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Baby Blue & Green Card Issue/Marriage RelationsReader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by LeMew (United States), Oct 10, 2016 at 16:40 In our situation, he already has all that is needed and is working here. We are traveling state to state, and going to Egypt together next month. He could have already pulled a "90 day fiancee me like that guy on the show now. However he never came over on a fiancee visa. He already had a VISA and was able to come here on his own without any help from me. He could leave me anytime to be honest. Also, I guess I should mention we aren't really like most couples I know. This is something we were just talking about last night actually before we went to sleep. We've been together two years just about living together, and in that time we have spent a total of five days apart. Every other time we have traveled it's together. We never go out without each other (if we go out with friends it's a group thing) In fact, we were kind of laughing about it maybe not being healthy because we've literally spent every single day and night and weekend with each other BUT - I have always been kind of a "one person" person. If I had a best friend, it was pretty typical that I put most of my effort in that friendship. I never had large groups of friends and never wanted to have three or four different "best" friends in my life like some other people. So, for me it just came very naturally for me to have my husband in that role of a best friend and it doesn't really seem abnormal that we don't spent any time apart. Some people would say this is co-dependency, but honestly I just don't want to spend my time without him. I like that we have weekends that we dont leave the house, or that we go on double dates together. I never wanted the kind of marriage where the girls have "girls night" and go to clubs and drink... Or have a husband who does that either. It's very hard to explain the dynamic of a relationship to people who don't see or interact with you. & I don't honestly expect anyone to really grasp what I have with my husband through words on a computer screen. But it is very frustrating as a woman, to have total strangers who literally know only a few paragraphs about you tell you ..."Wait until two years are up." Or "Wait until he gets older and becomes more into his religion" or "Wait until you have a baby" or "Wait until you move to Egypt" It's like, literally no matter WHAT I say/reveal or share even through facebook as a window into my actual marriage there will ALWAYS be a "WAIT UNTIL" when you are on this message board. So from where I stand, in a very happy marriage and with a man who is so much more than my husband... I would be an idiot to sit around "WAITING UNTIL....." and dreading some future "shoe to drop".... Honestly, nobody can tell you how your marriage will be in two more years, in five more years, in ten more years. ANY marriage can suddenly change. ANY man can cheat at some point. ANY man could start to become verbally abusive/aggressive. ANY man could become a total asshole. ANY man could fall out of love. So could any WOMAN. But this is not delegated strictly to people of a certain religion, or country. The divorce rate in this county is insane, and there aren't that many Muslim/Non Muslim couples to blame that on. Spousal Abuse is RAMPANT, and so is spouses who end up killing each other. We can't blame that on Muslim/Non Muslim relationships. It's just honestly sad that no matter what you say on this forum some people always fall back on "WAIT UNTIL" like they just cannot accept that there are actually happy & healthy marriages with a Muslim man and a Non Muslim woman. This blog is really more about women who find these men online, or on vacation. Who have huge age differences. Who are sending money. Who are CLEARLY being used/cheated on/scammed. There are not many average married couples here to say "Hey, I'm happy, and he's Muslim" and I think it's important to remember that we do exist. Submitting....
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