reply to Anon 1

Submitted by to Anon 1 (United States), Mar 23, 2012 at 23:31

Hello from Florida! I know you are right about everything and I appreciate your taking the time to write to me. It is easier said than done. I still love him even though he has been horrible and deliberately did things to jeopardize our marriage. Just this morning, I found his other American Express credit card in his wallet while he was still sleeping and registered it online to see the activity. Sure enough, not only was he cheating (the statement where he took that girl he met to our special place, which was St. Augustine, Florida, and to St. Petersburg, FL, just like she told me they did. She was telling the truth! DUH! I feel like the world's biggest idiot, but my best girl friend told me that I am enough and he is a fool to do what he did.

I feel very alone right now. He still denied that he was the one who made the calls to this girl and booked the hotel, etc. etc. He blames his male friend. Also, he went to a local nightclub about 8 times and to House of Blues about 6 or 7 times, when all the while I thought he was out with his buddies at another place he told me. I should have hired a private investigator and caught him that way. Believe me, I considered it. What prompted me to check his other credit card was the fact that he took our daughter to an event and I didn't see the charge on the other card. Sure enough, he charged it to his other American Express! He just never thought I would register the card online to be able to see the statements! One of his bar tabs was $92! Can you imagine how many girls he bought drinks for? I was home with our daughter. I never thought that he might be a sociopath. I just think he is too young and immature to be married. He is 32 and I think he didn't realize that marriage means commitment and responsibility and FIDELITY!

You wrote that you are in Morocco. I actually considered going there with him to Fes and allowing his grandmother there to see our daughter, but now I am glad that I am not going to move there. He told me today that he will be on the straight and narrow if we move there! How is living there going to make him faithful? I If anything, he will be in his element and I will not be able to find him and I cannot take our daughter out without his written permission. It would cost quite a bit to move all my furniture. As I said, he signed a pre-nuptial agreement 3 weeks before we got married, thank goodness. All he has are the clothes, the car he paid for, an Apple laptop, and an iPad which I bought for his birthday, but our daughter is keeping that because she likes to watch Caillou on it.

I wouldn't say he is a sociopath, just a liar who thinks he won't get caught. Well, maybe he is. I just think divorce is hard on children and she asked me a few times today, "Where is Daddy?" What am I going to tell her when she is older and asks why we separated? I want her to love him because he loves her. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I am very lucky and glad that I have her....she is beautiful and loving and sweet and precious and I feel like it is Christmas every day when I wake up and see her smiling face. Also, Straight Talk Luigi...I would love your insight. It is 11:27 p.m. now and I miss him! But he is probably out screwing around. He was apologetic about going to Blue Martini and hurting me, but not cheating. DENY DENY DENY!! He was in a snit last week when I told him I was going to drive to Daytona Beach next week and go out to dinner with my girl friend. He thought I was going to wear my new dress and cheat, just like he did! Can you imagine? that is the LAST thing on my mind! I will NEVER trust another man. My problem is that I am pretty much only attracted to that dark Moroccan type. I guess I could get over that. I never go out with the girls and he always does and he was jealous thinking I was going to go out and have other men admire me. Oh, well...this whole thing could go on and on. I am glad it is over!

Bye for now! .

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