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I am really confused right now and I really do not know what to do right now?Reader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by VikingGirlTBird! (United States), Jan 4, 2015 at 17:42 Greetings everybody! I had met a Egyptian devout Muslim man from Egypt on Facebook about a year ago (We are both in our twenties, I am in my early twenties, he is in his late twenties, and he is six years older than me.) and about the second time we met on Facebook he told me that I looked very beautiful, that he really loved me, and that he really wanted to marry me. (This is a very big sign that he is a marriage frauder. Usually, marriage frauders mostly target older people than me but, they can sometimes target very young people too.). After this, we met and talked to each other on Skype (When ever we talked on skype, I was very modest around him and I wore a hijab.) and he asked me a lot of personal questions like, how old are you (Will not mentioned my age on here.), what is my religion (Christianity.), am I still a virgin (Yes.), have I dated before (No.), do I have good morals (Yes.), and etc. Then he told me a little bit about himself, he told me that I would make a very good wife and that he really loved that fact that I was just like a muslim, and that I really loved, really knew a lot about, and really respected Islam, Muslims, arabic culture, and etc. After we met and talked to each and got a know each other more on Skype the first time, he told me that he told his parents and immediate family about me, how I was a really good, moral, chaste, and etc Christian woman, that I was a potential bride to be, that he really loved me, and that he really wanted to marry me. (Usually, when arab men talk about you to their parents it is a very good sign that they really hold you in great honor or was he just lying to me about telling his parents about me.). After he told his parents about me, I told him I really did not love him (Even through I told him was still open to falling in love with him.), that I knew a lot about marriage scams, their tactics, how a lot of arabic men just use non Muslim western women just for green cards, money, and/or sex, and about how these really bad arabic men usually treat their wives in a very inhumane way after they get what they want. But, before I told him all about that, I asked him to be very honest with me and if he only wanted a green card, money, sex, and/or anything from me. After I asked him that, he told me that he did not want a green card from me because he only wanted to live in Egypt or in Germany if he married me, that he did not want any money from me because he has a very good job, and that he only wanted sex only in marriage and that he was still a virgin. (Either he was telling the truth about himself or he was just lying about himself.). After couple of months went by of getting to know him better (He seems like a really good, moral, chaste, and etc man but he could be in diguise.) and after reading many horror stories about how some really bad arab men treat their girlfriends and wives. I got really parainoid and unfriend him and blocked him a couple of times because I was really wondering if he was really was one of this really bad arabic men in diguise. I after while after I unfriend him and blocked him a couple of times, I kept unblocking him after a few weeks because I figured out he probably has forgoten me by now and moved on to someone else. But, the crazy thing is that after only a couple of days of unblocking him each time he kept sending me messages and/or friend requests and did not seem to notice that I had unfriend him, that it was me who unfriended him, and that something was going on. So, here I am now still friends with, talking with, and skyping with him after I done all that to him. This time around he really wants me to go to Egypt to met and his family because he told me that his family finally accepts me now a potential bride to be, (At first they did not accept me as a potential bride to be.) that they really want to meet me as a potential bride, and to get to know me a lot better. He even offer to pay for the trip to Egypt to meet him and his family but, of course I told him that I might come to Egypt someitme in the future but, I do not have enough money to go Egypt at this time. But, he still insist that he will pay, that really he really loves and really wants to marry me, is still trying to get me to fall in love with him, and that he and his family is still waiting for me. I am very confused about these good and bad signs that he is giving me and whether or not he really truly loves me and is truthful and sincere with me. I even told a couple of my friends about him and about these signs that he have given me and some of them said that he probably just wants to marry me for a green card and etc but, the some of them are somewhat confused about the signs like I am and said that he still might be truely in love with me and etc even though I do not love him and do want to marry him. So, now I am asking all of you guys about him, about all the good and bad confusing signs that he has given me so far, and about what should I finally do about him even though I am still not in love with him but, I really want to know exactly who he really is and exactly what his plans are with me because I am just really curious, want to really play it safe, and want to find out the truth about him so that I can warn other people about him if I have too...that's all. If he turns about to be my worse nightmare (No, I am probably not going to Egypt and not marrying him to figure that out.), then I will most definately warn everybody about him, his plans, and his tactics even though he saids that he is not like those men that I mentioned. So, can everybody please help me to really try figure ALL of this out please? Thanks so much everybody and I really appreciate all of it! 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