3 readers online now  |  69 million page views

A heartless Egyptian student

Reader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men

Submitted by N and S (Germany), Jun 7, 2020 at 10:27

Hi everyone from this forum,
after many days of crying, I took all courages to write me story. I am a Vietnamese, 34 with a small daughter living in Germany. I got to know an Egyptian student from my mini job. He is 2 years younger than me. We were talking together and when I added many co-workers from facebook, I sent him also a friend request.
We got to know each other and I had to accept he is a charming, smart and kind ( til the nightmare happened)
I love him with all my heart, like never love someone before cause he was just different. My daughter loves him too.
We continued out relationship til 9 months later when he lied me he had to fly back home for his sick sister. I rushed to buy him some souvenirs cause he said he didnot have time. Then, he got engaged during 2 weeks shortly in Egpyt. HIs fiancee is a dentist, 10 years old younger than me and was divorced before !
when he came back to Germany, he convinced he, even cried a lot that he never loves her, that He only loves me and that s what his family wants. He said, engagement doesnt mean marriage and he s not sure about that. He maybe not marry her anymore.
He convinces me to stay. Many times I walked away, he pulled me back. He came to my work, to my daughers kindergarten, he lied he got accident in the labor, or said he would fly home.
Yes I have to admit, its also my fault to let him back. But why?? I did really love him and he also told me and acted which made I believe him.

We continued more than 10 months. One day, I felt something wrong, I took all courages to wirte that girl on instagram and told her if she'knows him well and if she knows what he s doing in Germany. she Said she is his wife!!! officially wife!
And she asked me for proofs from my story. But as women with women, I did not want to hurt her. I refused. and I came to his working place to wait for him and asked if there was a misunderstanding. when he finished his work, he came directly to Police which is next to the supermarkt and told them I disturbed him. Of course the police didnot do anything to me. So. Now he turned to another person.
He said to his wife, he never know me and that I am also one girl which he had to booty call and I wanted to more from him. And that I am an old woman which can not find anyone and had to get stick to him and that I AM CRAZY.

I got crazy after that, I sent his wife all the evidence, our fotos, chats...I just couldnot control myself from his heartless lies. She turned to be a super crazy jealous girl, she insult me that I am a slut, a dog which her husband paid money to sleep with. But I wanted more and followed him that he had to call the police.

He told every of his friends also the same ( maybe to convince her for him) NO idea if he loves her or nor or just afraid he lost money for her and pressure from family. I became a crazy woman in his friends eyes.
I was depressed, calling women hot line in Germany many times just for crying and telling the story and feeling really afraid. He even threatened me to make my paper ( I applied for German Pass recently) more difficult
After 5 days since the last talk with his wife, I tried to call him. I just wanted to end but no bad words, bad story about me to any of his friends, our mutual co-workers. He trapped me by taking once the call, saying some bad words, makes me pissed off and close the line. I just had no ideas at that time. I tried to call him back many times. Then once again, he went to the police and told them I disturbed him.
Oh, police with deal with such childish things? of course not! BUt he took all that action to his friend and voice to his wife.....

So our story ending like this. When I became a slut, a crazy, an old woman who tried to cling with a student and tried to destroy his family ( with a younger dentist) He said, he only needed me for sex, for fun ( FOR !( MONTHS) and that I am not sexy enough, high eduacated enough ( I finished my study in Vietnam but since I move to Germany I only work in restaurants from the family) And His wife believes I am a SLUT, someone he knows from Tinder but I wanted more.
And I can not explain, and with whom should I explain.

Why do such people make Islam and their culture become ugly and digusting like this?
My heart is just broken , I cried almost everyday when things change 180 degree in a week....And what HE DID TO turn me to a crazy woman which makes I AM REALLY AFRAID.
THAT even when I went on the street when I see someone looking similar to him, my heart just bounce out of my chest like I see a ghost....

Submitting....

Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. Reasoned disagreement is welcome but not comments that are scurrilous, off-topic, commercial, disparaging religions, or otherwise inappropriate. For complete regulations, see the "Guidelines for Reader Comments".

Comment on this item

Mark my comment as a response to A heartless Egyptian student by N and S

Email me if someone replies to my comment

Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. Reasoned disagreement is welcome but not comments that are scurrilous, off-topic, commercial, disparaging religions, or otherwise inappropriate. For complete regulations, see the "Guidelines for Reader Comments".

See recent outstanding comments.

Follow Daniel Pipes

Facebook   Twitter   RSS   Join Mailing List
eXTReMe Tracker

All materials by Daniel Pipes on this site: © 1968-2020 Daniel Pipes. daniel.pipes@gmail.com and @DanielPipes

Support Daniel Pipes' work with a tax-deductible donation to the Middle East Forum.Daniel J. Pipes

(The MEF is a publicly supported, nonprofit organization under section 501(c)3 of the Internal Revenue Code.

Contributions are tax deductible to the full extent allowed by law. Tax-ID 23-774-9796, approved Apr. 27, 1998.

For more information, view our IRS letter of determination.)