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Submitted by Chelsea, Mar 19, 2018 at 19:58

I wanted to post this and forgot....so glad you brought this to light again..Candy Apple. I wanted to say that every woman is the same. I believe that they all want the same things that we do and have the same needs. However they are oppressed and taught something differently but inside of them they are women just like us.

One thing that happened when I was overseas was that the sister of the man that I went to had been beaten and she was pregnant and she lost the baby... it fell out of her during the beating. Now she was telling me this in Arabic but I understood her because I was a woman like her and I could feel her pain and the way she was describing it with her hands I knew what she was talking about. I felt her pain. Even though we had different belief systems... at that very moment we were just two women sharing each other's pain or rather she was sharing hers with me. She was quite different from the others that I met over there in as much as she was almost wild and crazy from the things that happened to her. And I understood that about her.

Of course she was blamed for everything and it about drove her crazy... I could see it in her actions. She had to stay single for 7 years after her divorce. And one thing that I did hear from the man that I went to was that they could kill her and get away with it because she was walking the wrong way. This was unacceptable to me and I told him so. He had told me that her teenage son could kill her and that he would only go to jail for 6 months or that he may not even go to jail because she was walking the wrong way.

This is the old custom tribal traditions that has to do with honor. But she had feelings and they were the same feelings that all women have. But these women are living under a tough legal system that favors men.

Now I will tell you that the younger Middle Eastern women were only Muslim from the waist up they were very tight jeans and a headscarf and high heels. I never will forget seeing one in the store she had on orange head scarf and orange high heels to match her head scarf. These younger ones were very mean and conniving. I'm sure the culture had a lot to do with it because they had to marry before a certain age or they were undesirable. I suppose that has to do with their ability to bare children. But it was a shame for them to be in their 30s and not married.

These are some observations that I made and I feel for them. Of course there was a lot going on behind my back and I didn't see everything of it but I saw it enough of it to know that it was very oppressive and that this woman had suffer tremendously at the hands of an evil man. And that she was indeed a woman like me and felt intense grief from that experience.

I did see some women in the full hijab. And it was hot and they were covered completely. Men wore what they wanted to. The ones in the full hijab we're mostly beggers. When I went to the more westernized part of the city is where I saw the ones in the tight jeans. I mean I don't understand how these girls got into them. But I will say that they have a opinion about American women which is wrong. I suppose they see it from Hollywood. They think that American women are all filthy and all sleep around and drink alcohol and smoke cigarettes. And we all know that is not true. But they do paint us with the same brush. If you get my drift. ;)

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