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Submitted by Steph (United States), Nov 19, 2006 at 18:09

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You've seen her--the veiled, dark-robed woman in the checkout line at Wal-Mart or Target. She's Muslim, you think to yourself. Probably from the Middle East or Asia.

But on closer inspection, you discover that she has blue eyes. A few strands of sandy blond hair peek out from her head veil. Or perhaps she's black and speaks with a distinctly American accent.

She's not from the Middle East, you realize, but from your own backyard! In fact, she could be someone you went to high school with.

Why would an American woman marry a Muslim man and convert to his religion and way of life?

The answer might surprise you: She could have been tricked into conversion. And the result might be intense physical and emotional abuse.

In growing numbers, women all over the United States are marrying Muslim men from other countries. Many find themselves trapped in a nightmare of oppression, abuse and control, according to W.L. Cati, founder of Zennah Ministries, an organization that reaches out to women married to Muslims.

"I should not be alive," says Cati, an American woman who endured an abusive relationship with a Muslim man from the Middle East. After 14 years of horror, she managed to escape. Most women, she says, don't make it out alive.

"I'm not bashing Muslims," Cati says. "This is a morality issue. We're talking human rights. They are allowed to beat their wives and children. They are even allowed to kill. And this is going on right here in the United States."

Cati was born again in 1972. She loved the Lord and was in a full-time music ministry. But when she met Muhammed, he swept her off her feet.

"He talked to me about his principles [and] family values," she remembers. "That a wife doesn't need to work, how a husband should be supportive of his wife. I thought, This is the man of my dreams. He was flamboyant, romantic, and passionate, and I fell head over heels for him."

Cati's Christian parents and friends tried to talk her out of it, but her mind was made up.

"The way he explained his religion sounded very much like my own," she says. "He told me Allah meant 'God' in Arabic. He said that they believe in Jesus, heaven, hell, the Ten Commandments, angels, the prophets and the Bible."

When Muhammed asked Cati to marry him, she said yes, promising to marry in a mosque and raise their children as Muslims.

During the ceremony, Cati repeated phrases in Arabic with no idea of what she was saying. After the ceremony, she read her marriage certificate and was shocked to find that her first name had been changed to a Muslim name and that she had converted to Islam. Her new husband assured her that it was "just on paper," but suddenly Cati's knight in shining armor turned into a nightmare.

"The more I submitted to his religion, the more he and his family had rights over me," she explains. "He controlled everything--money, my decisions and my social life. He usually stayed out all night in strip bars or with other women. The physical abuse started while I was expecting our second child."

On the outside, Cati's life looked like a Hollywood fantasy--seven homes, a nine-carat tennis bracelet, and any car she wanted. But inside she was experiencing a living hell. She called the police many times to report beatings and other abuse but never pressed charges.

"My husband always made me feel like it was my fault that he hit me," she says. "I always ended up saying I was sorry to him."

In the midst of Cati's nightmare, her parents continued to pray for her. One day she and her husband rented their vacation home to a ladies' group.

"I didn't know they were Christians," she says. "They came in and started praying over everything. They prayed that I would come back to Jesus."

When Cati returned to the home, the Lord started speaking to her heart. A neighbor invited her to church, and surprisingly, her husband gave permission to attend as long as she didn't convert.

"That night at church," she remembers, "I started crying and couldn't stop. I can't remember what was said, but God was talking to my heart."

Eventually, Cati reconverted to Christianity, making a decision that enraged her husband. Their children became born again and prayed for the salvation of their father. Finally, Muhammed threw them out of the house.

Cati was penniless, but there was "no pain or tears," she says. "God's mercy and grace gave us freedom from the Muslim way of life."

A Disturbing Trend

Sadly, Cati's story is not unusual. Thousands of American women--including many born-again Christians--marry Muslim men. Most have no idea what Islam teaches about women or the rights it gives to their husbands.

For example, even though there are laws against polygamy in the United States, a Muslim man living here can marry up to four women--even if he already has a wife back in his own country. Marriages here are performed in a mosque, and if the couple does not apply for a marriage license, there is no way of showing the husband is already married.

According to Islam, a husband is allowed to beat his wife and children and to refuse to support his wife for any number of reasons (see related story on page 90). A father can beat a child who does not pray.

Wives do not jointly own property with their husbands; on the contrary, they are considered property themselves, the same as a house or a car. A wife can't spend her husband's money or allow anyone to enter his house without his permission.

A wife inherits only a small portion of her husband's wealth; the rest goes to his parents, brothers, uncles and children, and male children receive double the portion of female children. If a man states, "I divorce you," three times to his wife's face, he considers himself legally divorced. His wife is not entitled to any of her husband's possessions, including his children. There are no visitation rights in Islam.

"A woman under the Islamic system of marriage has no human rights unless we consider that a slave has rights under a slave system," writes Nawal El Sa'dawi, who is Muslim, in her book, The Hidden Face of Eve. "Marriage, insofar as women are concerned, is just like slavery to the slave, or the chains of serfdom to the serf."

Not every Muslim man is abusive to his wife and children or follows these religious teachings, but it is important for women to learn about Islam if they are considering marrying a Muslim.

"We need to educate our women on what Islam really is versus what it appears to be," explains Nadia Maroudi, founder of Women Crossing Cultural Barriers, affiliated with Gül International Ministries. "They sell it as such a peaceful religion--and it's not."

One Muslim woman, for example, who is a medical doctor, told Maroudi that three of her patients were American women who had married Muslim men. Each man took his children back to his own country, then returned alone to a different city in the United States to marry another American woman (without divorcing his first wife) and start life all over again.

According to Voice of the Martyrs, an organization dedicated to aiding the persecuted church, the fast-paced growth of Islam in the West is due primarily not to conversion but to "biological growth" through marriage to Western women.

Maroudi was a born-again Christian when she married a Muslim from North Africa. He became a Christian after they were married, yet later divorced her because she could not have children.

"In his culture, in the first year of marriage the women are having babies," she explains. "Even though he was a believer, he was having a hard time handling the demands of his culture and former religion, so he divorced me."

While Maroudi was still married, the Lord challenged her to reach out to other women like herself. So she placed an ad in her local paper: "American Women Married to Muslims: Support group offering fun, fellowship and prayer."

The calls started coming in, and Maroudi's ministry was under way. "I was shocked at what was going on," Maroudi says. Although her husband never physically beat her, she has met many women who are regularly abused.

For three years, Maroudi's group has met regularly to share support and encouragement. Women who attend come from Christian, Jewish and nonreligious backgrounds.

"I strengthen them in who they are and stress they are valued because of Jesus," Maroudi says. "I show them how to have a personal relationship with Him, [and] tell them what Christianity really believes versus what they're taught at the mosque. I pray for opportunities to talk about Jesus without bashing their husband's religion.

"Muslims believe in a god," she continues, "and when you tell them you're going to help them become more godly, how can the men dispute that?" In fact, some Muslim men actually refer their wives to Maroudi's meetings, although others forbid their wives from attending or even talking to her on the phone.

Maroudi wants to start similar ministry support groups in every major city in the United States "so that there's not one woman who feels like I did," she says.

Cati's experiences also prompted her to launch an outreach to women married to Muslims. Zennah Ministries offers counseling, seminars and information services.

"I promote the Lord Jesus and His ways and trust in Him to help make these women whole again," Cati says. "We have extensive research and firsthand Islamic experience. We can provide truth about Allah, the Qur'an, Muhammed and the last days. We want to help [these women] break the bondage and stand firm in their faith in Jesus Christ as their Lord."

Cati has written a handbook, What to Expect When You Marry a Muslim Man, which provides graphic quotes from the Qur'an and Islamic holy texts--a shocking wake-up call to any woman considering a new life as wife of a Muslim man. "I cut and pasted the information from their own [Islamic] Web sites," Cati says, "so it is their words, not mine."

Cati hopes to establish homes to help women who come out of abusive Islamic marriages. "Once you come out of an abusive, cultic situation, you need a place to go," she says. "There are homes for drug addicts, but nothing for women who've been abused this way."

Adds Maroudi, "If we can get these women saved and on the right road, [they] can affect the whole family. My husband converted because he saw the change in me. I changed from being a pew-sitter to living for Jesus. And my husband saw that."

Perhaps God is bringing Muslim men to this country for just this reason--so that they can hear the gospel. And perhaps--if women like Cati and Maroudi continue to reach out--they will hear it through their wives. Elisabeth Farrell writes frequently on issues related to Muslims for Charisma and other publications.

By Elisabeth Farrell What the Qur'an Says About Women

You might be surprised by what some Muslims believe about wife-beating and male superiority

The following teachings are from the Qur'an--the Islamic holy book that sets the guidelines for Muslims--and from various Hadiths, which are Islamic holy texts written by scholars to demonstrate the guidelines from the Qur'an in actual practice. Hadiths are considered the will of Allah.

Men are superior to women (Q 2:228, Q 4:34).

Women are deficient in intelligence, gratitude and religion (Hadith Sahih al-Bukhari).

Women are "toys" (Hadith No. 919).

The deception of women is "awesome," their wickedness is contagious, and bad character and feeble minds are their predominant traits (Hadith Ihy'a 'Uloum ed-Din).

The witness of two women is equal to the witness of one man (Q 2:282).

When women go outside their homes, it delights the devil (Hadith Ihy'a 'Uloum ed-Din).

Women must wear hijabs (veils or coverings) to protect not their own chastity but the chastity of men who might see them (Hadith by Mohammad Sa'id Ramadan al-Buti).

A husband's rights over his wife are divine (Hadith Mishkat al-Masabih).

It is condescension on the part of the man to spend his life with a woman. She cannot repay this favor, no matter what sacrifice she makes (Hadith by Suyuti).

A husband who fears rebelliousness in his wife must admonish her first. If that does not work, he has the right to desert her sexually. If that does not work, he may beat her (Q 4:34).

A husband may beat his wife mildly if she (1) does not wear "fineries" that he requests, (2) refuses sexual relations without a lawful excuse, (3) refuses to take a bath to clean herself from impurities for prayer, and (4) goes abroad without permission of her husband (footnote to English translation of Hadith Mishkat al-Masabih).

A man is not to be asked why he beat his wife because it is his unquestionable right (Ibn Kaathir, commenting on Q 4:34).

Beatings reform "deviations" in behavior and are gratifying to women. Some women will not "recognize the power of the man whom they love...except when the man conquers them physically" (Sayid Qotb, Fi Zilal al-Qur'an, commenting on Q 4:34).

Men may marry up to four women (some texts say nine; others, an unlimited number) and have sex with an unlimited number of slave girls (Q 4:3).

If a wife takes a child to church, the husband has the right to take the child from her (Hadith al-Fiqh 'ala al-Mazahib al-Arba'a).

A man has the right to prevent his wife from caring for her child from a previous marriage (Hadith al-Fiqh 'ala al- Mazahib al-Arba'a).

The husband is required to support his wife "in return for the woman being locked up in the man's house." But a husband can refuse support if she goes outside the house without his permission, refuses sexual relations with him, kisses her son in a way that the husband considers lustful, becomes severely ill or is raped by another man (Hadith al-Fiqh 'ala al-Mazahib al-Arba'a; Encyclopaedia of Islam).

Men in paradise will enjoy sex with perpetually exquisite virgin women and young boys (Q 44:51-54; 55:56-58; 55:72; 56:17).

The majority of women will go to hell (Hadith No. 33 and 301). Love Your Muslim Neighbor

There are a number of things we can do to help Muslims experience the love of Jesus through us. Here are a few suggestions:

1. Remember that Muslims are not our enemies. It would not help the cause of the Prince of Peace to fight a hate-filled situation with more hate. Only love can overcome hate, and Jesus calls us to love Muslims.

The Muslim men described in this article are acting on what they have been taught, and they are doing what their religion says will please Allah. Their sin is no worse than ours, and Jesus shed His blood for them as much as for us.

2. Jesus reached people one by one, and so can you. The next time you see an American Muslim woman in your community, smile at her.

"Most people stare at them," says Nadia Maroudi, founder of Women Crossing Cultural Barriers. She reminds people, "If she is veiled with nothing but her eyes showing, she's either converted or being forced to wear one."

A simple smile can open the door to a conversation with a woman who is probably hurting and desperate for help. For example, when Maroudi recently talked with a Muslim woman at a discount store, she was amazed to learn the woman had become a Muslim because she was looking for a "handbook on life"--and found it in Islam.

Maroudi, of course, told the woman exactly where she could find such a Book. "You don't have to talk theology with them," she says. "You're just there to build bridges and plant seeds."

3. Make sure your pastor is aware of the growing trend of American women marrying Muslim men. W.L. Cati, founder of Zennah Ministries, and Maroudi both believe the church needs a wake-up call to deal with this problem. Maroudi and her husband, for example, were married by a Baptist minister.

"We need to tell women who are dating Muslim men, 'Don't put your feet into the fire unless you plan to become a Muslim,'" Maroudi says. "This is what they will expect. They may not say it up front, but that is what will happen.

"Churches and even [secular] counselors don't know how to counsel these women," Maroudi continues. "The typical Christian judges a woman for marrying a Muslim, and that sends the hurt deeper--and she never wants to come back to the church."

4. Pray for Muslims. Christians who minister in Muslim countries report an astounding openness to the gospel. One worker in Iran, for example, estimates that 80 percent of the population is open to the gospel. Muslims in the United States can be just as open.

Pray that God will draw to Himself men and women who are locked in Islam. Pray God's blessings on the Muslims in your community.


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4So sorry [36 words]PollyJan 31, 2022 11:53268057
2My advice to Danielle (why is it so difficult?) [80 words]PrashantJan 31, 2022 23:02268057
35Understanding the narcissistic Muslim men who never will love their wives (In response to Tracy's post) [554 words]A very concerned readerMay 4, 2021 17:00266404
25Got some good posters on here [191 words]ChelseaMar 15, 2021 15:08264747
12Chelsea [78 words]LinaMar 23, 2021 19:43264747
12Absolutely! [119 words]Lana(USA)Mar 25, 2021 10:02264747
18Good to hear from you! [92 words]Robin M.Apr 6, 2021 07:36264747
6So true,but... [63 words]Lana(USA)Apr 22, 2021 00:43264747
8Is he married? [500 words]TraceyMay 4, 2021 08:53264747
15Understanding the narcissistic Muslim man who never will love their wives [474 words]A very concerned readerMay 4, 2021 16:32264747
9True Marriage is About Sacrifice - What are You Willing to Give Up? [124 words]M ToveyMay 4, 2021 16:35264747
17Advice to Tracey [338 words]PrashantMay 5, 2021 00:37264747
17Run [173 words]HopeMay 5, 2021 15:18264747
6To Tracy from a very concerned reader [17 words]Ella AustraliaMay 12, 2021 01:09264747
11Thanks to you, Ella [188 words]A very concerned readerMay 13, 2021 19:43264747
6TRACEY - ERHAN [26 words]KARENMay 20, 2021 18:44264747
11Agree [39 words]Lana(USA)May 21, 2021 15:59264747
3Rat or not? [88 words]MimiAug 16, 2021 14:09264747
14R A T !!!!! [144 words]ChelseaAug 22, 2021 12:11264747
4TOTAL SCAMMER MIMI [100 words]jessica (canada)Aug 23, 2021 19:09264747
1Rat or not [102 words]MimiAug 24, 2021 13:02264747
5RAT [190 words]jessica (canada)Aug 25, 2021 18:33264747
13You seriously need to research into Muslim men [197 words]Pumpkin SpiceSep 27, 2021 08:04264747
1Rat or not? [111 words]MimiSep 27, 2021 13:21264747
2Bună Spice [127 words]MimiSep 27, 2021 13:37264747
2Four Clues to Insincerity [101 words]M ToveySep 27, 2021 17:02264747
1Hello [94 words]MimiSep 28, 2021 04:35264747
4And Greetings of Peace to You; And a Simple Hello as Well [610 words]M ToveySep 28, 2021 12:08264747
6Message for Mimi [59 words]PrashantSep 28, 2021 13:26264747
Ciao [1362 words]MimiSep 29, 2021 14:34264747
2Bună Spice [95 words]MimiSep 29, 2021 17:29264747
Allora buona fortuna - In Seeking Contentment [35 words]M ToveySep 30, 2021 19:05264747
11Mental Torment [324 words]ChelseaOct 3, 2021 18:18264747
1Bună Spice [109 words]MIMIOct 10, 2021 15:45264747
5Strength of Woman's Identity Not Tied to Any Man [172 words]M ToveyOct 11, 2021 16:36264747
1Bună Spice [103 words]MimiOct 12, 2021 16:19264747
3Islam is Easy on the Muslim Man - Its Record Speaks for Itself [170 words]M ToveyOct 12, 2021 18:58264747
1Bună Spice [337 words]MimiOct 13, 2021 13:11264747
5Empty Promises Lead to Empty Hearts - Seek Spiritual Truth First [199 words]M ToveyOct 14, 2021 12:20264747
3Curious [54 words]SherryOct 17, 2021 15:08264747
Resposta para Mimi [35 words]AleJan 30, 2022 15:56264747
Rat or not [175 words]MimiJan 31, 2022 13:42264747
4Do Not Be Enticed - An Empty Heart Cannot Be Filled with Empty Promsies [158 words]M ToveyJan 31, 2022 17:42264747
9Do you want my opinion? [133 words]Robin M.Feb 8, 2022 15:02264747
Rat or not [179 words]MimiFeb 9, 2022 13:59264747
4Time to let go [62 words]Robin M.Feb 9, 2022 16:38264747
Rat or not [92 words]MimiJun 23, 2022 16:27264747
2Money scamming is not the main reason [148 words]PrashantJun 24, 2022 08:49264747
Rat or not [249 words]MimiJun 24, 2022 13:12264747
3Overcoming a Fear of Separation Anxiety - Insincerity is the Witness Seen in this Delusion [239 words]M ToveyJun 25, 2022 00:00264747
2Be careful [41 words]Catherine Elaine PeppersFeb 4, 2023 14:50264747
good evening catherine [208 words]MimiFeb 5, 2023 16:02264747
20To Brainwashed Smasher about the true meaning of nikah [505 words]A very concerned readerMar 1, 2021 01:44264398
16To Sherry: Veils for answering the nature's call, the Muslim men's right to rape the unveiled women [345 words]A very concerned readerFeb 26, 2021 14:24264318
25About the houris [690 words]A very concerned readerFeb 23, 2021 00:17264210
22To N and S: some replies to your questions and resources for you! [632 words]A very concerned readerFeb 18, 2021 18:26264041
36Long Live the Non-Muslim [847 words]AliciaFeb 18, 2021 15:37264035
15So beautifully written. Real facts. Why Islam can't be compared to other religions [353 words]A very concerned readerFeb 19, 2021 15:43264035
5Breath Taking and True Post [15 words]ChelseaMar 16, 2021 19:18264035
27Talking about morals: to Alicia on her last post which by the way I love! [314 words]A very concerned readerFeb 16, 2021 00:03263953
18Reply to A very concerned reader [115 words]Jessica (Canada)Feb 17, 2021 00:04263953
22A mix of fear, convenience, jealousy and pride: women's role in Islam [652 words]A very concerned readerFeb 18, 2021 04:44263953
6Hi A very concerned reader [516 words]N and SFeb 18, 2021 13:06263953
17Muslims Countries vs The rest of the World [305 words]AliciaFeb 18, 2021 13:52263953
13Muslim's misgiving [167 words]PrashantFeb 18, 2021 16:33263953
14Wrong religion, wrong site! [84 words]A very concerned readerFeb 19, 2021 16:06263953
7100 percent correct [68 words]Jessica (Canada)Feb 20, 2021 01:34263953
8Well said a Very concerned reader [153 words]Jessica (Canada)Feb 20, 2021 01:52263953
12Here's a nice example [79 words]JeffFeb 20, 2021 21:21263953
8Oh, The houris... [441 words]A very concerned readerFeb 20, 2021 23:52263953
11Once again, one-sided love [66 words]A very concerned readerFeb 22, 2021 13:33263953
1Failure to Notice Where Devotion to God is Supreme in Eternity [211 words]M ToveyFeb 22, 2021 15:38263953
4Haha A concerned reader [12 words]jessica (canada)Feb 22, 2021 18:43263953
14A God with no compassion, a reward full of lust [116 words]A very concerned readerFeb 22, 2021 22:48263953
2Very well said [5 words]PrasthantFeb 23, 2021 22:09263953
11Recovery [76 words]SherryFeb 24, 2021 11:35263953
4Relationships that Serve the Prideful Self Always Breaks the Hearts of Others [366 words]M ToveyFeb 24, 2021 12:49263953
9NPD in Muslim men and Ali Sina [317 words]A very concerned readerFeb 24, 2021 13:25263953
9Very nice reflection, M Tovey: time comes when the only thing you see is the Muslim man [358 words]A very concerned readerFeb 25, 2021 01:35263953
4Objection on Religious Grounds - Men and Women Equal in Eyes of Heaven, Salvation [479 words]M ToveyFeb 26, 2021 18:53263953
9Narcissist destroy, empaths create: a selfish religion to cater one man's needs? [483 words]A very concerned readerMar 1, 2021 15:06263953
2Correction [45 words]A very concerned readerMar 1, 2021 17:43263953
3Male-Female Emotional Disparity - Seeking Common Ground of Love [342 words]M ToveyMar 2, 2021 13:31263953
5Sowing what we truly embrace and want to reap! [314 words]A very concerned readerMar 3, 2021 02:48263953
5Emotional Survival of the Most Desperate Kind [438 words]M ToveyMar 4, 2021 11:49263953
8To N and S [233 words]Lana(USA)Feb 11, 2021 21:19263845
17Thank you FAtou [88 words]BaboonFeb 9, 2021 12:49263786
9Hi Jessica [190 words]N and SFeb 9, 2021 15:57263786
10N and S [228 words]LinaFeb 9, 2021 17:05263786
19It's more dangerous than people may think [254 words]A very concerned readerFeb 10, 2021 14:57263786
8Very good points [213 words]LinaFeb 10, 2021 22:17263786
7Very true [120 words]A very concerned readerFeb 11, 2021 15:22263786
7N and S [471 words]Lana(USA)Feb 11, 2021 21:09263786
4N and S reply [645 words]jessica (canada)Feb 12, 2021 18:23263786
7Hi A very concerned reader [516 words]N and SFeb 17, 2021 16:51263786
3WEAK [23 words]alanaSep 12, 2021 07:00263786
48To Fatou/Adja, to the immigration officers of Western countries, to this forum readers. To those googling "I'm in love with a Muslim man" [812 words]A very concerned readerFeb 9, 2021 00:36263772
17I wish I could raise a toast to this [174 words]AliciaFeb 10, 2021 01:16263772
11Cheers! [230 words]A very concerned readerFeb 10, 2021 14:16263772
5Let's raise* that toast!!! [23 words]A very concerned readerFeb 10, 2021 15:11263772
11I could not agree more! [178 words]Lana(USA)Feb 11, 2021 01:10263772
19Why they don't like Christianity [713 words]A very concerned readerFeb 11, 2021 06:28263772
10Big hypocrite [222 words]Lana(USA)Feb 11, 2021 09:16263772
14Hijab and the hypocrisy of it [144 words]A very concerned readerFeb 11, 2021 15:13263772
4Where is the Truth Hiding When No One is Looking for it [233 words]M ToveyFeb 11, 2021 21:35263772
14My insight about Islam and why a Non Muslim woman can fit in this ideology [648 words]A very concerned readerFeb 14, 2021 00:18263772
2Why Non Muslim women can't fit* [14 words]A very concerned readerFeb 14, 2021 01:18263772
18Their lives and hearts are so dark [102 words]Ella AustraliaFeb 14, 2021 23:54263772
11Why they don't like Christianity [19 words]Lisa D.Feb 15, 2021 12:35263772
1Why Eternal Fulfillment is of Love/Respect is Hard to See [282 words]M ToveyFeb 15, 2021 18:02263772
7Well said, Islam has straight jacketed itself into self destruction. [139 words]PrasthantFeb 15, 2021 18:30263772
12Same feeling here, Ella, while we make great efforts to integrate their culture [144 words]A very concerned readerFeb 16, 2021 02:18263772
2Basis of Anthipathy Towards Judeo-Christian (Messianic) Beliefs [220 words]M ToveyFeb 19, 2021 21:55263772
3Great Truth teachings on Islam [99 words]SherryFeb 24, 2021 11:56263772
5Veils for answering the nature's call, the Muslim men's right to rape the unveiled women [338 words]A very concerned readerFeb 26, 2021 06:33263772
4Muslim dislike Christian / Christians have POWER over them [7 words]BrendaSep 17, 2021 15:28263772
7Hijab should not be used to exemplify diversity [274 words]PrashantFeb 7, 2021 01:39263720
21To Fatou: we wish we were discarded by your men!/ Thank us for warning you that they don't respect you either [335 words]A very concerned readerFeb 6, 2021 15:12263711
10Ladies here last comment [146 words]FatouFeb 6, 2021 09:56263707
Rat or not? [106 words]MimiAug 16, 2021 15:20263707
10Muslim Men will NEVER Marry a 53 year old Woman [243 words]AliciaAug 16, 2021 21:34263707
Female 53 years old. [102 words]MimiAug 17, 2021 14:42263707
5Hijab should not be presented as a symbol of diversity [159 words]PrashantFeb 6, 2021 01:47263699
7Hijab as a political statement [45 words]Lisa D.Feb 9, 2021 15:10263699
4Lina reply [90 words]FatouFeb 5, 2021 17:30263683
12Fatou: We wish they discard us!/ you should thank us for warning you [247 words]A very concerned readerFeb 6, 2021 14:57263683
4I would just leave it be [64 words]AjdaFeb 8, 2021 02:01263683
11Hmmm Fatou we all wonder [66 words]jessica (canada)Feb 8, 2021 11:51263683
5Ajda [7 words]FatouFeb 8, 2021 15:39263683
11Fatou's self-righteousness stinks [110 words]PrashantFeb 9, 2021 18:12263683
3Married [25 words]To Jessica canadaFeb 11, 2021 10:11263683
5Big hypocrites too!!! [263 words]Lana(USA)Feb 11, 2021 10:51263683
9Religion over Science [77 words]Lisa DFeb 11, 2021 12:35263683
5Gifts [12 words]LinaFeb 11, 2021 15:48263683
19Marriage means nothing in Islam, my dear [101 words]A very concerned readerFeb 11, 2021 18:04263683
6Reply about Married- and why are you using my name [143 words]jessica (canada)Feb 12, 2021 16:23263683
13Islam is the worst, Muslim countries will never prosper they just get worse [87 words]AliciaFeb 12, 2021 17:33263683
6Alicia is right about Islam [96 words]PrashantFeb 15, 2021 18:42263683
6Cannot say Merry Christmas in here. [43 words]Jessica (Canada)Feb 15, 2021 22:34263683
9You're very right, that's why our women need to be aware of this [300 words]A very concerned readerFeb 15, 2021 23:12263683
7Big thank you and my best wishes always [263 words]A very concerned readerFeb 15, 2021 23:37263683
2Rat?? [99 words]MimiAug 18, 2021 05:17263683
1ROP celebrations in Dhaka [184 words]PrashantApr 5, 2022 21:00263683
Another violent incidence in Tel Aviv [122 words]PrashantApr 7, 2022 21:03263683
14The true face of a real Muslim Woman [1019 words]AliciaFeb 5, 2021 13:58263674
21To Fatou: Muslimahs are deceived too. Are you surprised? [294 words]A very concerned readerFeb 5, 2021 13:14263670
4We all wait for Fatou reply to your comments [11 words]jessica (canada)Feb 8, 2021 11:56263670
2Lina [144 words]FatouFeb 5, 2021 09:16263662
1Explain to concerned reader [145 words]FatouFeb 5, 2021 09:08263661
16Your points [64 words]LinaFeb 5, 2021 13:54263661
21Correction and more unreplied questions [209 words]A very concerned readerFeb 5, 2021 14:43263661
14Purpose of the board [233 words]LinaFeb 5, 2021 17:34263661
8Things that happen in males parties and when nobody is watching [39 words]A very concerned readerFeb 5, 2021 20:01263661
12I'll take what I want from your culture and insult the rest [125 words]JeffFeb 5, 2021 20:44263661
16The reasons why Fatou is here and the controversial respect topic [290 words]A very concerned readerFeb 6, 2021 16:03263661
3Lina and other who take this tone in comments [107 words]FatouFeb 7, 2021 09:55263661
7Don't forget [144 words]LinaFeb 8, 2021 14:38263661
6Thank you [125 words]LinaFeb 8, 2021 14:48263661
5Or better still [18 words]LinaFeb 8, 2021 14:50263661
8So true, Lina [123 words]A concerned readerFeb 8, 2021 23:15263661
3Thanks to you too! [23 words]A very concerned readerFeb 8, 2021 23:52263661
8That is why Muslims (and the reader Fatou) need education [157 words]PrashantFeb 9, 2021 17:59263661
26Muslim Marriages the REAL WAY [1437 words]AliciaFeb 4, 2021 23:03263645
12What a good picture of Pakistani societal system [281 words]A very concerned readerFeb 5, 2021 13:58263645
7Yes muslim will never like non-muslim [86 words]jessica (canada)Feb 8, 2021 12:07263645
6This part is so true Alicia [387 words]jessica (canada)Feb 8, 2021 12:45263645
1Pipes Response/Our Religion [36 words]FatouFeb 4, 2021 16:31263624
3Teaching basic Arabic to wannabe Arabs our dear Fatou [241 words]dhimmi no moreFeb 5, 2021 14:14263624
4Guiding the perplexed our dear Fatou and deciphering the Arabic language [97 words]dhimmi no moreFeb 5, 2021 14:29263624
1Our dear Fatou and the word الصلوة/الصلاة (PRAYER) in the Qur'an [398 words]dhimmi no moreFeb 6, 2021 07:50263624
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AjdaFeb 8, 2021 09:53263624
23About arranged marriages: what Western women must know [299 words]A very concerned readerFeb 3, 2021 22:30263589
19In response to Fatou 2: It's all about respect [123 words]A very concerned readerFeb 3, 2021 17:55263578
10A very concerned reader: The correct translation of صلى الله عليه وسلم is not the PBUH nonsense [158 words]
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