " one by one ??? as I would suggest you do, as your people do not like westerners , I have witnessed this on so many occasions , when I was with this man I had so many discussions with him , his friends also and on many occasions witnessed such a show of dislike .. one good example was when I was in train station cafe at Casablanca and the news on the television was showing members of British Royal family coming under attack by a group of protesters in London , the Moroccan men all pulled their seats on front of the television , they were jeering , clapping etc this was 8.30am in the morning !!! why do you suppose this made them so happy ??? I was shocked to see this and found it hard to believe that people that I witness praying to their god five times everyday could be so happy to see this ... Its called jealousy and it breeds deeply in your people ...

RX..And Lastly ....I am sure you understand now that people like me are just creating awareness of what can happen to even the most intelligent people, because we are human and have emotions , can be more vulnerable at certain ages and stages of our life and sadly there are predators awaiting to take advantage of this , I am not accusing ALL Moroccan men , I am just highlighting that even in the most "RELIGIOUS countries " it is happening on a HUGE scale and can happen to ANYONE who is naive of those facts in hope that innocent people can read the posts on this blog and others alike , prevent them from landing into similar unwanted situations ...

Best Regards x

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