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some wrong thingsReader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by amy (United States), Apr 2, 2015 at 22:10 " Why are you afraid to be left alone? My perspective is that it's lack of selflove when one is afraid to be alone." You are addressing this from an emotional perspective. I wasn't meaning that. I didn't have a problem being alone in the existential sense. I have 4 kids- I love time alone, actually! No, I meant practically. Without my ex around, I didn't have anyone to watch the kids when I needed a break. I didn't have someone to run errands when I was tied down at work. I didn't have someone to help with the practical aspects of life when it goes off the beaten path. It doesn't matter how much one loves or doesn't love themself- there is no such thing as a single mother who has 4 kids who can do it alone with no one's help whatsoever. "They just LOVE drama in the middle east (and Indian subcontinent). Actually, for westerners this is drama, for them it's every day normal" I might agree with you that the norm of life there is more 'dramatic' (read: unpredictable and stressful) than the average western life, but no, not everyone loves it. My husband hates drama. He is an even-keeled sort. Stress and emotional rollercoasters do not wear well on him at all. He avoids them as much as possible. "That's the beauty of Islam. Because it's God's word, it simply cannot be unreasonable. It's all depending on the perception, like with everything in life. Reasonable sounds like compromising." Sounds like an issue you have with Islam specifically. That is really not my place to answer. I don't look to argue religion- people believe what they believe as they are free to do. I can understand why people value it, and why people don't. It doesn't make or break the main point- which is whether an egpytian man can be sincere and good or not. "you just said you feared Allah..and now there is nothing to fear? Anyway. What is it that Allah wants? What's this best interest?" When one says they 'fear' Allah, it doesn't mean to be afraid of Him. It means they respect what He has outlined as a boundary or guideline to follow. It's a trust that He knows better than oneself, and usually there is nothing scary about it. Whereas, when we worry about things, or consider certain potentialities to be avoided, that's coming from a feeling of trepidation which is the definition of fear truly. As far as what Allah wants and what is the best interest, that's a long and detailed topic that would be exhaustive to answer. I wouldn't mind if you really were exploring this, but based on some of the things you've said I don't get the idea that you're looking to really dig into it for that purpose. I wasn't trying to be disrespectful in any of my comments at all. I only phrased things as I did to summarize most of the complaints the other posters had shared, or what they ultimately decided happened. Truthfully, my view is that any sincere religious person will be following a moral compass, and usually they are very similar- Christians don't believe in premarital sex. So practicing Christians wouldn't be doing that any more than a practicing muslim. Same with Jews, and even Hindus...maybe some buddhists. Usually people who are comfortable with premarital sex are not strongly tied into any religious practice. So no, it has nothing to do with being muslim. It has to do with a sense that certain things degrade oneself- premarital sex being one of them. I don't believe that trust in God/Allah means staying in a bad situation. Not at all! In fact, speaking for myself, the reason I suffered through things that were 'bad' was because I was the one not willing to let go. When I finally submitted to what I understood to be Allah's will, I got out! I don't agree at all that He would want people to suffer like that and stay for His sake. Even in the Quran itself, Allah tells a couple to divorce if they can't treat each other right. It's almost commanded! So it makes no sense that a woman would be abused and then blame it on Allah. No way! Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. Reasoned disagreement is welcome but not comments that are scurrilous, off-topic, commercial, disparaging religions, or otherwise inappropriate. For complete regulations, see the "Guidelines for Reader Comments". Reader comments (21923) on this item
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