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My 3 children were separated from me 9 years ago when I left my Muslim husbandReader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by Always hope to see my 3 children again (United States), Apr 21, 2015 at 19:40 It has been 9 years since I lost my 3 children. At the time of separation my son was 10, my daughter was 8, and my other daughter was 18 months. I was married to my husband for 11 years and tried very cleverly to get him and the children to the United States early so I could divorce and have rights. This strategy while seemingly flawless did not matter or work. I have not seen my children in 9 years. My son came to America on Tuesday and I saw him in the airport for 5 hours (he is 19 now). My now 17 year old daughter tried to kill herself 2 months ago and since then I have been allowed to communicate with her and have been told that she can come to America and be with me as she needs me. My youngest daughter who is now 11 does not rememebr me and speaks no English. She was born in San Francisco but since 18 months of age has been in her fathers country with no contact from me at all. She calls her grandmother mommy. My marriage was to a very wealthy man and I had a very lavish lifestyle. He however always had other women and was never faithful. I was beaten for trying to leave him before the thrid child was born and thrown in the trunk of the car. The taxi driver who drove me to the airport was shot in the foot for helping me in front of my eyes. I was almost never allowed to be alone and I while I had everything one could ever want I was treated as a possession and was controlled in every aspect of my social interactions with other expats and family included. After the escape attempt and violence that followed, I constructed a business plan to bring my family to the U.S. where I and my children could have rights and be safe. While we were in the states he controlled all of our money, would not allow me to work and continued to cheat. We began to sleep in separate rooms because I felt sleeping with him would present a health risk to me and one afternoon he forced me to have sex and my thrid child was conceived. When I decided to finally leave him (after he had been with his girlfriend in Dominican Republic for 2 months), I was in his country on vacation showing the youngest baby (18 months) to his family. The older children were enrolled in private school in San Francisco, we owned a home and business there as well. He immediately came to us and while I was shopping took the baby with the nanny to his family, cut off all my credit cars and had me followed. I was accused of adultery and even though I was not cheating on him he produced people who claimed (were paid to say so by him) they had been with me and therefore in his country he had the right to keep the children form me. I stayed until my visa expired and I had no money left and then finally had to leave the country and return to the U.S. He promised he would return but did not until he had established residency in his country and enrolled the children in school. When he finally returned, he was served and we went to court. nothing that the judge decided was enforced because he left and the case was no longer in the jurisdiction of the U.S. To pursue this I would have to go to his country and fight..a battle which was highly dangerous and would inevitably lead to my death. I underwent psychological treatment for post trumatic stress symptoms and 8 years of therapy. I was able to go on with my life with lots of work and now all I hope for is that one day before I die, I will see my children again. Last week, my ex came to the U.S. and brought my 19 year old son. I am sure this was to escape the military obligations. He allowed me to see him and to think that my son would be reunited with me and my family. Since seeing my son last week in the airport, I have not been allowed to see him again and do not even know where he is staying. I feel as though I am losing my son all over again. I have decided to write my story down so that if something should happen to me, at least my children will have my words to read. I just want them to know that I LOVE them. I am seeking professional help. DO NOT MARRY A MUSLIM MAN. No matter how charming they are or how western they seem, they are not like you. Learn from my stupidity. DO NOT MARRY A MUSLIM if you are a non-muslim. Submitting....
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