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The ideal woman

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Submitted by Lina (United Kingdom), Dec 20, 2019 at 19:37

It always puzzles me when women claim to be Muslim and feminist. My general attitude is live and let live, and if it works for you then that's great, but the concept of feminism in Islam is absurd. Quite frankly, Islam is a man's religion tailored to benefit men first and foremost. Yes, the more fortunate Muslim women (married officially or temporarily) can receive vast amounts of wealth and benefits, but it's usually at the price of their free agency. Yes, there are Muslim women that choose to ditch the hijab but I'm sure they are questioned and scrutinised.

Feminism means gender equality. In Islam the only thing women are in control of is the house, and even then they're often confined to it so it's a kind of false freedom. Essentially, a female is an object, of either lust or honour.

Although, yes, all Muslim men are all different and have different tastes - I've observed that the "model" woman of a Muslim man is:

1.) Docile and never complaining - preferably a lot younger and malleable

2.) Fully shaven, fertile and blemish free

3.) Always sexually available

4.) Friendless and devoted to him and the housework only

5.) Whatever he wants you to be at that time

So basically most guy's wet dream, and one step up from being a Stepford wife. Once you start to age you'll go from being the perfect doll to a matriarch with a bit more control, and this is when you'll start criticising your son's romantic decisions.

Coming from a Christian background, I wasn't initially that hesistant to enter into a relationship with a Muslim man, reason being the Bible also teaches women to be obedient and devotional. However, I think one of the reasons why a lot of these relationships fail (aside from the financial conning) is that we as women could see ourselves giving our all... and getting nothing back. I saw that as a non-muslim woman your all is never enough. While my belief was that, yes, a woman (wife) submits (is faithful) and in return the man gives her the world (and is also faithful/monogamous).... all I got was a ton of double standards.....

Submitting....

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