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do not trustReader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by annon (United Kingdom), Mar 13, 2016 at 05:25 These men will do anything and I mean anything to not go home. Let me tell you I to fell for the charm the beauty of an algerian man he was so caring attentive and would do anything for me. Cut a long story short we got married in the mosque and everything seemed beautiful for a year. I had a miscarriage when telling this Mr handsome I was pregnant I've never seen someone look so sick as he did for someone that is my husband and a muslim man I thought he would be happy, it comes to light he has not told his family we are married and there was a big panicked what is he going to do. My suspensions started to arise from this he is 34 and I am 2 years younger so not all the usual signs were not there I thought I had found a man that wanted to be with me. Fours days after the miscarriage he changed out of no where he says let him go so he can find someone else I was confused where did this come from luckily we are living apart as we were saving money to get a flat or so I thought. I went home there was no respect for a baby we had lost nothing all he said is I'm sorry you lost your baby like it was not his. A week past he got in contact started pressuring me to get a flat and sort his situation out the visa situation he used to talk about this a lot during the relationship just in a clever way to make me feel like he wanted to sort it out so he could be with me.(I realise now what it was about) In this time I adored him I used to buy him clothes run him around in my car I never got nothing in return not even a card on my birthday. Anyway I went back into the fire hoping we woul sort through our issues but in the back of my mind I had a feeling I couldn't shake off he was using me and trust me you start to see these men in a different light. His whole attitude changed I wasn't allowed to meet my friends would tell me to shut up while making love if I talk it's finished between us. I stayed because I wanted to know if he was using me I would start questioning him and telling him to tell his family he would come up with excuses I would say let's move to your country and we can do thing the right way apply for visa etc , he would become very hostile and get angry he did not want to go back they won't let him back in the country it would take a long time for him to come back he wanted a future to study and make a better life here in the UK. I said did he want kids one day no he didn't now I married him in love wanting a future wanting a family I could see how he was being clever the blinded by love had disappeared making me see a clear objective. I questioned him about past relationships in which he said I was going to marry my ex but I would of left her. I played dumb asked him to repeat he didn't I think he realised what he said . I would get my hair done in the hairdressers he told me to get a dye from the shop it's cheaper ok it is cheaper but I work hard very hard and getting my hair done every three months makes me feel good. I asked to burrow some money he asked for it back my husband asked for the money back now I believe in a marriage money should be shared not asking for it back. He told me to get a flat have a done it while he was sitting there doing nothing I would have to pay the rent etc because of his situation. I believe he was using me only took me a year and a half to wake up and smell the coffee or the truth. I'm not saying all these men are bad there are some wonderful muslim men out there but please please please try to question him you will get a sense of things and make sure he tells his family about you because any man should be proud of his partner. I do not want to see women go through what I did. Submitting....
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