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In an ideal world

Reader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men
in response to reader comment: You Cannot Just Blaim the Muslim Men For the Tragedies Here

Submitted by Lina (United Kingdom), Nov 25, 2019 at 04:30

How's that for victim blaming...

In an ideal world, Natalia, we would go along like emotionless robots, incapable of falling in love with what could be the wrong person. In an ideal world there would be no divorces or broken families... women wouldn't be killed for loving someone from a different tribe. Everyone would stick to their own ethnic groups and live a textbook life on the straight and narrow.

But that's just not how life works. While I agree that the culture is completely different; and that "dating" a man over five (or worse ten) years younger is a bad idea - a lot of these men will initially present themselves as "modern" and tolerant, or even non practising. These men are not approaching us in skullcaps and thobes. Now take a woman that's non judgmental, ignorant of the culture, perhaps a little vulnerable for whatever reason... she's going to lap his words right up. And love for a woman is like water to a flower.

There is nothing wrong with giving your love to the wrong person. You are not to blame and you are deserving of love, disregarding how old you are. You have to remember the main difference, which is a lot of the women on here have been raised to view love as unconditional. Whereas these excuses for men have a condition attached to everything, and don't forget a price tag and a ton of double standards thrown in.

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