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Kurdi mena man /I still have a soft spot for him

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Submitted by sabrina Australia (Australia), Oct 6, 2018 at 03:09

They make one feel so so special at first.I felt encouraged to keep contact and got really really hooked on his drama.Then a big verbal fight. I stated you are way to young for me. He kept so convincingly assuring me he does not care. Love can overcome anything,,..blah blah blah.Then he deliberately showed me how he can get other ladies, because he is so hard to resist.There was no communication for a while. I got so bloody jealous and said who is that? Do you have a new girl?He said no new girl..I said how are you?. Can we stay friends at least? He said why? I said because I care.He said I love you so so much I will stay with you for ever. I was so happy (stupid).Then he said he missed me so much and he wants to see me. He said do you love me too? I said:You are everything to me. Then I said when are you coming to visit? Then he replied no money. Can you buy ticket? .....The heart was sinking big time, And total awakening felt in that moment. outch,.(How stupid was I?)At some point I asked him can we both save money for ticket. He replied he has no job or money. When I was still so in love, oh god I cant believe I felt that, I offered maybe I can get a ticket and is he able to fly with only one eye? as I was not sure how it affected him in general.?Then he said he would feel I try to buy him. He did not want to be bought with money. what?Probably because I told him I was reading a lot about kurdish culture and his religion. I think he then realized that I educated myself and he changed his tactic, as good muslim men do not take money from a respected woman.Therefore he started asking me to come to his place and get married in Kurdistan,. So sad he was and always said I love you I love you. I think later on I felt more sorry for him because he lost one eye. It appears from a blow up in those troubled areas in North Iraq. Its a mixture of feeling so excited, and some people here on the forum called it excotic, and maybe knowing they are so miserable with their life or situation that makes one so exposed and vulnerable, to wanting to save them at first.The nerve they actually have to tell you they love you so much,They really have absolutely nothing to loose and go for all or nothing. However they seem to be so stupid or is it arrogance that they totally f... up their chance for being believable. I still blows my mind often when I think about it. I can not believe I ended up so addicted to him for a while.Just still shaking my head over this. Luckily I am not a brave saver who would travel alone to the Middle East.Not in my dreams would I ever have thought I even consider this silly dangerous move. Absolute dangerous move for e v e r y woman who considers to travel alone to those countries to meet a stranger to marry. Are you kidding. Do not do it.My friend works at a travel agency told me there was a lady asking to book a flight to P a k i s t a n. My friend told her she can not do it as it is not save there and can not take responsibility if something would happen to that traveling lady. She did not sell her a flight. We hoped that she would not go somewhere else, where they do not care. As Pakistan is not considered safe.
You will get over the pain as these lovely ladies on this forum have experienced before. Listen to them.
Stay save. Best wishes.I think this is the last time I am rambling about the kurdish man.Have a great weekend.Feels so good to get it out....

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