To Victoria

Submitted by Susie (United Kingdom), Oct 18, 2012 at 08:48

Dear Victoria,

If you want an honest insight from a woman who has been through it all: Run and do not look back!!!! RUN. Forget this man and never even consider marriage with him, let alone to have children.

That mess around him STINKS. Every detail of your story SCREAMS of signs of a deceitful, sly, creepy, dishonest and immoral scammer. Please read my story with the title " To Becca " a little bit above, I posted it yesterday and it is pretty detailed about my experience with an Algerian man. He played with me for 7 years. My story is not complete there, he also married an Algerian woman and played with me at the same time and wanted to use me as his "European love affair", he regarded me as a sexual toy, as a mistress, as someone who always has to be AVAILABLE for him. He ignored my need for commitment and stability.

Now look at your man. He has baby clothes in his apartment and female clothes??? What???? You still have questions he has a relationship with that other woman?? PLEASE!!! COME TO YOUR SENSES!!! He has had a baby with another woman before in Morocco and divorced her??? And you trust him??? PLEASE !!! Why do women think that a man who had mistreated all his previous women and children. abandoned them and withdrew from responsibilities will treat THEM good?? Why do you think that he will suddenly be a good and loving committed husband??? Do you think people change overnight? Well they do not. Just sit down and think: if he has been able to ignore and heartlessly abandon his wife will he not do the same to you??? The answer is: YES. He will in very short time break you down because he has no moral principles and no spine at all. This is a shameless irresponsible piece of garbage. NOT A MAN but a cockroach.

Why do you think that somebody who is able to treat his wife and child or children so ignorantly will treat you better??? PLEASE!!! It is the same mistake women commit when they become mistresses of married men. They believe that they are better than the wife and that the man is cheating because he is missing affection. BULLSHIT. Then these girls also realize that the picture is much more complex and he does the same to them at ANY TIME he gets bored and passioned for some variety and he will look for another victim. I know that young women with little experience do not get warned by such signs as " abandoned children" and "mistreated, hidden or ignored wives" but it should immediately strike the alarm in your head. What kind of a man is the one who abandons his kids??? Who treats his wife as he did??? Who has the unmistakable signs of living with a woman in his apartment??? This is a sly, creepy, sneaky bastard! He is PLAYING. If he were an honest man, he would take you in his apartment and live with you. PERIOD.

About your comments regarding his mother and how much she adores you... well you would not like to know what she says and thinks of you when you are not there. These women are soooo disgustingly and shamelessly hypocritical and sooooo fake. She is part of the game, involved in the show and she is happy to assist to the final destruction and punishment of an "immoral, shameless westerner" because this is the minimum that she thinks of you.

No Moroccan woman will respect ANY woman who has slept with her son without being married to him. NONE.

If they claim the opposite, they LIE.

I would recommend you to stay as far away from this guy as possible. For more details please read my comment to Becca.

I wish you the best of luck and courage and bravery to make the right decision. And if you have doubts, just try the following trick: distance yourself from him for a while, try to question him, confront him in his decisions, ask WHY? more often... you will see the beast coming to the surface. You can also try to send him flirting messages from an unknown phone number and see how he reacts. They fall in the trap sooo easily. When the possibility of an adventure shows up on the horizon they fall head over heels and do all their possible to conquer that "victim" as well. They have no moral control. No shame. Maybe it will hurt, but it will help you cut down on him when he proves to you directly how heartless he is. Just try it. As soon as you say NO to something concerning him or his current status he will go WILD. Then you will see the real face of him.

I wish you a lot of happiness in your life! Take good care of yourself!

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