Questions

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Feb 24, 2019 at 00:14

Hi Sid:

Welcome.

The first question that always comes to my mind is if your relationship/marriage is so great, why are you searching for this stuff on-line and why are you on this forum?

The points about using a broad brush to describe individual cases rings true. Since you are on here, if you do read through the 12 years of stories, you'll find a couple of things:

1) Most of what happens has little to do with Islam. Sure, you'll find the jihadi idealist who wants to spite his enemies to marry his women and use her womb yada yada. But really, it's more about marriage and money scams and when you get beyond that huge hurdle, it becomes about meeting people from other countries whose culture is vastly different over the internet or on vacation. We're talking about people who jump at the first message they get from a stranger not just on a dating site, but on Facebook.

2) A lot of women who post here are in vulnerable situations. Recently divorced, lived with a partner for 10 years who wouldn't commit, ect. There was a time when some of the women who posted on here haven't dated since before the internet. So you can imagine their susceptibility to an on-line scam.

3) You can take pretty much any story on here, replace the words "Muslim man" with "Russian/Brazlian woman" and woman with man and the basics would be true. If you throw out Craigslist, these little escapades have actually proven more dangerous for Western men from I've seen.

So I think overall what you will find are just people who are hurting because they've already been betrayed by someone close to home and it's out of the frying pan into the fire. So yeah, you'll read about how they'll never date Muslim, Moroccan, Egyptian men again ect. But it's just hurt women throwing in a few adjectives on a specific forum to give the "men are just liars" a personal flavour.

As far as the good Muslim men/women, they don't need Facebook or a Western dating site to find a partner. That's also why you don't find them on here complaining....too busy with their own lives to care what internet strangers from other countries think.

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