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Reader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men
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Submitted by Hope UK (United Kingdom), Jan 26, 2020 at 18:27

Hey I can only talk from my own experience and some others on here. There are good and bad people everywhere irrespective of their nationality, religion etc. My ex's family all knew me and treated me very well but it was because one of theirs was supposedly going to make good. Oscar performers and of course if you ask the man if he is genuine he is not going to say No! I am a VISA GEEZER!!!! or I am using your money to fund my family / wife / kids. My ex never asked for money and I would never have provided it in that respect for the likes of phones, laptops, money for a sick relative in hospital (all known things) etc etc etc. I would say in your situation and others when they do this that it is a definite red flag. Love does not really come into their hook ups / arranged marriages - see Lina and Jordana's comments. I attended a few meetings between potential bride and groom families and found it very distasteful. It is all about status and of course money. MONEY rules and talks. Sad really. If it helps my ex tried to come back - they go or you get rid of them and suddenly they reappear from nowhere as if nothing has happened and want / expect to pick up from where you / they left off. It is incredible really. I laugh so much about this now - as if! "Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me". I know my ex is not in a great position but I believe in Karma - it has kicked in and he deserves everything he gets or more to the point, doesn't get in life. He means nothing to me now and I believe I had a lucky escape, truly. I read lots of info before I did what I did (unfortunately I only found this website after the event) - it is very hard because some of these relationships / marriages do work (albeit with problems because of cultural differences, it is not easy) and so it is not fair on the genuine good ones BUT you can read good stories and bad and end up where you are - confused wanting to believe but having that gut feeling. I say go with the gut all the time, perhaps I didn't or should I say I know I didn't. There is always hope though isn't there? I took a risk and it was a risk - I lost, however we learn and become stronger. If you doubt this man the only thing you can do is detach yourself completely from him and go NO CONTACT because he will persevere and convince you that any doubts you have are wrong. It is very clever stuff, they are well trained. As I said before good luck............If I was to advise you honestly I think you know what I would say - run! Spare the heartbreak and stress. Protect yourself.

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