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He wants a visa and you are the ticket

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Submitted by Chelsea, Jan 28, 2018 at 19:01

Look here now. You may look good at 43. But you won't look good after he is finished with you. I just am gonna tell it like it is. I have seen so many women damaged by these narcissistic men and I am here to help not to give you a feel good message.

You are much much older than him. He will want children at some point. Let me just tell you that if you go down the immigration road, you will be wasting time from YOUR life waiting and wondering what he is doing while waiting. You will have to have a domicile in your country meaning that you have status and a home in your native country. Then if he is granted an interview.....he may not even be granted a visa.

I see you are from the UK. Since I have been screwed over by one of these men and BTW I was older and looked younger too....you only get older and more stressed with their demands AND age does make a difference. I ended up in the hospital, working to get his immigration done, starving myself.....for what?? A cheater, liar, user, manipulator and one who could not EVEN sit up with me for ONE night during my emotional pain. I do not care about the money.....but time can NEVER be gotten back. Had I not stopped my affidavit of support for this creep.....he would have taken the rest of me and probably would have brought over all the family on my actions to get him to my country. Looking younger is one thing but the stress you will go through will age you more. When I got out of the hospital I found him cheating online again. I was stupid and hanging on every sweet word he said to me and they are experts at sweet words....man oh man....all the while he ...like yours....had several facebook accounts with women claiming he had to have accounts for candy crush.

Do yourself a HUGE favor. Drop this dude. And why do you have to pay anything for this creep if he lost his job. So what?? He does not care for you. Are there not any women in his country?? Sure there are....he probably is already promised to his cousin. Wake up and LOVE yourself. Don't fall for their BS.

They do not know how to love and therefore are not worth a SECOND of your time if you have a heart of gold. And please don't be sucked into going back and marrying him....even if you meet his family...they are in on it too.

Sure they are gonna treat you good when you are with them....because they want something from you. And they are out to achieve this goal no matter what the cost to your health, finances, and heartache.

If you should go through with this....even go back and perhaps marry him God forbid. You will be so worn out by their demands and immigration demands that you will feel much older than 43 and will have no energy to even continue to enjoy life....with or without him.

It basically comes down to this.....it is either him or you. Choose wisely because this is YOUR LIFE. Don't play with it. Choose yourself and let him marry one of his own. And you while you still feel good and look good at 43 find a man that will be real in your country that you do not have to buy. Love is not for sale.

Be forewarned also that these men are emotional manipulators and they will guilt you when you pull away and they are quite clever at it. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO SAVE THIS MAN. Take care of number one and that is YOU. Go NO CONTACT. But be prepared for the honey to drip from his mouth. Block him every time he contacts you from a different account.

Walk away with your dignity, self esteem and life still in order. You are worth more than this.

It has taken me over 2 years to get over the betrayal. I am not bitter and I am so thankful I pulled my support just in time before the interview....otherwise I would not be sitting here now telling you all this. I would probably be 6 ft under. Dump him.

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