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The Truth about Muslim Men

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Submitted by Elizabeth (United States), Nov 5, 2020 at 14:45

I have been following this page since 2017, when I first met a Muslim man. I was 25 and he was 30. I am a devout Christian, born and raised in a small town in Pennsylvania America, I had questions about Muslim men, who they were and only knowing what I saw in the news I went to google to look for answers and I came across this site and always come back to read.

He is from Khyber Pakhtunwa, Pakistan. If many of you do not know what area this is, it has strong ties of sheltering Osama Bin Laden and the people there still consider him highly and great even a martyr. He was born and raised in the Pakhtun Valley, near Afghanistan, studied medicine in China then came to the US on a travel visit visa from his uncle as a sponsor, two months later applied for Asylum. Since China refused to keep him after he finished his studies.

I met him when he worked at a Pizza Shop and I would often eat there. I live at home with my siblings, never married, no boyfriend so after work I would stay there eat and talk. He was always nice and would ask me questions about where to buy this, that, what do I do and I would answer. He was my buddy. Then one day he asked for my phone number because he needed help buying something and we became friends.

In the two years we never had sex nor kissed and in the beginning I told him I was a virgin and never had a boyfriend before, he didn't believe me but after a while and many failed attempts he did and it was something I felt he respected. He never tried to do things with me and never crossed the line. Maybe out of respect or maybe out of pity for me. In the beginning I though maybe he liked me and maybe he wanted to marry me. Maybe if he got to know me he would see I was a normal girl even if I was not Muslim, so we became best friends, texting everyday, walking the park, grocery shopping. After work I would pick him up in my car with my gas. He would always buy me food the days we would meet and put gas in my car. In return I took him everywhere he needed or wanted to go and in return he gave me his company. As I look back now four years later, I see myself being a young girl, raised sheltered and bored out of my mind, I found it exciting, thrilling and just happy to have someone who gave me attention, someone who I could talk to everyday and pretend in my mind that he loved me.

In the past four years - two I spent being friends with him, talking to him daily I learned a lot about Muslims, Islam and Muslim men. The first and most important one is that they Muslims don't care about America, not one bit. 9/11 was a accomplishment for them and to them all American women are trash. If you are not a virgin you are nothing, if you work outside of the home you are nothing. To Muslim men only Muslim women are worth anything. Only Muslim women are respected.

Muslim woman can wear hijab or not, work outside of the home or not, be loud and outspoken or meek and humble. They will justify their behavior and to them only Muslim woman are the clean and the best. In their culture Muslim women have what all other women don't, character, deen and Islam. You can revert to Islam but to them they lose respect for you when you do, you can justify it as you want but you are still a joke to them if you convert to Islam especially for he sake of marriage. Trust me, they don't care about gaining any points in the sights of Allah for a revert.

In America all his friends lie and cheat to young beautiful American women. While they are all married with kids back home. I've heard stories I wish I could write on this blog, ways his friends, cousins have married Asians, Spanish and White women just to divorce them later and marry their own country woman. Many of them are already engaged and the girls, woman back home just wait however long it takes for them to marry, cheat and divorce their American wife for papers. They lie and play a role of strong protective, nurturing husband then leave the first moment they get and feel no remorse. To them they feel this is what is owed to them due to the years of suffering in their country has endured, that America and the UK and Israel have caused them.

In China him and his friends found Chinese virgins at the University to have as girlfriends. They all lied to them and promised to marry them after their studying was over. Those girls dedicated years to them, celebrated birthdays, some grew up so poor never had a birthday cake. None of them kept their promises and after graduation they all left their girlfriends. To this day in 2020 his Chinese girlfriend is still waiting for him to marry her since 2012. She broke off two engagements and almost tried to commit suicide - while he is in America, waiting for his Asylum case while his parents are arranging his marriage to his 11 year old cousin in Pakistan.

That Chinese girl is young, beautiful, educated, comes from a good home and still believes he will marry her and will return to China and bring her to America. While he is married and has a baby in Pakistan. Those men will never bring their wives to this country because life in America for immigrants is hard. They rather cheat, lie and work like slaves in America and built huge homes in their country and their wives stay home as queens with maids with their family. I know this because I've seen his videos and pictures with my own eyes. Their family do not need America, they only need the American money, their country provides enough homes, parks, malls and places for them to live a good life with the money that he earns without paying taxes. He keeps the Chinese girl in a cloud because he needs her for moral support, video and phone sex, (something he will never do with his own wife because it's disgusting) and out of his own selfishness, to fill in the gaps and empty spaces in his life, It's not love. He adores his wife.

In 2015 he was engaged to his 11 year old cousin, they did a big celebration for his engagement despite him not being there and in 2018 when he was finally awarded asylum he went home and married his 15 year old virgin cousin. Trust me age is not an issue, those girls are happy and in their culture it's normal. They go to school and make a big deal out of their marriages. Especially if you are marrying someone with oversees citizenship. He paid $20,000.00 US dollars in total to marry her. Built her a new home, brought her everything new from her hairbrush to shoes, cloths and gold jewelry, so much jewelry, so much real stones, all new furniture, everything. Everything you can possibly think of. They work 12 hours days, 6 days a week in America making $10-15 an hour, they don't pay rent since they live with friends and family, they don't have cars and they don't eat out, they only eat and cook their own foods. Halal Food. They don't pay taxes, earn in cash and don't have expenses. You wouldn't believe the amount of money they send back home when you only have maybe $300 in bills every month.

His Asylum case was a joke, he is lucky he was awarded one. He flirted with the woman and also cried during the interview. He spoke to cousins, friends, people in his mosque and looked up answers and questions and made up a whole lie which he practiced every week for his interview. They help each other in getting Asylum. They have Facebook pages and YouTube videos which you will never find in their own language on how to do this. They come from poor countries, horrible government. To them American Visa is the only way to have a chance at a normal decent life even if they have to lie, cheat and steal along the way.

Islam is not a religion, Islam is a state of mind where they are superior to everyone else and everything they want should be given to them by force if necessary. They carry this mentality in everything they do, in their marriages, how they treat people, even how they do business at a Pizza Shop. They are only nice for their own benefits, then at the end to them you are still considered trash because you are not Muslim and will never be.

The girl who is in a dream with her Government worker from Morocco, just because he is educated and has a Government job still doesn't make a difference. Soon you will know the truth. He will never marry you or respect you, it doesn't matter how pretty or rich you may be. Know that he is married and if he is not trust me he will be engaged soon to a young 21-26 year old virgin from his country.

Two years ago I went on a retreat with my church and when I came back I cut all ties with him, I felt God telling me to stop being friend with him even before I left. When I came back I told him I was engaged and stopped answering his calls. He would sit outside my house, call me non stop. Send me photos of his wife and baby, begged me to help him, told me he missed me, that he was depressed everything. I never spoke to him again.

He never hurt me or lied to me but he opened my eyes to the truth and he always told me to never to marry a Muslim man to marry someone from my own religion, from my country. He himself told me this, Muslim men belong with Muslim women and Islam is not a religion it's a way of life.

Good luck ladies, God bless us all.

Also just a side note for some of the women who are hurting. Take care of yourself, love yourself, take advantage of your freedom our great Country has to offer, find peace within your lives and homes, seek therapy if you must, join a good church or synagogue, and live your life fully. Dedicate time to yourself, save up your money and travel, read new books, find a hobby, explore your State or town, eat delicious foods, spend your hard earned money on yourself, buy your own jewelry, your own cloths your own expensive car. Give yourself that love your gave them, buy yourself what you brought for them. Go back to school, get a degree a new job, live YOUR OWN life as you want it to. These are the things their women don't have, freedom and a peace of mind. These are the things the women who came before us fought so hard for. Don't let anyone take away your dignity and your God given rights. Be happy. Stay blessed.


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