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Love is painfulReader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by Faith (Romania), Feb 21, 2015 at 07:17 Once, I told myself that I should respect other people beliefs and not judge. Until I met this Muslim man ... When I went in his country with my scholarship at university, everything was so ,,magic", like I was on another planet. Culture, behaviour, mentality, social life, beliefs, etc, were all new for me and so different than my christianity beliefs. After I met him and starting to give him a chance, in some point I told myself: ,,Why our men can't be so kind, generous, lovely and so caring with us?" Honestly, this is what I told myself. And I fell in love with him for he treated me like a princess. Everything was like I always wanted from a man. ... And I think every woman wants to be appreciated in this way. After I came back from his country, he started to tell me that our relationship will never work out, we think differently, we don't have anything in common, etc, and after that he cut every connection with me. (Yes, I know I told this before in a previous comment, but there is something more ...) I was in a beautiful dream and suddenly I woke up in the middle of the nowhere, not understanding what's going on with me, I couldn't even think clearly for weeks what happened... All he did when he broke the relation, was to make me feel like it was my fault, he turned all things in his favour, and look like he was right to brake up with me, and made me feel guilty for everything. I felt miserable. I asked myself: ,,What if I didn't do everything for us, if I wouldn't said that or do that, maybe now we would still be together..." After a few weeks, I couldn't stay in that situation anymore, I wanted to find out some answers for myself. I started to ask some women from there how could this such things can be possible. One of them told me: ,,It's not your fault my dear, it's his fault because he didn't had the courage to tell you what was his real intention. He only took advantage from you because he saw that you loved him and gave him good emotions." Yes, they are just men who offer deceptive love and their culture will never teach them how to love. After my head was a little bit clear (many times I wondered if something was wrong with my mind), I started to compare christianity with islam. It's not that simple as we think, things are more complicated than they seem, and what I mean by this, is that in my case, everything was involved, from life style to spirituality and God. I started to read things about this religion, not only because what happened to me, but also to understand how things are going on in this world, concerning relationships between people, especially ,,romantic" ones. And I took the Bible and the Quran. I will give just some verses, both from Bible and Quran. And I think most of us know that we don't have the same God. The God from Quran doesn't have a Son, you just have to submit like a slave to him, instead, with our Jesus Christ you can have a relationship. (I'm still in the process of healing, sometimes it's so hard for me because sometimes I miss him, even if I know he was just a liar. I miss the way he treated me, but under that mask, even if he was kind and lovely and telling me that he loved me, stood a wolf dressed in a lamb).
And it can continue on and on. We all now that all over the wolrd are men who treat their wives miserable, but it's another thing when your ,,holy" book tells you that you can beat your wife and make a slave out of her. My world it's not the same since I met him. I hope soon the sun will rise on my street too and leave aside this sadness. God bless us all. Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. Reasoned disagreement is welcome but not comments that are scurrilous, off-topic, commercial, disparaging religions, or otherwise inappropriate. For complete regulations, see the "Guidelines for Reader Comments". Reader comments (21923) on this item
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