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Moroccan girl? Marriage scam? Special solutionReader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by Bambino (United States), Aug 19, 2015 at 02:01 While in Los Angeles, as a Muslim man of West African descent, a Moroccan male friend from my mosque invited me to Morocco to meet a girl for marriage. The girl was his sister. I always wanted to marry a great Muslim woman. I traveled there and meet a nice woman; she was hijab wearing and prayed all the time and on time. At our first meeting she told me: "I do not like to go to any public place, I do not listen to musics, I do not watch movies etc...." I spent about 2 weeks in Morocco meeting her family, staying with my friend. We agreed to get married and to have her join me with a US fiancee visa. From my Los Angeles friend, this girl was the best of her family. At my knowledge and by meeting her family members I found out something was wrong with every single member of her family. Things like she could just stay 3 months before divorcing with her ex husband abroad in France, her male sibling were all into drugs... For our marriage I insisted that part of our dowry will be the copy of the holy Quran and a modest amount of $. she discussed my dowry proposal in complaining but I insisted that I will not marry her without the Quran between us. I explained her that I am African and that I am very well aware of the high rate of Moroccans using people living in the USA or other Western countries. I said her that as Muslims I want the Quran to be the guaranty or kind of witness of our relationship. And that if she is marrying me for her papers to be aware that it will not work with our case. I told her she would be lying to the holy Quran if she is playing with our relationship. She ended up accepting my proposal. As a US citizen, I applied for her visa and she then joined me in the USA. I paid all and spent so much from her visa, immigration filing fees, her financial support, ceremonies, flight tickets... I moved from Los Angeles to another State where life style was slower. This girl was so fake in being great to me until we file for her green card which is her adjustment of status. As soon I paid for her green card fee and we submitted it, she all the sudden showed her true face. I could not believe her sudden change. She would be sick or pretend to be sick all the time. She would hardly accept being intimate with me, she would be a new movie watcher girl, I would be every day asked to bring her for shopping or to somewhere where we got to spend crazy amounts. All of a sudden my house became a house of arguments. If not for shopping or spending, she did not want to do anything with me. When filing for her green card she explained me that the USCIS will ship her green card per mail without any interview. I said no, they will need to interview us. This will be a long story to tell from her green card filing. At the 8th days of last Ramadan, I left her home and went at our nearest mosque to pray the noon Zuhr prayer and at my return home the girl or my wife was not anymore at home. she left me and went to her Moroccan girl friend. Her friend could not keep her at her home. they brought her to our city abused women shelter. I was so sad for her action!! we did not fight at all on that 8th day of Ramadan. She made me spend a very stressful Ramadan with so much calls to people and her parents back to Morocco. She just spent 4 months with me from her move to USA before she left me. Indeed she went to the women shelter and lied about me. She also went to police and made a false abuses police report. To my surprise, I found that she and her women shelter made a protective order against me, as if I was intending to harm her (if you don't know about "the protective order" in the USA its a judge's order that a Court can issue against a person, and it is very harmful). Her complaint in the protective order and her her police report were so easy to be found false that the judge dismissed her request. In her dismissed protective order complain she put joke and false things like: my husband accused me of thinking of other men when we make love and I close my eyes; my husband made me take grocery shopping from the store to the car and from the car to our house; my husband forced me to have sex with him even I did not wanted but he never raped me; she checked yes to did police came? but then in her allegations she will say I did not call police at that time. I got a letter of suspension of her green card processing through our marriage. I bet they will deny her green card based on our relationship. Her shelter and her are using the violence against women act to file for her "what is called VAWA I-360", a green card for abused women. I bet she has a very slim chance to get that petition approved unless she got someone from her Moroccan village working at the Immigration and that person lets her fraud go through. I learned that if she could win her protective order, she would be using that document as a strong evidence of abuses toward her. I can tell this secret to people interested to marrying a Moroccan or any Muslim women or men that pretend to be a great practicing Muslims. Give her (for woman make him give you) a copy of Quran as part of your dowry and make her or him take an oath about the future of your relationship on that Quran. This worked well for me. My wife used me to come to America and she did not love me even when I insisted about the Quran to be part of our dowry and her game is not gonna work for her. I can tell you I am not bad looking man. I am handsome, tall and we are close in ages in our 30is. hahaa. You could not imagine how this woman pretended to be the perfect Muslim before we filed for her green card. Praying all the times, any time she used bathroom she will have to pray 2 or 4 rakats, all the times reading Quran (her Dowry, hahaa), being nice to me, worrying about me etc... I think if you are not a Muslim and would not want to be a Muslim do not marry any Muslim Moroccan, and if you are a Muslim find a solution as mine in engaging with any Moroccan when you live oversea. Be very clear to him or her in laying down the marriage scam issue. I can tell you for my case I do not regret at all for what I have spent to marry her and to make her join me. I strongly believe that I was worshiping Allah in my efforts to find a wife. So much Muslims are lost today and they are using Islam not to worship Allah but for dunia purposes. I really wish that Allah save my wife in her lost and engaging into fitna. Amen. Thanks for reading this.Asalam Alaikun. Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. Reasoned disagreement is welcome but not comments that are scurrilous, off-topic, commercial, disparaging religions, or otherwise inappropriate. For complete regulations, see the "Guidelines for Reader Comments". Daniel Pipes replies: Bambino accuses Muslim women of roughly what so many women on this page are accusing men of doing: Being the perfect lover until a certain moment, then the true face emerging. Reader comments (21923) on this item
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