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Reader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men
in response to reader comment: A mix of fear, convenience, jealousy and pride: women's role in Islam

Submitted by N and S (Germany), Feb 18, 2021 at 13:06

Hi, sorry for writing so late. I havent read all of your post because there are so many post recently and I come here sometimes. But i will find them and read all
I am getting slowly better, dear you!:) but not completely. You r right. Those muslim men, they have tatics and they know how to manipulate to achieve what they want. Many times, my friend also told me that I was crazy and was totally brainwashed by him.
I believed what he said, everything. After many clear mistakes, I still trust him. No idea why? Sometimes I feel scared also. He's not my first love. I did also experience bad guys ( also the father of daughter ) and I did overcome but with that Egyptian Muslim guy, it's much much much more difficult.
How can I explain? Like a drug.
I knew this forum at the end of 2019 when he flew home and secretly got engaged. But I failed to stop me and him.Many times I left, he pulled me back... I did what he wanted like his "small pet"
I did go to some family counseling place or telephone counseling for women, but it did not help. They just said, that I should let go, move on and that luckily we dont have children together. If he keeps disturbing, let the police know...and that it is quite often with such Muslim guys but if I couldn't handle and understand, let it go and give myself time to accept....

You know, there are some invisible things that they don't see. That guy oneside use my weakness to attack me, make me love him deeply and then control me. He did many bad things openly with no fear, and me and his wife stupidly accepted. His wife, that woman didn't even listen to me one words. She gave all mistakes on me and my daughter and did anything to protect her/him/the marriage. And the end, they both said, her husband/he needed me only for physical contact. How bitter! After 2 years, which he insisted he loves me and my small daughter deep in his blood....turns out to be an object.
I know when I react against his lies and wanted to make things clear for me, they wanted to break me down, make me lose my face, said I am mad... threaten me with my paper...(I moved here only 8 years and still working on the residence paper). What else they can do? And why? A break up in peace in so difficult for them??

From what reasons they treat people not from their religion like this?... I ask myself?? Is it written in their bible books? LoL

You are also right... I did think he was a most gentle and romantic creature...who understand me more than myself. And that makes me more than scared when I realize maybe he never exists.
I tried to distract myself also by the time with my daughter,working, exercising...but still... some moment all the memories come back strongly like a storm and then a thousand questions why!

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