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CONTINUING MY JOURNEY

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Submitted by littlelemon (Australia), Sep 23, 2015 at 14:16

Shortly after i wrote this, we did rekindle. We made up, he apologized, we promised eachother the world that things would get better and also we should definitely take stronger steps towards marraige.

Since then I have also fallen back into an extremely horrible trap that has lead to even a stronger cycle of abuse, now he grabs me, manipulates me, holds me against my will in his car, smashes things around me, curses to me in his language, turns on me at the flick of a switch and contunuiously devalues me.

I just want to be honest and i hope i can reach out to one woman- this is my journey. I have permanent trauma that will stick with me for the rest of my life- it will take months for me to recover. This has lead me to file a Violence restraining order against this man- i would like to share this with you, Read and learn because the biggest regret i have had in my life is falling victim to this horrible person that calls himself a "man".

Psychological abuse has affected me more then the physical ever did. The continuous devaluation of my self esteem will take time to rebuild. On a monday night after a full day of begging him to be kind to me and respect/appeiciate me... We fought. I fought, i fought for freedom. To have a voice. To safe myself from completely going crazy. It became do or die for me, i tried to wait for a calm moment to leave, there was no calm with this man... with the blink of an eye, a wrong look, a wrong word from me or anyone else related to me would unleash this wild man who took the oxygen out of my lungs- not ever did anyone treat me this way! I was brainwashed once again... I believed everything was me, it was my family, it was my western ways... It was my weakness, my insecurities, my lack of good spirit and my weakness deep within..

I relapsed into self harm, i relapsed into not working, not leaving from the house, crying crying and crying, yelling and pleading with God above- WHY ME! what have i done wrong in my life to deserve such treatment? is there a God? I questioned EVERYTHING.

My relationship with this man was so unstable- my life was on the line and i knew something had to change before it was too late. Looking back at how much I suffered and how I still managed to recover as best i could with the time i had shocks me, he started forgetting about me. He was so preoccupied seeking approval, the man i met was merely a man at all. He was a little child seeking approval from anyone who would hear him out. The relationship he had with his single mother was sickly- but i took time to see these things- Eventually the physical abuse got so unbearable that I went to see a psychologist- an angel. A person who just got me, she got the cycle she knew i needed help and i needed it fast. My first session with her I think i just cried and asked why me.. it took me a couple of sessions to finally open up and speak for real about exactly what was going on throughout the year and a half. She was not only understanding but also tough, she stood her ground and told me I was in a cycle and the only way to win the game would be to leave, she said i had a long road ahead and i would have to completely destroy myself before I actually understood myself. She told me I needed protection, and The only people who could offer me protection to get away from this man was indeed the police- I was dumbfounded, I didnt believe her and I definitely was not ready to leave yet..

CRAZY isnt it?? most women would be out of there in a jiffy, but the manipulation of this man, he was a master. As the weeks rolled over the cycle fastened, I was exhausted my energy was completely depleted, i had no motivation, i didnt work or catch up with friends I WAS JUST EXISTING. but I wouldnt go on medication, the only problem that neeeded to be abolished was this MALE out of my life. The hardest day of my life so far was when he physically harmed me the night before- and then the following day he ignored me? he didnt answer my calls or messages... I was apologizing for raising my voice and telling him that it wasnt going to work but he didnt apologize once for assulting me... Infact - it completely was out of his mind- no big deal right? its not like I was bleeding so it all became ACCEPTABLE. He said he didnt want me anymore ( again ) that i was no good and mentally sick, he told me i was mad and crazy and brainwashed.
I was raging, i had hit rock bottom. His mother was screaming to me on the phone (again) he was raging and cursing and i had absolutely had enough, That was my limit. there was no remorse from him. like a sick serial killer- he didnt acknowledge that HE was infact a physically abusive male just like his father, and a mental abuser just like his mother. HE was actually a result of two unstable arranged people that brought children into this world because they had to carry on the name. CRAZY.

I rang the police- I spoke to a domestic violence advocate and she said to me...
Hi littlelemon, i was expecting your call. I have been speaking to your psychollogist, now please tell me how we can help you? We are all here to protect you, to support you and to bring you back to life.

I cried. Why were they so nice? why were they so caring and understanding? it took two months of psychology and i was finally at a point where I now understood the game of abuse the cycle!

I told them the events that unfolded that night, that he was now pulling away and that I need to save the sanity that I have left within me and fight for my human rights! My mother and father took me to court that day to fill out forms but I couldnt, would i regret it? maybe id write the wrong thing? maybe i wasnt ready? I love my mum and dad so much and i will forever pray to be even half the people they are. The support they offered aswell as my sisters and brotherinlaws is unmeasurable. I am forever greatful and indebted to them- God knows if it wasnt for them... I wouldnt be here typing.

The following day I was picked up by a lovely police woman, an advocate for domestic violence... And she got me, she listened... We spoke- she explained the process of court and standing before a magistrate to tell your story... The stress and nerves were out of control! He had no idea what was coming for him- even though i warned him many times to stop harming me- or i would get a court order- he laughed it off... He knew I was WEAK..

I arrived at the Magistrates court. I took a ticket and I sat down. I was at the end seat of the last aisle waiting for my ticket to be called. All of a sudden I was bumped nearly off my chair! I sort of continued looking at the TV not paying attention to who walked into me. Within the blink of an eye the police woman that came with me to court jumped off her chair and said in a panic 'get up, get up now' I lathargically got off my chair- I thought it was my time to be seen in the court room. She said 'hurry up, look at those people do you know them?' I was speechless, i looked up and a muslim woman and man, they bumped me. Not only did they bump me, but she believed that they were here for me. 'do they look familiar hurry up' I looked up, I didnt know them. 'no i have never seen them! it was probably just a coincidence'i shrugged it off. 'well they are here for you, they are staring at you and they are watching you, go outside and wait for my instructions, i think they are dangerous'. I was in a panic, I burst out crying and I hurried outside, i was now running from not just one man? but a whole culture. this was much bigger then what i had thought. I was frantic, i had my head in my hands and I cant even remember but I looked up and there was three security guards surrounding me, pushing me about running me to an upper level- a secure level.

I have never been in fear so much. These people were here, they were following me. And just because he pulled away he still had eyes on me. Within ten minutes I was in court up before two magistrates, defending my protection and why I needed this order, it was the hardest decision- I was half full of sorrow and half of regret, WHY! How could I regret this after everything? After a YEar and a half of suffering part of me still wanted to protect HIM and love him... But before I knew it the order was granted. I also found out he was 31. he lied about his age by over three years- He had previous convictions of his father getting police protection so my boyfriend couldnt hurt him. He chased people out of placed with knives and got into a few hectic fights, The police gave all his info to me, I couldnt believe it. I was going out with a LIAR aswell!

I walked out of court and I sort of felt a huge wave of emotions... regret, freedom, new life, loneliness, immense fear, safety, hate, anger, resentment, unsure of my future. I was ALL over the place.

The police advised me to get out of my house and leave my job for a month. I wasnt safe. I gathered up my stuff and I stayed with family far away from home. Before he knew the order was in place, he text me, called me, emailed me, apologized i love you im sorry ill change its my work, my family, my lifestyle, he blamed himself and pulled all the strings he could. He sent me the biggest love stories but i continued to ignore. He sent flowers to my work and my home saying I love you and I always will.

HE told me everything, how he wanted to marry me how i was great and beautiful and the best and he couldnt do better and he would leave the country if he couldnt be with me. I cried so hard for so long, i regretted the restraning order and everything i had done, i questioned myself now. The police went to his work and informed him of my actions, that he would no longer be able to contact me, call me, see me, be anywhere near me or have any communication with me. He cried to the officers and asked them why? he played victim. He was so good at it.

He went to my work with the papers and said to my sisters Í dont deserve this'.
They asked him to leave before they called the police. HE said ýour sister is crazy"

I felt so horrible after reading all these emotional messages, I picked up my phone and I called him.
He was crying and apologizing so saddend and desperate for forgiveness. We bargained and I told him To go and get psychological help- and I would then lift the restraining order and throughout that I would be there to breach my own order and contact him and be there to support him ( i knew how it felt to be alone ) But the cycle of hate love hate love break up marry went on and on.

He then resented me because of the order and put me down even more. I said i was sorry and regretted putting the order on him.

I breached the order, we hung out, he told me what I wanted to hear, it lasted two days, and my family watched me again tumble into a lions den. We bumped into his mother at the shopping center coincidentally and she completely ignored me like I didnt even exist! I got so angry and I felt to rejected that we had an amazing argument again. I brought movie tickets for us, and after that i told him to just take me home. His mother was angry at me for sending police to the house and waking her son up to speak on the phone at midnight. I told him... My mother should have killed you by now. You ruined my life, ive left my own business, ive self harmed and needed psychological help, ive been putting my family through hell for a year, ive destroyed myself because of your words, my parents have watch me bleed through banaids and sat with me in hospital and through mettings and appointments, they have convinced me that in worthy and good enough because you stripped me of my confidence, they have watch me isolate myself and hide away in a shell, they have watched me go crazy and yell and scream and cry to be accepted and loved by you AND YOUR MOTHER HAD THE HEART TO IGNORE ME BECAUSE OF TWO POLICE!!

I was so furious, he started lying saying he wasnt seeing me or speaking to me, I was now a secret. So ofcourse my confidence is even more stripped. I feel like a blob of nothing. how dare that family belittle me so much. He protects his mother yet throws me into a Den of Lions. and this is love? THIS IS HORROR. I Wouldnt wish this upon my enemy. But unfortunately or fortunately- This is my story. I had choices, we all have choices... I chose to Forgive.

I had wonderful advise from a Nun from the catholic church-
She said love is not a tap. It cant be turned off and on. Love flows unconditionally through your heart and you cant switch it off.
You will feel pain. But the greatest way to overcome this and to recover your broken heart is to now channel that love that used to go to this man, and redirect it and send it up to god. :) Love god and pray and he will heal your broken heart.

I am now in the process of understanding I have an addiction to this man and his approval- just the way he wanted too. I am looking forward to set myself free when the time is right but the retraining order still stands. HE is so unstable and all I do is love unconditionally= IT has everything to do with religion.

DONT go near muslims- they need to be with there own kind. someone who gets it! who has been raised with no love so when the minimim is shown to them they feel so whole. But we come from a book that preaches love and good doings-

May God bless all women - I am trying my best to help myself now. It has been a long road and just when i thought is was over it was just the beginning.

SAVE YOURSELF FROM THIS !

I love each and every one of you and your kind souls. I thank my parents and family for sticking my me and watch me fail and hurt. They are amazing and I am so lucky and thank God for them every single day.

No matter what they are my number ones. I LOVE YOU! :}

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6Message for Mimi [59 words]PrashantSep 28, 2021 13:26264747
Ciao [1362 words]MimiSep 29, 2021 14:34264747
2Bună Spice [95 words]MimiSep 29, 2021 17:29264747
Allora buona fortuna - In Seeking Contentment [35 words]M ToveySep 30, 2021 19:05264747
11Mental Torment [324 words]ChelseaOct 3, 2021 18:18264747
1Bună Spice [109 words]MIMIOct 10, 2021 15:45264747
5Strength of Woman's Identity Not Tied to Any Man [172 words]M ToveyOct 11, 2021 16:36264747
1Bună Spice [103 words]MimiOct 12, 2021 16:19264747
3Islam is Easy on the Muslim Man - Its Record Speaks for Itself [170 words]M ToveyOct 12, 2021 18:58264747
1Bună Spice [337 words]MimiOct 13, 2021 13:11264747
5Empty Promises Lead to Empty Hearts - Seek Spiritual Truth First [199 words]M ToveyOct 14, 2021 12:20264747
3Curious [54 words]SherryOct 17, 2021 15:08264747
Resposta para Mimi [35 words]AleJan 30, 2022 15:56264747
Rat or not [175 words]MimiJan 31, 2022 13:42264747
4Do Not Be Enticed - An Empty Heart Cannot Be Filled with Empty Promsies [158 words]M ToveyJan 31, 2022 17:42264747
9Do you want my opinion? [133 words]Robin M.Feb 8, 2022 15:02264747
Rat or not [179 words]MimiFeb 9, 2022 13:59264747
4Time to let go [62 words]Robin M.Feb 9, 2022 16:38264747
Rat or not [92 words]MimiJun 23, 2022 16:27264747
2Money scamming is not the main reason [148 words]PrashantJun 24, 2022 08:49264747
Rat or not [249 words]MimiJun 24, 2022 13:12264747
3Overcoming a Fear of Separation Anxiety - Insincerity is the Witness Seen in this Delusion [239 words]M ToveyJun 25, 2022 00:00264747
2Be careful [41 words]Catherine Elaine PeppersFeb 4, 2023 14:50264747
good evening catherine [208 words]MimiFeb 5, 2023 16:02264747
20To Brainwashed Smasher about the true meaning of nikah [505 words]A very concerned readerMar 1, 2021 01:44264398
16To Sherry: Veils for answering the nature's call, the Muslim men's right to rape the unveiled women [345 words]A very concerned readerFeb 26, 2021 14:24264318
25About the houris [690 words]A very concerned readerFeb 23, 2021 00:17264210
22To N and S: some replies to your questions and resources for you! [632 words]A very concerned readerFeb 18, 2021 18:26264041
36Long Live the Non-Muslim [847 words]AliciaFeb 18, 2021 15:37264035
15So beautifully written. Real facts. Why Islam can't be compared to other religions [353 words]A very concerned readerFeb 19, 2021 15:43264035
5Breath Taking and True Post [15 words]ChelseaMar 16, 2021 19:18264035
27Talking about morals: to Alicia on her last post which by the way I love! [314 words]A very concerned readerFeb 16, 2021 00:03263953
18Reply to A very concerned reader [115 words]Jessica (Canada)Feb 17, 2021 00:04263953
22A mix of fear, convenience, jealousy and pride: women's role in Islam [652 words]A very concerned readerFeb 18, 2021 04:44263953
6Hi A very concerned reader [516 words]N and SFeb 18, 2021 13:06263953
17Muslims Countries vs The rest of the World [305 words]AliciaFeb 18, 2021 13:52263953
13Muslim's misgiving [167 words]PrashantFeb 18, 2021 16:33263953
14Wrong religion, wrong site! [84 words]A very concerned readerFeb 19, 2021 16:06263953
7100 percent correct [68 words]Jessica (Canada)Feb 20, 2021 01:34263953
8Well said a Very concerned reader [153 words]Jessica (Canada)Feb 20, 2021 01:52263953
12Here's a nice example [79 words]JeffFeb 20, 2021 21:21263953
8Oh, The houris... [441 words]A very concerned readerFeb 20, 2021 23:52263953
11Once again, one-sided love [66 words]A very concerned readerFeb 22, 2021 13:33263953
1Failure to Notice Where Devotion to God is Supreme in Eternity [211 words]M ToveyFeb 22, 2021 15:38263953
4Haha A concerned reader [12 words]jessica (canada)Feb 22, 2021 18:43263953
14A God with no compassion, a reward full of lust [116 words]A very concerned readerFeb 22, 2021 22:48263953
2Very well said [5 words]PrasthantFeb 23, 2021 22:09263953
11Recovery [76 words]SherryFeb 24, 2021 11:35263953
4Relationships that Serve the Prideful Self Always Breaks the Hearts of Others [366 words]M ToveyFeb 24, 2021 12:49263953
9NPD in Muslim men and Ali Sina [317 words]A very concerned readerFeb 24, 2021 13:25263953
9Very nice reflection, M Tovey: time comes when the only thing you see is the Muslim man [358 words]A very concerned readerFeb 25, 2021 01:35263953
4Objection on Religious Grounds - Men and Women Equal in Eyes of Heaven, Salvation [479 words]M ToveyFeb 26, 2021 18:53263953
9Narcissist destroy, empaths create: a selfish religion to cater one man's needs? [483 words]A very concerned readerMar 1, 2021 15:06263953
2Correction [45 words]A very concerned readerMar 1, 2021 17:43263953
3Male-Female Emotional Disparity - Seeking Common Ground of Love [342 words]M ToveyMar 2, 2021 13:31263953
5Sowing what we truly embrace and want to reap! [314 words]A very concerned readerMar 3, 2021 02:48263953
5Emotional Survival of the Most Desperate Kind [438 words]M ToveyMar 4, 2021 11:49263953
8To N and S [233 words]Lana(USA)Feb 11, 2021 21:19263845
17Thank you FAtou [88 words]BaboonFeb 9, 2021 12:49263786
9Hi Jessica [190 words]N and SFeb 9, 2021 15:57263786
10N and S [228 words]LinaFeb 9, 2021 17:05263786
19It's more dangerous than people may think [254 words]A very concerned readerFeb 10, 2021 14:57263786
8Very good points [213 words]LinaFeb 10, 2021 22:17263786
7Very true [120 words]A very concerned readerFeb 11, 2021 15:22263786
7N and S [471 words]Lana(USA)Feb 11, 2021 21:09263786
4N and S reply [645 words]jessica (canada)Feb 12, 2021 18:23263786
7Hi A very concerned reader [516 words]N and SFeb 17, 2021 16:51263786
3WEAK [23 words]alanaSep 12, 2021 07:00263786
48To Fatou/Adja, to the immigration officers of Western countries, to this forum readers. To those googling "I'm in love with a Muslim man" [812 words]A very concerned readerFeb 9, 2021 00:36263772
17I wish I could raise a toast to this [174 words]AliciaFeb 10, 2021 01:16263772
11Cheers! [230 words]A very concerned readerFeb 10, 2021 14:16263772
5Let's raise* that toast!!! [23 words]A very concerned readerFeb 10, 2021 15:11263772
11I could not agree more! [178 words]Lana(USA)Feb 11, 2021 01:10263772
19Why they don't like Christianity [713 words]A very concerned readerFeb 11, 2021 06:28263772
10Big hypocrite [222 words]Lana(USA)Feb 11, 2021 09:16263772
14Hijab and the hypocrisy of it [144 words]A very concerned readerFeb 11, 2021 15:13263772
4Where is the Truth Hiding When No One is Looking for it [233 words]M ToveyFeb 11, 2021 21:35263772
14My insight about Islam and why a Non Muslim woman can fit in this ideology [648 words]A very concerned readerFeb 14, 2021 00:18263772
2Why Non Muslim women can't fit* [14 words]A very concerned readerFeb 14, 2021 01:18263772
18Their lives and hearts are so dark [102 words]Ella AustraliaFeb 14, 2021 23:54263772
11Why they don't like Christianity [19 words]Lisa D.Feb 15, 2021 12:35263772
1Why Eternal Fulfillment is of Love/Respect is Hard to See [282 words]M ToveyFeb 15, 2021 18:02263772
7Well said, Islam has straight jacketed itself into self destruction. [139 words]PrasthantFeb 15, 2021 18:30263772
12Same feeling here, Ella, while we make great efforts to integrate their culture [144 words]A very concerned readerFeb 16, 2021 02:18263772
2Basis of Anthipathy Towards Judeo-Christian (Messianic) Beliefs [220 words]M ToveyFeb 19, 2021 21:55263772
3Great Truth teachings on Islam [99 words]SherryFeb 24, 2021 11:56263772
5Veils for answering the nature's call, the Muslim men's right to rape the unveiled women [338 words]A very concerned readerFeb 26, 2021 06:33263772
4Muslim dislike Christian / Christians have POWER over them [7 words]BrendaSep 17, 2021 15:28263772
7Hijab should not be used to exemplify diversity [274 words]PrashantFeb 7, 2021 01:39263720
21To Fatou: we wish we were discarded by your men!/ Thank us for warning you that they don't respect you either [335 words]A very concerned readerFeb 6, 2021 15:12263711
10Ladies here last comment [146 words]FatouFeb 6, 2021 09:56263707
Rat or not? [106 words]MimiAug 16, 2021 15:20263707
10Muslim Men will NEVER Marry a 53 year old Woman [243 words]AliciaAug 16, 2021 21:34263707
Female 53 years old. [102 words]MimiAug 17, 2021 14:42263707
5Hijab should not be presented as a symbol of diversity [159 words]PrashantFeb 6, 2021 01:47263699
7Hijab as a political statement [45 words]Lisa D.Feb 9, 2021 15:10263699
4Lina reply [90 words]FatouFeb 5, 2021 17:30263683
12Fatou: We wish they discard us!/ you should thank us for warning you [247 words]A very concerned readerFeb 6, 2021 14:57263683
4I would just leave it be [64 words]AjdaFeb 8, 2021 02:01263683
11Hmmm Fatou we all wonder [66 words]jessica (canada)Feb 8, 2021 11:51263683
5Ajda [7 words]FatouFeb 8, 2021 15:39263683
11Fatou's self-righteousness stinks [110 words]PrashantFeb 9, 2021 18:12263683
3Married [25 words]To Jessica canadaFeb 11, 2021 10:11263683
5Big hypocrites too!!! [263 words]Lana(USA)Feb 11, 2021 10:51263683
9Religion over Science [77 words]Lisa DFeb 11, 2021 12:35263683
5Gifts [12 words]LinaFeb 11, 2021 15:48263683
19Marriage means nothing in Islam, my dear [101 words]A very concerned readerFeb 11, 2021 18:04263683
6Reply about Married- and why are you using my name [143 words]jessica (canada)Feb 12, 2021 16:23263683
13Islam is the worst, Muslim countries will never prosper they just get worse [87 words]AliciaFeb 12, 2021 17:33263683
6Alicia is right about Islam [96 words]PrashantFeb 15, 2021 18:42263683
6Cannot say Merry Christmas in here. [43 words]Jessica (Canada)Feb 15, 2021 22:34263683
9You're very right, that's why our women need to be aware of this [300 words]A very concerned readerFeb 15, 2021 23:12263683
7Big thank you and my best wishes always [263 words]A very concerned readerFeb 15, 2021 23:37263683
2Rat?? [99 words]MimiAug 18, 2021 05:17263683
1ROP celebrations in Dhaka [184 words]PrashantApr 5, 2022 21:00263683
Another violent incidence in Tel Aviv [122 words]PrashantApr 7, 2022 21:03263683
14The true face of a real Muslim Woman [1019 words]AliciaFeb 5, 2021 13:58263674
21To Fatou: Muslimahs are deceived too. Are you surprised? [294 words]A very concerned readerFeb 5, 2021 13:14263670
4We all wait for Fatou reply to your comments [11 words]jessica (canada)Feb 8, 2021 11:56263670
2Lina [144 words]FatouFeb 5, 2021 09:16263662
1Explain to concerned reader [145 words]FatouFeb 5, 2021 09:08263661
16Your points [64 words]LinaFeb 5, 2021 13:54263661
21Correction and more unreplied questions [209 words]A very concerned readerFeb 5, 2021 14:43263661
14Purpose of the board [233 words]LinaFeb 5, 2021 17:34263661
8Things that happen in males parties and when nobody is watching [39 words]A very concerned readerFeb 5, 2021 20:01263661
12I'll take what I want from your culture and insult the rest [125 words]JeffFeb 5, 2021 20:44263661
16The reasons why Fatou is here and the controversial respect topic [290 words]A very concerned readerFeb 6, 2021 16:03263661
3Lina and other who take this tone in comments [107 words]FatouFeb 7, 2021 09:55263661
7Don't forget [144 words]LinaFeb 8, 2021 14:38263661
6Thank you [125 words]LinaFeb 8, 2021 14:48263661
5Or better still [18 words]LinaFeb 8, 2021 14:50263661
8So true, Lina [123 words]A concerned readerFeb 8, 2021 23:15263661
3Thanks to you too! [23 words]A very concerned readerFeb 8, 2021 23:52263661
8That is why Muslims (and the reader Fatou) need education [157 words]PrashantFeb 9, 2021 17:59263661
26Muslim Marriages the REAL WAY [1437 words]AliciaFeb 4, 2021 23:03263645
12What a good picture of Pakistani societal system [281 words]A very concerned readerFeb 5, 2021 13:58263645
7Yes muslim will never like non-muslim [86 words]jessica (canada)Feb 8, 2021 12:07263645
6This part is so true Alicia [387 words]jessica (canada)Feb 8, 2021 12:45263645
1Pipes Response/Our Religion [36 words]FatouFeb 4, 2021 16:31263624
3Teaching basic Arabic to wannabe Arabs our dear Fatou [241 words]dhimmi no moreFeb 5, 2021 14:14263624
4Guiding the perplexed our dear Fatou and deciphering the Arabic language [97 words]dhimmi no moreFeb 5, 2021 14:29263624
1Our dear Fatou and the word الصلوة/الصلاة (PRAYER) in the Qur'an [398 words]dhimmi no moreFeb 6, 2021 07:50263624
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AjdaFeb 8, 2021 09:53263624
23About arranged marriages: what Western women must know [299 words]A very concerned readerFeb 3, 2021 22:30263589
19In response to Fatou 2: It's all about respect [123 words]A very concerned readerFeb 3, 2021 17:55263578
10A very concerned reader: The correct translation of صلى الله عليه وسلم is not the PBUH nonsense [158 words]
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dhimmi no moreFeb 3, 2021 15:07263571

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