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VISA APPROVED TO GO TO ALGERIA 8/2018

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Submitted by Jackie, Jul 27, 2018 at 14:40

Good day Chelsea:

I appreciate all your kind words and tough love, really I do. I know in my heart this is truly just a fantasy and for whatever reason I go from being angry with myself to angry with him to happy with myself to happy with him, well knowing this is not "love".

As I mentioned when we found one another, I believe we were both "lost" and "found" one another in the comfort of knowing someone was thinking of you and maybe even cared for a while. I have not mentioned his age because everyone would judge the situation and I feel sorry for him more than anything and scared for him as well.

Yesterday, I found out he quit working the family business which is in his home and his father has warned him repeatedly he will be kicked out if he does not contribute and continue to come home late, well knowing this to be true because his father kicked out his brother and his wife and children two weeks ago.

Today, he tells me he has a new job and will be working in a hotel during the early morning hours. I do not know if any of this to be true, but my VISA was approved to go along with the plane tickets and hotel. I will be there during EID so there will be very little transportation for me to travel and that is okay. He stated he will be there waiting for me in the airport and go directly to his family's home which is 4 hours North of Algiers. I explained to him that I will have a 16 hour flight and will need to shower and rest before traveling 4 hours to his family. I expressed to him that he can have his own hotel room so we can have an opportunity to meet one another and talk.

He asked if I would marry him and I stated that I want to meet first and we will go from there. He seemed to be okay with this, but I fear going to his family's home because the US.gov travel advises not to go 50 miles away from the embassy. I will make my determination at that time if I will ever leave the hotel.

I expressed to him today there are immigration laws and marriage fraud is a very big deal right now and I am in no way going to marry you in 48 hours I land off the plane! To the best of my knowledge there is no record of prior marriages in Algeria so all I can do is take his word for it. I found several different accounts on Facebook for him and found he announced he was getting married and having a baby. He has U Tube Videos of a child who is around that age. Once again, I asked and he denied and stated it was his niece, but I have never seen the "mother" in any of the video chats we have had whatsoever. I have only seen his mother and his sister and brothers....no wives of his brother's!

Once again, I want him to look me in the face and tell me the truth as the truth always prevails. I must know for sure because there is a small space in my heart that believes he is telling the truth and the other is just his desperation to leave Algeria and to me that is so so very sad.

I will refuse to risk my life for someone who can lie to my face so my plan will be to just leave immediately and go to the airport on stand by if necessary. I have another friend in Morocco who is waiting for me and can spend $98 or so to fly from Algiers to Morocco if necessary just to leave the situation. He does not know my plan is to never leave the hotel.

I agree that his family is in on this because during the video chatting he goes "live" while cooking and he announces to his mom who is watching in Arabic or French which I do not understand but trying desperately to learn. Yes, of course he is questioned about these other woman by me and he tells me that he has 4,000 follower's on face book and in a theatre group!

I continue to hope I am safe and return with just an adventure story. However, I will prepare for the worst case scenario, but my goal is to know once and for all if he is pure evil or just a desperate soul looking for a way out of a third world country and is just not safe.

In conclusion, yes this will most likely be a lesson not a blessing and unfortunately, it is the hard way to check my ego and my pride at the door as I do everything the hard way, unfortunately.

Rarely, does his actions matched his words and he plays on my emotions. Of late, I have been more concerned of his safety when I should be concerned about mine. Still thinking I will be okay....25 days until I leave.....hard to back out of it now.

Submitting....

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