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They don't tend to divorce. They collect women...

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Submitted by Keira (Australia), Aug 27, 2019 at 14:38

Dear Jessica,

I'm so sorry to hear your story... I wish that every woman who is in doubts about these predators read forums like this one before starting dating. Saving girls from this shocking pain is my goal now and my own way to heal. Because after these relationships, something gets so harshly broken. To my surprise, I didn't cry a tear when I definitely kick out my stupid boyfriend. He had left me so many times blocked applying his silent treatment that I got immunized to it. Actually, I felt very happy because I know I was kicking him out for good. In just seconds, all my anxiety faded away. However, I know he will find a way to come back. But be sure I'll be ready

However, I know he will come back. And do you know why I know, Jessica? Because they COLLECT women. These men don't get divorced, unless you're a mean to get the desired PR or citizenship and his family is whether aware of the scam, so they allow him to get divorced or they family never had news of this very convenient marriage and think that they're son made it on his own. Proud parents!!!!

It is very rare they do even if their wives are far away to their expectations. In the majority of these countries,divorce is considered a scourge. That's why the families will never allow their kings to marry a divorcee or single mother.

Reputation is crucial and their mothers pick the brides by keeping in mind if they're pious, have cooking and sewing skills, and the family has a good reputation, to name a few. They don't care about the whims of their sons. Love is not what lead these 2 persons to marriage but interest, reputation, money, business. Whatever you want to call it.

So if they're single once they reach their 30's, all of them come back to their countries. They always pretend the same: cousin's wedding o parent in sickness. They sign the nikah contract and then they next duty to comply with their families is making babies. And preferably sons, please!, because they will be in charge of them once they get old.

We women, as I'm repeating every day, are considered less than second class citizens, from the moment we are born (less sacrificed animals than for male babies born).

So after this, they come back to our countries and some of them will tell the truth soon whereas others will remain silent. They are the best at keeping secrets. You could never believe the things that they can hide from you. Like constantly messaging you day and night while they are talking or even living with another woman. Others will eventually tell the truth. Then it's too late for you to go away because some women already have had kids or just got stuck with their lives. They happily offer polygamous as a perfect way to keep you in their lives. Even if you reject this very enticing proposal (it is every girl dream to be a second, third or fourth wife, of course!), they won't disappear as they expect to keep visiting you as much as they like. In short, a lovers relationship... They do this because they really believe we cannot live without them. And to a certain extent, it's true because they nail their job and make us dependent on them, mould us and shut our mouths whenever they want until we are reduced to ashes. No value. Thank God we are grown through these dysfunctional relationships!

In short, Jessica, they never dishonor their families and normally keep these arranged marriages as they're very ingrained in their blood and in their culture. In regards to their intentions towards us, there are many as Lina has said. Frequently, it's the visa one, others is for fun... We shouldn't forget how much sexually frustrated these men are. But they will say that they want to keep us in the name of love. Nothing further from the truth. They collect us, use us and discard when they're done.

Please, be patient with yourself. It must have been very hard to come here and tell your story. This tells me that you're very brave and that you'll overcome this. Thanks for sharing this, although must have been very painful to open your heart. Posting our stories will make some women out there think more than twice before allowing these psychopaths into their lives.

Time heals... lot of love from here.

Keira

P.S. Always surprise me how verbally abusive these men can be, disrespecting us so easily when at the beginning of the relationships they all claim that Islam teaches them how they have to treat a woman, how much respected she is thanks to the Qur'an teachings, that if they're so charming and nice towards women is thanks to following the example of their beloved Muhammad... It couldn't be sicker... those words of this man to you at Starbucks... :(

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