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Met Iraqi Man, Skype, Older Woman, Muslim Man, American Woman, Love, VISA, SCAM, ChatReader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Nov 20, 2014 at 22:01 I have read many comments here, none of which shed a positive light on any Arab men seeking a romantic relationship with American women. The similarities in other stories and my own are remarkable, thus I feel the need to write this post and ask for opinions. The "relationship" is not real, the love is not real and I know he's looking to scam you for something. My question for you is: does he show his status on-line but away a lot? I met an Iraqi man, quite by accident in a chat room online less than two weeks ago. We began talking on Skype after 3 days. So a man you've never met in person says he loves you. It's no wonder why your feminine instincts won't bring you to trust him. He's 39, never been married. Which is rare and frowned upon in Muslim countries. He lives in Bahgdad and as you all know, it is a terrible life. He is Sunni, but not an extremist, doesn't attend mosque, but believes in God. His mother was killed in an explosion several years ago. He has a married brother and remarried father in Iraq. His sister fled Iraq and he says she is urging him to get out. He used to work for the US Military and would probably be murdered because of this affiliation if the IS terrorists found him. He is supposedly in the process of selling his apartment and fleeing Iraq. He plans to come to the USA by applying for refugee status. While it's true that if Baghdad were penetrated, things would be bad, but if this man had worked for the USA military, I would bet real money it's not as bad as he says. There are some VERY secure areas in Baghdad. Also, you have no reason at all to trust him. I am 53, going through a divorce. At your age and given your situation, I don't think you grasp all the nasty stuff that comes with on-line dating and relationships. A word of advice: If a guy asked me about dating a someone going through a divorce, all things being equal, I'd tell him NO. You are clearly NOT in a state of mind to be looking for someone else. This Iraqi man is chomping at the bit to take you for a RIDE, and a BAD one at that! This man told me he loved me after 3 days and mentioned marriage after a week in his less than perfect English. I've had Russian women tell me the same thing. Sure, a beautiful Russian woman who could be model is going to fall in love with the guy just out of high school who could never get the girls. Be realistic! They pull this nonsense ALL the time! He denies needing my help to get into the usa, because that is the first thing I thought to ask him when the conversation turned romantic. Honestly, what did you think he'd say? "Oh, gee, you're right, I'm using you for a VISA, and once I get a driver's liscense and citizenship, I'll bring my family over (did I mention I'm married with four kids?) and/or find a nice, Muslim virgin younger than me from my own culture". As you might guess, I am quite vulnerable after a long and fairly unhappy marriage and lengthy divorce proceedings. I am also broke, at least temporarily and he has offered me money, which of course I refused. Which means you fit the target demographic perfectluy. I am very soft hearted and kind to people in general. I am very lonely and his words enchant me, like a fairy tale. That's why they are called fairy tales and not reality. I have tried to disuade him at every turn but he seems immune to all of my shortcomings, including my brutal honesty about a love affair during my marriage and having HSV2. We have talked constantly since meeting. He's just wearing you down. My impression is that he has a pure soul like an angel, he is sweet and caring and at the end of his rope from living in his war torn country. He wants to escape and has found someone (me) who is caring, kind and (with modesty) attractive for my age. He says he doesn't care that I'm older than him, have been married before, been unfaithful during my marriage, will never give him children, have no money and am currently unemployed. (I would avoid me completely) He says he only wants to take care of me. Of course he doesn't care about your age! Your probably one of his leading prospects to get out of Iraq! Think he'll stick around once he gets what he wants? 39 and single in Iraq…..He could already be married! I'm aware of the adage: if it sounds too good to be true..., but I don't know what he could want from me. See below; but you may never find out and should NOT stick around to find out. This is a SCAM. He's educated, has money and its seems he will have no problem obtaining refugee status and with that, citizenship. I have studied current events in Iraq to have an understanding of what it must be like to live there. Everything he tells me about it rings true. Good scammers and liars won't lie about everything. They'll tell the truth if and when it suits them. No relationship is bad all the time, but this is no relationship. It's been a scam the minute you two started talking. I have actually considered, but dismissed the idea that perhaps he is a terrorist. The problem with the vast majority of these cases isn't terrorism. Sure, there is the Jihadi idealist who wants to find a non-Muslim woman to breed an army, but mostly on here, it's just liars, scammers and cheats. He certainly wouldn't need me in such a plot. I hate that I have to be cynical and suspicious, searching for alterior motives, but it really does seem too good to be true. It is too good to be true. I am truly bewildered. My heart says yes but my head says no to developing a relationship with him. That's your femine instincts alerting you to male BS. What does he want? The usual----money, sex, a VISA, bragging rights to dating someone who is "different", even though dating is not allowed in Islam. Could he be sincere? Nope! No chance of that! Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. Reasoned disagreement is welcome but not comments that are scurrilous, off-topic, commercial, disparaging religions, or otherwise inappropriate. For complete regulations, see the "Guidelines for Reader Comments". Reader comments (21923) on this item
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