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You MUST be vigilant and careful!Reader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by SoonToBeExpat (United States), Aug 21, 2016 at 16:20 I am a thirty-something year old American woman. I am beginning extensive planning right now to visit Egypt, namely Cairo, for a month. It will be a month long visit and tour of the entire country. My dream began several months ago right before my teenage son graduated high school. He is my only child and I am divorced and since he is going to college this Fall and embarking on life for himself...I want to follow my dreams and part of that is travelling now that I've raised him. I have done EXTENSIVE research (including reading forums like this) over the past several months and I don't even plan to travel to Egypt until this time next year. Maaaaaybe a few months earlier. Recently, about two months ago, I met an Egyptian man online via a website and we have become quite close. Never have I not been aware at all times of any red flags. When they arise, I question them. Does that mean that I can not be possibly scammed or scam attempted? No way. It can happen to anyone. This man has not professed his love for me and neither have I but we agree that we are enjoying getting to know each other. We video quite a bit via Google and Skype but that's pretty much the extent of our online contact. No Facebook or anything which is fine with me. I actually am a freelance writer and have a blog and have an extensive social media network. Apparently he does not and if he does then so be it. He has not asked me for money. Does that mean that it won't happen? No. I don't think it will though. I wouldn't give it under any circumstance anyway. I have been learning Arabic via Skype for three months now as well. I've become very close with my tutor and she has become an amazing friend. If I have any questions she is always willing to answer them. That's why you MUST ask questions (like you are doing here, although your post sounds as if you are trying to rationalize what is obviously a one sided relationship) and you MUST question anything that seems out of the ordinary. If your Romeo has a problem with that or goes to great lengths to reassure you that you are wrong and your friends are wrong and discourages you from asking questions of him then that is HUGE red flag in itself. Now, I've also met and friended two men: one form Saudi Arabia and one from Tunisia. Both have expressed their love for me within the first few messages exchanged. I have told them that no, they don't love me, they don't even know me therefor that is not an acceptable feeling to have for me. One I am on the verge of blocking. The other one has requested my help in perfecting his English which I have no problem helping him with. I have offered to send him links on how he can obtain Visas to the US in a LEGAL way and not through me. You see? You have to see these signs and not let your loneliness in life get in the way. Would I like a man to tell me all the things I want to hear? Like "You're so beautiful," and "We'll have a wonderful life together, just do ________ or _________"? Yes of course but only from someone I've met in person and have gotten to know fully. Not just from the internet or other types of social media or even video chat. My plan is eventually to move to Egypt and live there for a while. To explore the culture, the good and the bad and to learn about new people and make friends. However...I will NOT even visit until I have done as much research as possible and prepared myself well. And I realize that no matter how much preparation I do I will no doubt encounter something bad at some point or a bad person, male or female. I will however be more prepared to handle it. I sincerely hope things work out for the best but it sounds like you are moving too quickly and you should take a step back not only for yourself but for your daughters. I should also add before I stop that even if this friendship does not work out between me and this Egyptian man I still plan on visiting Egypt. He is not my sole purpose for my life dreams and goals. Best of luck from America! Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. Reasoned disagreement is welcome but not comments that are scurrilous, off-topic, commercial, disparaging religions, or otherwise inappropriate. For complete regulations, see the "Guidelines for Reader Comments". Reader comments (21923) on this item
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