dont do it

Submitted by Londoner (United Kingdom), Sep 20, 2012 at 16:08

vow, If I was you I will run as fast as i can.

First, is nice to meet someone online, you talk nicely, BUT you know nothing about him, and I mean nothing. Second, you cannot meet hm in his own environment, for obvious reasons, so you will never know whether he is married with children for real, not what he tells you online, whether he is violent, aggressive, nothing, you know only what he is choosing to show you. second, how can you marry someone you just chat online for 3 months? dont be led by him, be led by you. will you marry a canadian man in 3 months if you never met him? if your best friend will tell you she is planning to marry a man she met online 3 months ago from Iraq, what would you say? yes, go and do it. .I will be your bridesmaid.i dont think so.

finally, as a woman trust your instinct. something is telling you something is not right as otherwise you will not be posting her, also, the fact he says is he is going to be refused visa, he wont marry you, is a HUGE ringing bells, there you got your answer, the aim and purpose of marrying you is Canada, .

finally, i dont know anything about you, but are you feeling vulnerable like have you been single for a long time? or just ended a bad relationship? he maybe sensing you are willing and ready to marry so he is playing with your weakness and desire of getting married to achieve HIS goal of living Canada. The fact he is pushing you for it and not willing to contribute and expecting you to cope with the bill should tell you RUN.

In Islam, men should not use the brides money, they MUST provide for her, he is not fulfilling that, and that should tell you stop chatting with him.

Sorry if it is not what you want to hear, but experience has shown me otherwise. I have seen many broken hearted women , I am a psychologist and I have travelled a lot , so you have a good understanding of what some men from Middle east , i.e. Egypt, Tunisia,...the caribbean i.e. Cuba, Dominican Republic can play on women they perceive as vulnerable to achieve their life dream of a better life in USa, Canada or Europe.

Trust me, you are better off without him,

sorry for spelling mistakes, but I was thinking faster than i can type.

Good luck whatever you decide

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