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Don't do it hunny!!

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Submitted by Jordana Ghannam-Ahmed, Apr 10, 2018 at 17:36

Ahlen sister, I am telling you this man has MULTIPLE red flags and is not legit I'd bet my bottom dollar on it!! Take if from me, I am a middle Eastern Muslim woman (raised in the USA, my parents were refugees) who is happily married to an Egyptian man, has 4 kids, and lives in Cairo-this would be enormously suspicious across the board. My husband would say so, any Egyptian of any integrity would say so, unfortunately it's a HuGe problem in this country to the point that it's a running joke among people when they see a foreign woman with an Egyptian man they automatically assume something funny is going on and make jabs about it.

Also my own husband has had people (usually younger Egyptians from upper Egypt or just from moderate means) he's represented at work or met thru his work as an attorney have found out he's married to a US citizen and been aghast and completely unable to understand why we live and work in Egypt because the idea that we could have met via my older brother and met and married in Egypt for love and that he is not a visa Hunter is completely foreign concept to them.

And when they see I am a Muslim and don't look "American" I guess that means mini skirts and tube tops idk they dnt understand. They have such a stereotypical view of foreign women that I have been stoped more than once at the Cairo airport and had my us passport scrutinized and one officer ask me if I am American like born there, andsI said yes and he said but your father he is also American? Like staring at my last name and my face with the insinuation being that I don't look American im not blonde and looking like what they see in the movies. Rather than get into semantics with a officrr at customs about my family origins I just said yes (which is true my dad is a naturalized citizen lol) and said my husband is Egyptian and he left it at that. THAT should tell you something.

And if he hasn't introduced you to his crew and his family?! HUGE red flag! EVERY Egyptian man has a Entourage of friends trust me, it's not like usa, they have nothing to do except work (if they can find it and are educated) and hang with their male friends in the streets and coffee shops and koshks if they are unmarried. If they are older and more mature they should have married friends and large extended family and they will be quick to introduce any woman they are proud of and have honest intentions towards, and express those intentions. It's strange to me that you have been to see him and yet never spent any time at his main hangouts meeting any friends coworkers and acquaintances not to mention family.

Where did you stay and where did he stay? If you stayed together that is also a red flag as this is illegal in Egypt. My husband arranged a furnished flat for me via his friend and his wife who owns a koshk and the building for me when i stayed with him. He would spend his days and evenings with me out and about and with his friends/meeting his family at cafes or for dinner and would return to his parents flat nearby for overnights. His brothers and dad looked after me during the day if he would have to work and I needed anything from the store or shisha etc. also before my arrival he asked for my parents number and contacted them to assure them that he would look after me and they could reach him anytime, and he called my mom upon picking me up at the airport to let her know I arrived safely and the address of my flat. And then the first place he took me was to meet his close friends at their neighborhood koshk.

What did you do during your stay if he has no family and friend might I ask? So something doesn't add up here.

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