Online dating with moroccon men who wants to marry me now - please help

Submitted by Sabrina (United Kingdom), Dec 13, 2009 at 08:56

Hi there,
I met a moroccon guy in Apr 2009 and since then we have been chatting on msn, sharing pictures, webcam etc, he even introduced me to his family on webcam & im so in love with him, totally into him. I am a muslim 24 years brought up in the UK. He has been in the army (they call it NAVY i think) for the past 10 years and now he has given his resignation letter so that we could me together as he told he cannot marry non-morrocon or travel anywhere while he is in the Army.

It is now 9 months we are together and we have talked about marriage, kids etc I have not mentioned anything to my family because they will think he is using me to get in to the UK and may not accept him and i told him that as well and he said, he will do anything to get me, he will come to me, he cannot live without me, he will die for me, JUST LIKE EVER OTHER GUY MENTIONED HERE ON THE SITE! I am totally lost, i dont know if he really loves me or he just wants to get out of the country?? We have discussed about ths issue, men using women for visa, greencard etc, and he said there are many out there sadly who cheat on women and take advantage of them but im not one of them and i love you and only you not for your money and your citizenship.

AND YES! i have sent him money couple of times, i feel like it is every 2/3 months, he asks me to help him out as he has financial problems, on top of that, i send him gifts etc he sends me gifts too, but not as expensive as mine. I feel like he is using me sometimes! & I really hate men who ask women to help them financially, i dont mind helping him but i dont feel good about it for some reason.

As i cannot visit him to morocco because my family will not accept that and i dont want to hurt my family so we have decided that he will look for a way to get him into Europe i.e france where his brother is living or belgium where is sister is or UK visa invitation from me, and we meet and take it from there. i was also thinking, why would he ask me for money, he has a brother/sister who are in Europe working and earning good money and he is also working too, even though he doesnt earn much??

I felt something wasnt going right for me and his love for me was too good to be true...he calls me and
texts me 24/7 - he does anything that make me happy, he is MR PERFECT! I have never met someone like him in my entire life and his love seems real, if he is not a real person, i dont even think real love exists in this world. I started researching about DATING MOROCCO MEN when he asked me for (1) Money, (2) when he says I LOVE YOU, I WILL DIE WITHOUT YOU, I WILL DO ANYTHING FOR YOU, ALL I WANT IS TO BE WTIH YOU, COME TO ME OR I WILL COME TO YOU, WE WILL BE TOGETHER, I WILL NEVER HURT YOU ETC & He wears silver ring on his right finger ??? I asked him why is he wearing, he said, he is wearing for me ?? is he really wearing for me??

I have read so many stories girls/women who have had bad experiences with these guys! I am so worried for my future, they play with womens heart for years ?? i couldnt believe, they will marry you, have kids, and spend years with you and THEN LEAVE YOU ?? Dont they have a heart ?? I am so worried here, i acted so bad with him, how do i know if he is not into my citizen?? how do i know is he is seriously in love with me? How do i know if im the only one he is dating?? Recently, i have realised he chats to others while im online, i can see on webcam and he tells me, it is his brother, it could be ?? what if it is not? Since i read moroccon scam articals i have changed, im so insecure, im not the fun girl i used to be - I feel really bad, i made him think i dont believe him anymore which is true and he is sad i dont trust him....i dont know what to do, any advise would be apreciated. If he is honest about me, and im treating him like this, then i will never be able to forgive myself ;-(

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