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Women in islam: part III: Marriage, Death and afterlife

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Submitted by Margaret (Poland), Nov 7, 2009 at 07:05

Marriage

In Islam, a woman cannot marry without the approval of her 'Walee', that is, the man in charge of her as a father or a brother. Mohammed said, "whichever woman gets married without the approval of her 'Walee', her marriage is abolished" (See: The authentic of Ibn Dawood's collection, Al-Albany, vol. 1 p. 584).

Regarding the wife's status in marriage in Islam, Mohammad says, "If one of you marries a woman or buys a slave, he should say: 'O Allah, I ask you for the good in her, and in the disposition you have given her; I take refuge in you from the evil in her, and in the disposition you have given her.' When he buys a camel, he should take hold of the top of its hump and say the same kind of thing." (See: The authentic of Ibn Dawood' collection, Al-Albani, vol. 1 p. 601).

And also Mohammad says: "If I were to justify a person to prostrate after anybody other than God, I would have commanded the woman to prostrate after her husband. I swear to my lord, a woman cannot fulfill the obligation of her Lord until she has fulfilled the obligation of her husband, and even if he calls her for sex while she is on the back of a camel, she would never refuse him". (See: The authentic of Ibn Dawood' collection, Al-Albani, vol. 2 p.121).

Mohammad said, "Three are there whose prayers do not get any further than their ears. A rebellious slave until he comes back to his owner, a woman who would go to bed and her husband is indignant at her, and the leader of a people that they are loathing to have for a leader." (See: The authentic of Al-Tirmidhi's collection, Al-Albani, vol. 1 p. 209).

Muhammad said, "If any woman asks her husband for divorce without some strong reason, the odor of Paradise will be forbidden to her". (See: The authentic of Ibn Dawood' collection, Al-Albani, vol.2 p.17).

(A video clip from Iqra Channel by Dr. Ghazi Al-Shimari, Saudi expert of family affairs. Translated by Memri TV)

(Ghazi: The prophet said: "If I were to order anybody to bow before anyone, I would order the wife to bow before her husband". The husband's rights are very great. Therefore, according to a reliable Hadith, a woman said: "Oh Prophet of Allah, I will not marry before you tell me what my husband's rights from me are." The prophet said: "Do you really want to know?" she said: "yes". He said: "if pus or blood comes out of your husband's nose and you lick it up, you still will not have observed all his rights". The rights of the husband are great, and a wife must observe them.

(A video clip from Iqra Channel by Sheikh Muhammad Al-Munajid. Translated by Memri TV)

According to Islam, a wife needs to comply with her husband's desires in bed. The prophet Muhammad said: "If a man calls his wife to fulfill his needs. She must come, even if she is by the stove." According to the Al-Tarmizi tradition. The prophet issued a severe warning to any wife who rebels against her husband in bed. The prophet said: "If a man invites his wife to bed and she refuses, and he is angry at her, the angels curse her until she wakes up in the morning."

This tradition was mentioned in the collections of Al-Bukhari and Muslim. God is aware of men's needs. He knows that a man my have just come home, and maybe he desires something or maybe he saw something. He knows what this need is, and this is why he ordered the wife to consent to her husband even if she is by the stove, even if she is baking she must consent to him. Moreover, the prophet Muhammad said to the woman: "Compare yourself to him, he's your paradise and your hell." Imam Ahmad passed this on in his true Hadith. The wife must consent to her husband's wishes and obey him. The wife in the west is not obliged to do so. Moreover, a wife can be raped by her husband there. They claim that if he has sex with her against her will – this is rape!, they consider this rape. They claim she must be willing. They claim that she must want it."

(A video clip from Al-Majd Channel by Sheikh Abdul Aziz Al-Fuzan. Translated by Memri TV)

This is why the prophet said: "When a man calls his wife to fulfill his needs, she must go to him, even if she is busy with the oven". Imagine this: There is fire in the oven, and she wants to bake bread. But even if she's busy with this work that cannot be neglected, when he calls her, she must leave the oven and go to her husband. Another Hadith says: "She must go to him even if she is on the back of a camel". She must go to him even if she is riding.

The Quran permits a man to beat his wife if she did not obey him, or even if he feels that she might not obey him, that is before the disobedience might occur.

(Quran 4:34) ""As to those women on whose part you fear disloyalty, admonish them, and leave them alone in the sleeping-places and beat them".

Ibn Kathir says in his commentary, "meaning, the woman from whom you fear ill conduct with her husband, such as when she acts as if she is above her husband, disobeys him, ignores him, dislikes him, and so forth."

(A video clip from Mercy Channel by Sheikh Al Khatib. Translated by Memri TV)

One of the husband's rights is to discipline his wife if she is disobedient. What does the "disobedience" mean?. Disobedience is to leave the house without the husband's permission, to refuse to obey the husband in bed, to speak to the husband impolitely, or to do the opposite of what he likes. All these are forms of disobedience.

Mohammad said, "Hang the whip up somewhere so that the people of the household might see it; it is discipline to them" (See: The authentic of Al-Jami Al-Sagheer Wa Ziyadatuh, Al-Albani, vol. 2 p. 744).

(A video clip from Qatar TV. Friday sermon. Translated by Memri TV)

(The Koran says: ) "and beat them." This verse is of a wondrous nature. There are three types of women with whom a man cannot live unless he carries a rod on his shoulder. The first type is a woman who was brought up this way. Her parents ask her to go to school and she doesn't – the beat her. "Eat" – "I don't want to" – they beat her. So she became accustomed to beatings, she was brought up that way. We pray Allah will help her husband later. He will only get along with her if he practices wife beating. The second type is a woman who is condescending towards her husband and ignores him. With her, too, only a rod will help. The third type is a twisted woman who will not obey her husband unless he oppresses her, beats her, uses force against her, and overpowers her with his voice.

In Jordan, one of the Arab open countries where they achieved the highest Arab percentage in eliminating illiteracy, a survey conducted by the National Council for Family Affairs in 2002, has revealed that 83% of women have supported man's right to beat his wife if she is found to have done anything that shows her being unfaithful to the husband. 60% of women have voted for the husband's right to beat the wife if she burnt the food in cooking, and 52% have voted for a man's beating his wife if she did not obey his commands. This is what Islam does to women in society.

Death and the Afterlife

In Islam, whoever kills a soul willfully is to be also murdered. The family of the murdered one have the right to give up punishment and ask for the blood money. This compensation could be the judgment in cases of unintentional killing as road accidents. In Islam, the blood money paid for the killing of a woman is half the sum paid for the killing of a man. Imam Shafe'ee (767-820) said, "Be it in old or recent times, I do not know of a verdict except that woman's blood money is half the one of the man" (See his book Al-Om, vol. 7 p. 261).

Ibn Abdul Bar (978-1071) said, "Jurisprudents of Islam have agreed that woman's blood money is half that of a man" (See: Al-Tamhid by Ibn Abd al Bar, vol. 17, p. 358). Al Kasani (died 1191) said, "Woman's blood money is worth half the one of the man, as the companions of the prophet unanimously have established, in that it is related by Omar, Ali and Ibn Masood and Zayd Bin Thabit (companions) that they said in relation to woman's blood money that it is indeed half that of the male. No one among companions objected to them, so it's unanimously agreed. And since a woman in inheritance and testimony is on half merit of the male, so her blood money is on the same status" (See: Bada'ee Al Sana'ee vol. 7 p. 254).

In the Shiite sect, if a woman is murdered and her family asked for the penalty (killing the murderer), they have to pay to the family of the man who committed the murder half of his blood money. Al-Kulainy recorded in Al-Kafi (the first authoritative Hdith collection according to Shiites) (vol. 7 p.299) that Jaafar Al-Sadiq (699-765), one of the 12 Infallible Imams of Shiites, said in relation to a man who murdered his wife on purpose, "If her family wishes to kill him then they have to pay his family half of his blood money. But if they wish, they can take half of the blood money."

After a woman dies, the greater likelihood is that she is going to Hell. Muhammad said as recorded in "Al-Bukhari's authentic" (vol. 1 p. 1), "O women! Give alms, as I have seen that the majority of the inmates of Hell-fire were you (women)." They asked, "Why is it so, O Allah's Apostle ?". He replied, "You curse frequently and are ungrateful to your husbands."

Muhammed also said as recorded in "Muslim's authentic" (vol. 8 p. 88), "Amongst the inmates of Paradise the women would form a minority".

But if she is fortunate and she gets into Paradise she is facing the fact that a man will have in addition to his wives from this world his other wives from paradise, the wide-eyed virgins (Houris). The Quran says (44:54), "and We will wed them with Houris pure, beautiful ones."

Regarding the men of paradise, Mohammad said as recorded in "Al-Bukhari's authentic" (vol. 2 p. 434), "Everyone of them will have two wives".

Moreover, The 'Shaheed' (martyr) is married to 72 virgins of the wide-eyed Houris. Thus says Mohammad. (See: The authentic of Al-Tirmidhi's collection, Al-Albani, vol. 2 p. 240).

But as for a woman, in Paradise, she has none but her husband of the world where she lived previously. The Quran says regarding the wives of these men in paradise, "And with them shall be those who restrain the eyes, having beautiful eyes" (37:48).

Ibn Kathir said in his commentary, "means, chaste females, who will not look at anyone other than their husbands".

And Mohammad also said, "A woman (in paradise) is to the last of her husbands." (See: The collection of authentic Hadith, Al Albany, vol. 3 p. 275). Hudhayfah Bin Al-Yaman, a companion of the Prophet, said to his wife, "If you wish to be my wife in Paradise, don't re-marry after I die, for a woman in paradise is for the last of her husbands, and so Allah has prohibited the wives of the prophet to re-marry after him because they are his wives in paradise too" (See: As-Sunan Al-Kubra, Al-Bayhaqi, vol. 7 p. 111).

This is the story of woman in Islam: injustice and disparagement from the moment of her birth and to no end, even in the alleged Paradise.

Please note - the authors are Arabs from Arab Atheist Network- not me...

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