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The nikah trap, the minority rule and the lack of equity in inheritance

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Submitted by A very concerned reader (Australia), Apr 30, 2021 at 04:33

Dear Prashant,

You nailed it again. Yes, there's no way back once the so-called nikah is done, even if one is allowed to remain in their religion, which is just a trick as I will explain shortly, children will be Muslim from day one they're conceived.

The mothers are told to read the Qur'an to their babies when still in the womb. This is Sunnah, and so is it explained in the Hadiths. As soon as they're born, an elder member of the family (a male, of course, because females are not allowed to lead any religious prayer, not even in their own house) will call the adhan in the baby's ears. He will put a chewed date in their mouth. And voilĂ , we have another Muslim, even if the mother wasn't Muslim, which means a double reward for the fortunate father.

Now, Prashant, let me tell you what the trick is about although I know you already are aware of it but let's write it down in hopes that many other concerned readers reach these posts.

Women end up converting because of various reasons. The first one is that they're deceived by their charming Muslim groom who, at the beginning of the relationship, claimed that she could keep her faith. But from the moment that the nikah is signed, the husband has all the rights over his woman. The pressure is suffocating, regardless of what the Qu'ran says about no compulsion in religion, etc. As the head of the household, he has the religious obligation to lead his family into the Islamic faith. It doesn't matter if she is Christian or whatever religion: she will have to obey her man, no matter what, whether she likes it or not. For the sake of love, and because our educational system has taught us to be tolerant and flexible, many decide to give it a go, thinking that it wouldn't entail any risk. In the end, didn't they tell us that love would conquer all? Let's continue. Also, the man's family pressure is immense. And once there are kids, mothers have to pass their knowledge to their offspring because they are in charge of raising the kids, and raising kids means teaching them Islam. How could she do this if she is not Muslim? Let's not forget either that men are above women to supervise that she is complying with their obligation. Finally, the most relevant reason is that converting to Islam is the only way in which that poor woman who entered into that marriage for love could survive in that charade.

In a nutshell, it's a sham marriage from the get-go because many women are told that they won't need to convert. But once they have signed the contract, they become their husbands' possessions for their pleasure and enjoyment. Yes, the trick works very well. And Muslims have Surat An-Nisa to support their rights.

You're very right when you say that no country become Muslim because of spiritual reasons. Not even when is spread by love jihad. It is enforcing Islam even in marriages as demonstrated! And no, it is not that Allah had the great and merciful idea of removing the blindfolds of those poor kuffars, so now they can see! No! This religion lacks spirituality since it's built upon thousands of rules that control your every move. Being spiritual entails both love and free-thinking. Two things that just cannot fit into Islam. And both are the root of creativity too, and we have been discussing that Islam kills every creative feeling in the believers since they are not allowed to express themselves freely and use instruments or their own voices to convey their feelings creatively. And as I said earlier, creativity is the soul of civilisations. No. No country can agree with this forced transformation. It is impossible.

Interfaith marriages involving Islam have one goal, and this is to expanding this religion through an apparently peaceful and beautiful mean. Nothing further from the truth. Some scars are too deep even to be mentioned. Thanks to Daniel Pipes, we know some of the side effects that these relationships left behind. The thousand of stories narrated by brave women who married or almost married a Muslim man are the best proof to exemplify what we're talking about. And unfortunately, there's no consciousness of this apart from this forum and a few articles that one needs to scratch to find them. And this is because it sounds so politically incorrect to denounce this, that nobody dares to do so. On the contrary, in our countries we allow the adhan through loudspeakers, popular Western clothing brands promote the hijab on their catalogues and is worn by manikins as it were completely normal, and if you want a taco from the best Mexican fast-food place, you will have to eat a halal one, even the franchise is not Muslim-owned! It's the minority rule that Dhimmi No More was talking about.

Well, I don't know how things are in regards to food in the United States, but here in Australia, there are already numerous fast-food chains that only serve halal food and are not Muslim-related. The exception became the rule for everyone. Mind that these restaurants weren't halal a few years ago.

Last but not least, you talk about inheritance Islamic laws. I am sure that Dhimmi No More will post the tafsirs related to it, but I investigated at its time as well about this topic and the explanation is as shamelessly selfish as the marriage laws and the whole beliefs system. By heart, I think that this topic is touched in, of course, Surat An-Nisa, Surat Al-Baqarah and Surat Al-Maidah.

The excuse is that females inherit less than their male siblings because they will share the inheritance of their husbands by taking advantage of their inherited properties/wealth. So all in all, they will sum the same as men one day. Only that what her husband owns won't be hers. Think of her children to find out. Also, what if a woman decides to not get married? Or in the unlikely event that she can get divorced? Muslimahs who get divorced, only take from the marriage the dowry that the grooms paid for them at the moment they signed the nikah. This is what Shari'ah states. Another way in which women have to submit to men if they want to survive because life without being in charge of a man is next to impossible according to Islam. Keep in mind that many of these women lack studies, or just study a few years until they get married and that's all. In the end, they were raised just to get married. They aren't allowed to work on the majority of the occasions so, if they leave the marriage, how many chances do you think that they will have to make it?

For sure, this topic is endless and needs to be addressed. Your point is very good, Prashant. And thank you as well Dhimmi No more for rescuing that interesting post of yours. Thank you both for your posts. I love to read them. You have a very clear understanding of this concerning problem. You help me remind myself every day why I left running, not walking, from it and why I feel so grateful for having done so. Thank you.

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