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Warning signs---Canadian woman, Algerian manReader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Sep 26, 2012 at 00:09 Hello Becca! How am I supposed to tell that he is not using me for a visa? Based on what you have said, I have the following concerns: 1) Fake facebook accounts. I don't have an active facebook account, but it's my understanding that multiple personal profiles is against site policy. But that is the least to be worried about. People who have fake or multiple accounts on social networking sites are almost unanimously up to something, and usually it's something bad or it pertains to something bad. People have used it from everything to spy on other users to scam multiple women for visas without them catching on because their activity is masked by the different profiles. Suffice to say, that is a really bad sign. Even if he claims to have "deleted" everything, I wouldn't buy it so easily. That line has been used before. Also, I'm not quite clear on what you mean about him "coming clean". Did he come clean because he got caught? 2) All the things that he is saying about you being special and all the compliments.....that's how it always starts. If the scammers described on this site came out and said that they wanted a visa, for you to be a second wife, never leave the house and be forbidden to have male friends, what do you think the chances of him getting somewhere are? VISA scammers and liars have this down to an art. They get their victim emotionally involved, capitalizing on that rare or even taboo notion of dating a foreigner and butter them up. It really is a clever strategy proven to work. Some scammers will even go so far as to threaten to leave if you start asking questions and they feel you are emotionally involved enough. 3) He's not respecting your wishes or your space. This goes beyond the normal relationship struggles. It's a fine line, because scammers will often try to get the marriage process started as soon as possible, because people who are more spontaneous (actually an old sales trick) will buy into things and there is some red tape---but on the other hand they are also very patient and will wait months or even years to establish themselves before they leave you. His inflexibility is highly suspicious and he sure seems in a hurry to get to Canada. 4) The fact that you are on this site even asking the question speaks volumes about this relationship. If you really knew this man, you could get a better read on what is going on. It's obvious that you can't fully trust him, and believe me, that's a good thing. This may be your first relationship, but you are farther along in understanding than I was in my first one . Communication is the problem with on-line dating. Even if the person is 100% honest, which basically doesn't happen, the communication you are getting is about 1/3 or less than if you were in person seeing each other. 5) This girlfriend business----Was he seeing someone the same time you were "with him?" And you found out about it over facebook? Is that what happened? Becca, it is quite clear to me that this man is after a VISA. I also think you need to be aware that if he does come to Canada and divorces you, you could still be financially responsible for him. I'm sure this is isn't what you wanted to hear, but on-line dating is loaded with scams. It's a lot easier for a person to lie and cheat without getting caught and in some cases can be dangerous. I did it for over a decade, and there were "women" I was talking to I was sure were men. What you are going through here is actually very common. If you look at some of the other posts, you'll start to see the pattern. Becca, it's important for you to understand these things because if you go through with this, I can practically guarantee it will be one of the worst experiences of your life. I understand how nice it is to have someone who compliments you. Let's face it, North American men are often clueless about compliment a lady. And I have no reason to dispute that you are a special person, but I am very concerned here because it's your first time being seriously romantic and you are already talking about marrying someone you've never met. Situations like these almost never end well. Submitting....
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