|
|||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
|
|||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
Too Many Warning Signs & ---On-line "Pen Pal", Algerian man, British woman, TunisiaReader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), May 28, 2014 at 20:31 I had an Algerian man of 28 contact me on a pen pal site, Obviously, he wants to be more than pen pals. Sometimes, people will join a site who really have no good business being there, but playing the unexpected can help them get a jump on something they want---like a VISA. there is a big age difference. That is a huge red flag no matter where this man is from, but it is especially so given this is entirely on-line. he has always said it didn't bother him, I chuckled when I read this. They always seem to say that when the issue is brought up. once we started talking he closed is profile He could have opened up one you don't know about (multiple accounts are not possible but may be more common than you think) on the same site or another one. He also could be confident that he's getting what he wants from you. and we have talked every day. This does not enhance the validity of the encounter There was an instant connection between us. That's actually not very unique, and the percpetion of such a "connection" is quite misleading, Linda. He may want a VISA, and you were probably impressed that someone young enough to be your son is after you romantically. Linda, you really need to ask yourself if you are trying to excuse all of the painfully obvious warning signs here just because you like being with someone so different. I'm sure that' a huge motive in a lot of these cases. Now, Linda, I understand the flattering attention makes you feel great. No one can blame you for having good feelings over this, Linda, but it isn't love and it's probably something very sinister. He seems to have his own shop,and he is always telling me how much he loves me . I remember once a Russian told me she loved me in the second e-mail, and all she had seen was an outdated photo of me. This seems to happen a lot with illegitimate on-line encounters. True love simply does not happen on-line, Linda. You've never met him. You should not believe him when he tells you he loves you. He is only saying what you want to hear. It's rather obvious this is a scam. We also talk on Skype until the early hours every night. Also very common, just not very meaningful as far as establishing trust and getting to know each other well enough is concerned. He has asked me to meet him in Tunisia for a holiday as no visas are needed there and he has a house there.He says he will pay for everything. This isn't the first time someone has offered to pay. For one thing, if you're relieved your partner isn't asking you for money, that's a pretty low bar for wanting a decent relationship, and I'm assuming you want something decent, Linda. Seeing him on holiday won't satisfy your doubts anyways. You are simply wasting your time. So far I have not been able to catch him out,he really does seem genuine, Even immigration officials don't always "catch them out". But really it's not much skin off their back. Nope, Linda, it's pretty much all on you if you go through with it. but there is always that little voice in my head. I'd say it's more of a little voice. He is like a drug for me and I have to have my fix every day. Such is the nature of on-line interaction. You have to have the presence of mind to see what is REALLY going on. You don't know this man well just because you do skype camchat or because you talk often. In fact, you don't trust him because you are on here Does anyone think there is a chance he is not genuine. There's too many warning signs and too much uncertainty. As I said, you meeting him will not make all these doubts go away. If he isn't I don't think I would believe another man ever. Attaching these kinds of ridiculous conditions will not change the nature of your situation. It is quite telling, Linda, that you would need to do this seemingly to validate this relationship. You and I both know that you never believing another man based on the outcome of this, which will not bode well if pursued, is simply impractical. There's also a lot of details in your post that you are seemingly trying to emphasize, but really there's nothing special or unique here, Linda. It's the same old tired lines and formula. Linda, you need to dump this man from your life and find someone you can see in person. There are some major warning signs here and situations like these have a strong tendency to end poorly. It's up to you to take off the rosy glasses and see reality for what it is. Submitting....
Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. Reasoned disagreement is welcome but not comments that are scurrilous, off-topic, commercial, disparaging religions, or otherwise inappropriate. For complete regulations, see the "Guidelines for Reader Comments". Reader comments (21923) on this item
Comment on this item |
Latest Articles |
||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
All materials by Daniel Pipes on this site: © 1968-2024 Daniel Pipes. daniel.pipes@gmail.com and @DanielPipes Support Daniel Pipes' work with a tax-deductible donation to the Middle East Forum.Daniel J. Pipes (The MEF is a publicly supported, nonprofit organization under section 501(c)3 of the Internal Revenue Code. Contributions are tax deductible to the full extent allowed by law. Tax-ID 23-774-9796, approved Apr. 27, 1998. For more information, view our IRS letter of determination.) |