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I need adviceReader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by Faraula (Russia), Oct 23, 2015 at 10:38 I'm married to an Egyptian. We met in Hurghada, when I was on vacation. I already had heard about the Egyptians was not the first time in Egypt. Then I was 23 years old and he told me that he was 25. I thought I was not so old and ugly, I was used to. I always had the man's attention, and in Egypt, I was not the first time. When we start live together I found his the documents and saw that he was a year younger than me, he said . 1 Year - it's not much , but since I was 23 then , it was strange ... he was 22 , but said that 25 I thought why he lied ? I did not tell him about it then , I thought that I did not put in a comfortable position ( now I think it was necessary ) When we decided not to be in Hurghada for a long time and he wanted to return to Cairo and we wanted to get married there . We thought we live in Cairo and thought that we would do there . He said that his family can help. I asked how? He said that several family members each month make a certain amount and when someone needs a large amount - he takes it and returns every month , and so the circle can take each and return . It looked like a bank, but without interest . He had the idea to open a store or buy apartment renovated , if there is enough money and this "family care " would help . We decided that for the good of our future so we can give money every month in the amount of about $ 500 , it should be added , too, as soon as all is well with the work . It so happened that I was at home, send money 3 times , and each time a little more , because he said it was better so we can collect the amount bystree.Kogda I came to prepare documents for marriage , but without the right amount of money month because she wanted him to pay - I did it when a problem with his aunt , which he said kept all the money . So they had a fight and I thought , because we missed payments and get out of the system. Then I did not like that they quarrel because of the money , it was in the next room , and I did not understand Arabic. I said I can do it ourselves and we need to pick up the money . But he told me that the money should be returned. We get married , that my aunt did not come to the wedding. I thought it was really a big problem with them. But the money did not come back , and so we went to Hurghada where we were comfortably live and he returned to the hotel. I did not forget about this money , it's not millions , but the fact . He promised that after nekotrye time they must return . Soon we decided to go to Russia to my parents in the New Year . Before that, we make it a family visa in Cairo and were at home with his parents . By the time I can speak a little Arabic and I was alone with a paper with western union, I sent him before the wedding for the "family of the banking system ." His mother look like she dont understand what i mean. I would like to know when there will be money . He did not understand what it was about , or did not know when there will be money ... I asked to ask her sister , which had a row my husband , but she said she does not talk to her now ( her sister did not even come to our wedding and everything It looks , the truth is a problem in the family ) .After she came to me and said that it is necessary to wait , because every member takes the money and yet our turn . My husband was with her , and they tried to convince me that everything is as they say . They said that the money will be given in October of next year, as the entire "cycle" has not been completed . I stared at them in disbelief and thought that one day I know everything . So, come October, and when I ask him about the money he was nervous and said that he would give me. After he said that his family does not have time for this , his cousin was sick and they were in the hospital ( she really was sick when I was in Cairo I saw ) . But I told him to give money as they said - did not take long , and it is needed. Once I wrote a message of his aunt and asked about the money and it also looked as if she did not understand what it was about , I wrote to her through an interpreter . But I think it was clear that we are talking about money and about her husband . My husband , after saying , why I wrote it . As a result, he said that his family does not know !!! I thought, how ??? If his mother had told me a year ago that money back in October of next year, and I tried to prove that this is so. And he said the same thing. And I remember his words before the wedding about our plans, it would be good for us. And I believed it. I told him, then his mother lied to me and it, too? He said his mother did not know about this situation, about that money and he told her that she needed me to say, he admitted it, he told her so, and she told me about October. After that I got mad at him and began to ask the divorce. He requested, and asks for forgiveness, understands that this is a mistake. But how can you? Or I do not understand something. I'm not a terrible old woman to use. I was 23 when we met , going to get married and when this scheme with the money I was declared as a "family care " . When I tell him that his mother lied to get me . He says, I do not say that about my mom and that he told her that she was talking to me. Maybe his family smiled at me, because they, too, he said, smile to my wife ? He apologizes and says that all love me . I asked him for a divorce , but he wrote to me and said that he realized his mistake , and what he thinks about the good . 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