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His behavior is weird but unfortunately not uncommonReader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by Sheila (Austria), Jul 18, 2016 at 12:14 Dear Alexandra, Thanks for the update. Although I wish I could give further advice on this, I'm afraid I cannot explain your guy's behavior in telling you that he loves, than that he doesn't love you but likes you (if I understood well). The only explanation that I could advance from personal experience is that either (i) he got tired of this long distance thing (ii) he has (or already had) someone and/or (iii) he is just acting like an idiot. In any of these cases, it's not inherent to him being Moroccan, but just to him being an idiot, as any man from any origin can end up being. To give a few more details on my experience, my Moroccan ex would say that he loved me one day and then, often after disputes (but really random disputes, such as a guy liking/commenting my picture in FaceBook, at the time it was a relatively new platform so I spent A LOT of time on it). My Moroccan ex would then make comments such as "you disgust me" or "I don't know why I waist my time with such a useless girl" or even "how the hell could I have thought I loved such a disgusting girl" etc. (I know the word "disgust" came often). But after a few hours (sometimes days) he would come back and apologize and says he loves me and blabla blabla (this is another red flag: mistreating emotionally than coming back to you saying how much he cares and didn't mean it...) I also used to wonder how can someone show/express/say so much love and, from one day to another, be so emotionally distant. I never got an answer at the time, but I did find out eventually that he cheated on me quite regularly and that everyone knew but me. So that could have been a reason. Now, this is my own experience (despite the fact that it seems many many people have lived similar stuff). I saw a post from Lisa, which I agree with: some stories do work out just fine. But again: please remember the cultural differences that exist especially when the person has lived his entire life - let alone who is still living - in a country such as Morocco, which is a HUGE cultural difference than with western countries. It's just a different culture that most westernized people have difficulties to adjust to, and that leads to forums such as this one.... I'm just saying that it really isn't a coincidence. At the end of the day, the ball is in your court. I truly believe that you are now well informed by reading various experiences - successful and least successful ones - and that it will ultimately depend on your compatibility with the man you are talking about in your post or any other man. It is no secret that cultural differences can be a challenge, whether it's because of different religions, different backgrounds, different countries, etc. But it can work. As an example, I am now in a very long term relationship with a typical classic Austrian man: blond, blue eyes, catholic, German speaking (I am Swiss but from the French speaking side) etc...and I'm black, African, Muslim, French speaker! So hey, it happens. But I do believe that the main reason why its working out so well with my man is because we both have a western education and have been exposed to similar things, and that our families - despite the (very) different cultures they have - have both been exposed/acquainted to each others cultures and that they are opened minded about it. This helps. However there are some tough cultural realities, such as not being able to go to my country of origin with him if he's not by husband or the (at first) shame that my parents didn't bother hiding when we announced that we were moving in together (now they are totally OK with it and visit often). But he knew all this early enough and didn't run away despite the cultural differences :) Good luck to you and I hope you get clarifications on why your guy is acting weird. And if he's really a doctor , it's already a good sign, as in most third world countries education equals more chances of people being open to accepting different cultures. All the best xx I Submitting....
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