Reply to Dorielle

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Nov 17, 2009 at 16:00

Much of what you have said I have heard before----many times over.

1) The idea that you have time to browse and learn about your man----I've heard this one before. Out of all of the websites on the internet, you happen to come to the one that talks about non-Muslim/Muslim relationship issues.

It's interesting how people say they just want to learn about X and Y, yet this forum here on Dr. Pipes's site has by far the most comments and attention.

I think you're looking up information not just because you want to learn about your man, but also because you don't trust him.

2) The "I'd do the same thing in his place" excuse has also been discussed on here, as has the idea that you marrying him so he can have a visa is a generous gesture.

If he leaves you, I can promise you won't feel the same way about the situation. You will feel used and hurt, and he'll be laughing in his sleeve at you.

I've been there before myself with women. I was in a 1.5 year relationship with a woman, and I thought I was being generous by helping her with her bills, and by getting a car and computer for her. The entire time, Dorielle, she was cheating on me and using me and I had friends and family (including hers) tell me that over and over and over and I did not listen. It cost me nearly 4000 Euros to figure that one out, not to mention the emotional distress.

3) I am well aware of the how the Muslim-pandering EU forces Malta to take refugees and the laws there are presumably to limit scams and keep terrorists and child rapists out of the country, not to inconvience your man.

4) Some insight onto the odds of winning the lottery: http://ezinearticles.com/?Revealed---The-REAL-Truth-About-Lottery-Odds&id=1370

I guess the chances are comparable to this being a healthy relationship for you.

5) I understand your attraction this man, Dorielle. I'm sure he treats you well and perhaps much better than any European man has. However, you must have a realistic approach to this regardless of how you feel. People who want a visa are willing to wait months even years to get it and then even after you are married for such a time, they can do leave. It's not unheard of at all.

There was a case here in the USA where an older man married a younger Russian woman. He even went out of his way for her and got connections in the local Russian community. But, in the end, it did not matter how generous he was, because from the very start her intention was to get a visa, then a drivers liscense and citizenship. Three years after they married, she was GONE.

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