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Still Married, Still Happy, Update on Marriage to Egyptian MuslimReader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by Luhx (United States), Oct 16, 2015 at 10:35 Hello All! I get very sad sometimes when I see the posting here. I think a lot of us forget that you have the potential to be heartbroken, beaten, abused and hurt by anyone. Previous to my marriage with Mohamed I was in an extremely abusive relationship with an American man. He beat me for four years, leading up to the point of me being in critical care with five broken ribs, both lungs collasped, the lower bone in my back (a part of my sacrum) was damaged and until now I still have back issues. THIS WAS AN AMERICAN MAN. When I met Mohamed in Vegas (we only knew each other for about three hours before parting ways and he did not try to sleep with me) and came home continuing to talk to him all my friends told me I was "stupid" and "crazy" and that he would never marry me. They told me he was probably already married because he was 31 and by this time most men are married. They told me I was being played. He spent nine months trying to convince me that I should move to Egypt because my life there would be better. He had a great job in Finance, and is very close with his family so he did not want to leave. I have no family, was adopted in my teens and my adopted mother lives in Canada. (I am in America) When he realized that I was not going to move to Egypt and marry him, he made the choice to move here. He surprised me in December by sending me a picture of the hotel he was staying at by my house. We were married a few days later at the courthouse, and then at the Mosque. It was not without struggle. His sisters were completely against him leaving, he had several internal issues to work out with his own family because they also believed he was "crazy" and "stupid". Moving here has not been easy for him either. He misses his country, his family and in general does not like living in America. He sacrificed evertyhing he had in his life there to come and be with me. He has never hit me, or even been controlling. We have had talks about normal things you would expect with such a cultural difference. The length of my dresses, my large amount of male friends, but we talk about this as a couple and as best friends and we understand that we both came from TOTALLY different backgrounds. Have we had fights? YES! Aside from me having MAJOR control issues due to my severe abusive past, and my anxiety in general I tend to be the one who causes them and that's just me being honest. He is very calm, while I am very intense. Consider going from talking to someone only through the internet and the phone, to literally living with them. It's a very difficult adjustment even for couples who dated each other before let alone two people who never even kissed - and who come from completely different worlds. We've been married since December of last year, coming up on our one year anniversary and I can honestly say I've never been treated with more care, fairness and love than any previous relationship with an American or Canadian man. The point is you know in a relationship if something ISN'T right. Usually, even when we are dating within our own religion and location - but we ignore it. Not all Muslim men are bad for western women. Not all of them are honest, loving and right for you either. Guess what? Not every man from America, or England or Canada is either. My name on facebook is Luhx Marghany. I'd be happy to add anyone who would like to see a more insightful view of our relationship, pictures of how very different I am from the regular girl when it comes to dressing, looks and religious views. Maybe, it will give you a little hope that not all Muslim men are bad for you and maybe it will show you that what you have with your man isn't right? or is? At the end of the day only YOU know what your relationship is and IS NOT. People can give you advice, I received a ton of it and did what I wanted anyways and luckily for me I made the right choice, and I married the right man. I'd be happy to answer any questions, 100% honestly if you'd like to know more. Luhx Submitting....
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