To Sara Ann

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), May 31, 2010 at 23:21

Now you want him to repay you.

Sara, that is not an unreasonable request at all. I've seen judges award money back to people who were taken advantage of. The real trick is to prove it in court---and in the case of this forum, find a court with the proper legal jurisdiction.
He is overseas and didn't force you to do anything. Women need to be SMARTER! This is all I am saying. I do hope you recover and you have learned a valuable lesson. Too bad it was at your expense and you realized a little too late.

I would agree that it is imperative that women in situations of international dating ought to consider the possibilities. Yet no matter how many times our regular posters say it, someone will still be conned.

I really must ask you---why is this directed just at Yasemin? You can say that for most of the stories on here. Don't forget either that her man tried to drug her.
You need to realize too, not all these men in relationships are scammers. Uless they are proven guilty of it, people need to refrain from posting ALL are the same. Really they are not!! We are not all cut from the same mold.

My first question to you is who exactly are "these men". Because if you mean ALL Muslim and Moroccan/Turkish/Egyptian men, no, not all of them are "bad".

Those men are not discussed on here.

When it comes to this forum, if a man is discussed on here he is more than likely up to no good. The evidence against such individuals is glaringly clear.

What is also clear to me is that there is a double standard. Women on here are willing to tolerate a lot more from a man on a computer an ocean and half a continent away, but if a Western or Japanese were in his shoes, I think we all can say the relationship would be over.

Why?

Because that is what a lot of people do, Sara Ann. They end relationships that bear signs of trouble, and most of the time without launching a full scale investigation or going on the internet hoping that a total stranger will them "it will all be okay" and "its your choice".

But guess what Sara Ann?

A man does not have to be a scammer or a terrorist in order for the relationship to not work out. He can be the best man in his country and still be a lousy match for a Western or Japanese or South American woman.

I've covered this on here several times.

Also, I would like to know what your story is, why you are on here and why you keep focusing on Yasemin, because other posters have written far worse generalizations, and I don't see Yasmin saying that all men of X race Y religion and from Z country are bad.

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