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Questions Gail by Anon1Reader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by gail (Canada), Dec 13, 2012 at 19:18 My husband and I met almost 4 years ago,online, hes from Algeria, we are just waiting for our family visa to be finalized, few more months, we are married just over 2 years, I knew him 15 months before we married, I was married before , my husband was never married, I have 2 other Children from a previous marriage, not babies or toddlers, and my husband and I have 1 baby together. I am a few years older than my husband ,just over 4,we are both in our 30's. I am not muslim and my older children have the right to practice or not practice religion & as for our child, we agreed that when he is of age , his father can talk to him about Islam , but he cant force him to be muslim or go to mosque, he will choose for himself and my husband has no problem with this. My husband is a university graduate and I am not. He does not own property in algeria and yes I own property here. we had a pre-nup done before we married that any property, money or assets I had before we married are mine and only mine. We talk everyday , via skype, text , phone. He pays for everything when I go to visit and every 2 months he goes to tunis to send me money, as the western union in algeria only excepts money coming in and does not send out.I have been a few times to Algeria/tunisia, but have not been since I had the baby as we both agreed that the baby would not be going to algeria , but when hes home from work we always skype and along with his mother several times as she loves to see and hear the baby. when I married him , I met all his immediate family, they are all very nice. When he told his family we would marry, his mother had questions...lol.There was so much that went on before we married that its so hard to sum up in just a few sentences. We did run into problem with some of the paper work as right after we married there were riots in tunis and the Canadian embassy closed for 2 months and then because of the wait after we had all papers in , he had to re-do his medical. I did so much stuff to find out if he was being legit and some things happened by accident to help me out. I was even bold enough to ask him for his passwords to his email, facebook, gmail,yahoo, msn and skype acount on the spot , no waiting so he couldn't delete anything and he gave them to me , I found a few emails from 2006 and early 2008 to a few women , but nothing important, other than I told him he needs to clean out his email. I even created false accounts on the site where I met him and tried different approaches to him and nothing.But it wasn't a love at first sight & he didnt compliment me constantly or say he couldnt live without me, it wasn't like that. He never ask if I had money, property or assets &I never volunteer the info either. Has everyone accepted me?, in his family, immediate , yes, few aunts and uncles, no, they think he should have married an algerian muslim woman. His family don't believe in arranged marriages , they said all their children will find their own spouses. He never ask me to convert as he said if you ask or make a person convert it doesn't make them a muslim , it would make them a hypocrite because they dont believe in Islam. I respect his religion & he respects my choices. Please feel free to ask me anything . I have had conversations with scammers before. They are always very full of comments and sad stories and hardships & unless my husband is the all time scam champion, I would think he would have been here way before now. He has always worked and has never been with out a job since I met him or before that either. We both have our flaws and short coming but I guess thats with every person and relationship. Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. Reasoned disagreement is welcome but not comments that are scurrilous, off-topic, commercial, disparaging religions, or otherwise inappropriate. For complete regulations, see the "Guidelines for Reader Comments". Reader comments (21923) on this item
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