For When A Friend's In Pain

Submitted by Zella (United States), Dec 1, 2009 at 18:10

Your friend is very angry with herself and to the point that she simply cannot let go of her deep-rooted angry feelings. Anger and depression walk hand-in-hand and your friend is overwhelmed with both emotions. She knows she can't have this man but she can't tolerate thinking that he will be marrying another woman. The concept of letting go can be extremely painful for many people. On one hand your friend knows the relationship is over but on the other, there is always that "just maybe" hope that gnaws within her. She's been involved in a toxic relationship and on one hand she knows this but she still cannot allow herself to admit that finality has knocked on the door.

Try very hard to motivate her to seek professional help but you must remember that you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. Group therapy can be very beneficial if she will agree to it. Sometimes just listening to how others have moved on from their toxic relationships can be very helpful. However, first your friend must want help. You must not allow her to use you as her therapist. She has to learn that hard knocks are going to continue to come her way until she begins to develop insight about why she allows herself to get involved in toxic relationships.

Good Luck.

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