Robin, about getting divorced

Submitted by Keira (Australia), Sep 5, 2019 at 23:33

Hello Robin,

Wow... I am really sorry to hear that you had such a bad experience even at intimacy, especially because if they are good at something is at bed :( Definitely, things didn't start nice, did they? One more time, be gentle with yourself because when we are in love, we cannot see anything and only want to see the good side of them.

About virginity, oh dear, I could write a very long post! At least, you were lucky and he told you the truth in that subject because what it normally happens is the opposite. They say us all that they are virgins and they want to have their first experience with us. It is another trick to get our hearts. Sometimes, a very few times, it is true, and the weight of the sin worth it because they truly want to keep us in their lives after marriage (in their weird mean way), so I guess that they justify it that way. But, how can we be sure that we are the first ones? What I really think is that they do other things for sure -so they can keep consider themselves virgins- and most of them are porn-addicted. So, yes, "pure men", I wonder, where are they?

I am really sorry to hear that you got that well with his family. Not only did you fall in love with him, but also with them. I am very sorry because when you become a part of their family, the break-up is double hard, especially if you were missing being a part of a family. Their families are really close, so for us becoming a part of them brings us a very warming feeling. However, Robin, there is a great likelihood that they were on the scam too, as I have said, they hardly accept divorced women who have already had kids with another man. Maybe he was planning to bring them to your country after settling himself and that is the reason why they were so nice and kind towards you. Anyway, it doesn't matter now. We will never be able to know for sure. Try not to think of them, as all the relationship was dysfunctional. I know it is hard though.

About your marriage, I replied today to Arisa so I think that that post could help you, too. Did you do the religious marriage, meaning Nikah contract only? If so, the bond with him will be only religious if you haven't registered the marriage according to the laws. This would mean that you are single in your country and that you would have problems only in Morocco if you want to get married in there with any other Moroccan man, which I guess it is exactly what you are looking forward ;) Jokes apart, consult with a lawyer to double-check, but according to my readings, you should be fine. Hopefully, someone here could give you more advise.

What I can tell you is that for him it will not entail any problem to continue to be married as he can marry up to 3 more wives as you already know, so he doesn't need to be divorced at all.

Have a very nice weekend. I hope you are feeling better or at least a little better every day. I am very happy that you are coming here to find support and strength. Keep going!
Love,

Keira

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