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SHERRY (if you are still here)Reader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by LeMew (United States), Sep 19, 2016 at 17:27 I am really sorry I never responded to your response. I actually never saw this. This site can be kind of confusing sometimes on replies to people. I don't think I fully understood the site at the time you wrote to me. I am 34 years old, and my husband is 33. (as of now) Mohamed spoke very good english, and was able to get a job as soon as his work permit came through. I would say honestly that sometimes though the language can still be an issue. It isn't to do with how well he speaks, but how things can be misinterpreted. We've had to clarify things to each other during disagreements because one of us would take something the wrong way. I guess that can happen in any relationship, but I noticed it more in this one. He found a job almost immediately. He currently works for a very large banking/finance firm and has been very successful. He has not been back to Egypt since he moved here, but we are going together in November, and then his parents are coming here sometime early next year to stay with us for around a month. I've met most of his birth family and they all accept me now. At first, they thought he was making a big mistake leaving his job/family and life to come here. Over time, they have realized that it was not a bad choice. I can't blame them, he left a lot behind including a very lucrative career. We had always talked about marriage, actually from the minute I met him I told him I was going to marry him one day. I don't know, I just kind of knew. I felt a level of comfort and peace with him from the first minute we met. In person though we only spent three hours together before I had to leave. We did spend nine months apart talking a lot about what we both wanted out of life before he decided to come here. He came over here on a VISA, and we got a lawyer and did everything through her. He has a green card now. We did go through a really long process. It took almost a year to get it so that he could work. During that time, he was still supporting us both financially. I worked for some of that time, but eventually quit my job to stay with him. I actually have gone back to work recently, but anything that I make goes into a separate bank account that only my name is on. He is very strict in his thinking that the man should provide and take care of the finances. So basically my money is play money, but I do use it for things for him when I buy him gifts, or do surprise trips and things like that. I'm not totally selfish! Haha. The nice thing about working now is that he works around the corner so we get to car pool together every day. Since my last post I have done a lot of emotional work on myself, and my temper and my insecurities. Mohamed has been a huge help in knowing what he was dealing with and never blaming me for my anxiety or depression. I used to constantly go through his phone, check his email, go online and look at our call list. (All things I did in my previous relationship where I was emotionally and physically abused and cheated on.) It took some time for me to understand that he was not like my ex, and even though I had spent around three years being single, I brought a lot of baggage into our marriage. He never got mad at me for going through his phone or email. I had to have his facebook password and stuff. He just always accepted that I had these issues and was willing to help me through them. As of today I can't really remember the last time I went through his phone, or emails. So progress! = ) I have medical issues in my back due to previous abuse, and he has always supported me, goes to all my doctor apts with me and is really understanding. It wasn't easy at all at first, and I had a lot to get through to get where I am now with my emotions and temper but I have made a lot of progress. I am not perfect, and I still have my days but Mo seems to know how to handle me. My brother just asked him last night "How do you put up with her" haha. He is staying with us now and him and Mo are quite close. Actually, I was really proud of myself recently because my brother was going out Saturday night to a bar with some guys and I actually told Mo he should go. He didn't want to go but the fact that I was actually even okay with that let me know how much I have changed, and how much I trust my husband because I had SUCH deep seated issues with trust due to my past. All in all, I have to say that if it wasn't for Mo, I probably wouldn't have made the kind of progress I have with myself. He is my rock, and I am always telling him how grateful I am for having him in my life. If you have any new questions, I am happy to answer I am really sorry I missed this. Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. Reasoned disagreement is welcome but not comments that are scurrilous, off-topic, commercial, disparaging religions, or otherwise inappropriate. For complete regulations, see the "Guidelines for Reader Comments". Reader comments (21923) on this item
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