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True but Keep In Mind...Reader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by Jordana Ghannam-Ahmed (United States), Nov 7, 2016 at 02:43 Jessie, Yes I can attest to the fact that there are wonderful MENA men to be had in the world, just as there are wonderful men of all races and ethnicities imho. Sure I, and Luhx, who is a friend of mine, both have amazing husbands and in laws who happen to be from Egypt and we have been blessed with marriages of equals in all respects. Yet we are hardly the rule and norm-its probly more likely that we are the exception among western women anyways who marry MENA men (I consider myself American for practicality sake however in truth I am also middle Eastern and holder of a complex citizenship arrangement due to my father being a refugee and some technicalities over the Palestinian territories at the current time but that is neither here nor there) . I think u meant well, but please don't ever say you're "better than that" which insinuates that somehow those who end up getting scammed somehow are lesser than in the human department and that their own shortcomings are somehow to blame or that you are immune to their kind of heartbreak because of your perceived strengths. If this was a game played with logic, then we could assume everyone was on level playing fields here but it's not, given the right circumstances, normally intelligent and skeptical people become like putty in the hands of scammers because for whatever reason (normally it is going to be romance or love) they broke outside their normal routine and habits and opened up crucial vulnerabilities that these scammers are pros at exploiting and this IS their bread and butter it's their claim to fame, don't you think they are going to be decent at it? If they weren't good at scamming or were morally opposed to it, they'd def have a good day job and settle for a normal happy life however God is prepared to deal it to them, and wed never hear another headline story about love scams again end of story. I know you have defined and defended your relationship and man here for is but in the big swing of things, I don't think it's wise to boast or make declarations yet-youve not married this man yet, much less shared a life for a number or years and navigated life's ins and outs and daily grind and decisions with him. You didn't meet him through a friend or family member or via totally organic and natural means you met him online via an app. Idk about others in my situation but when I was introduced to my husband and we become friends via Facebook (he worked with my brother in an intl. Company and I thought he was handsome and my brother recruited him to coach me with my Arabic studies) if I had found that he had a profile on any apps like Tindr, Badoo, whatever those other ones are called I forget, or any dating or singles websites or even Facebook groups I would never consider him a serious prospect no matter what the hell he told me or what my "heart" says, because my common sense and logic KNOWS that MENA men from good backgrounds with decent intentions and aspirations DO NOT have accounts like these as the very idea and purpose is counterintuitive to their lifestyle and beliefs. This is just the truth, and I knoe it's hard for western women to see the truth in this because they subconsciously are comparing them to the western men and that is truly an apples to oranges situation. I'm not saying your guy IS or isnt good or bad but I would say you ought to check back in 5-7 years and update us and see if you are still singing the same tune and what real progress the relationship has made in that time. It isn't fair to pass judgement on othersothers when you haven't made it to a position of objectivity in your own situation and relationship Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. Reasoned disagreement is welcome but not comments that are scurrilous, off-topic, commercial, disparaging religions, or otherwise inappropriate. For complete regulations, see the "Guidelines for Reader Comments". Reader comments (21923) on this item
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