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Thank youReader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by Donna (United States), Feb 2, 2015 at 13:17 Thank you again for trying to warn. I learned my lesson. Yes you are absolutely right. The women raised in that way don't worry about love,emotion,or kindness, most don't expect it from the men in their country. There are exceptions everywhere. These good men are NOT on the internet scamming searching for victims, they are living productive lives. Please never stop feeling, never stop loving, never stop being kind. Never judge your future without emotion. Emotion is what makes us individuals.Emotion is part of our personality. Without this we are simply animated flesh and bone. Never would I want to share a life with a man without emotion,kindness, or love nor with a cheater, liar and online scammer. I would rather be alone, letting a man touch me in marriage that did not love me, this is unacceptable in every way to me. This is a basic form of selling oneself for material comforts, many women are forced by their familys to marry there. Many males walk away preening like a peacock thinking they have achieved something when in actual fact the female was forced never wanting that individual in any way. I myself nothing special in looks turned down 12 offers graciously while there, and yes their mothers knew and approached me first. None of these men knew one thing about me except the villa I resided in. All but one told me all about themselves, only one asked anything about my likes and dislikes and goals.This man was very personable but a total stranger, never did I consider any. We are not animals, lets not let our hurts make us behave as such. I will never do this type of cold interview for my future life. I have family in the middle east and like you have seen and much heard the coldness in the way the females choose. They have no choice most of the time, they know they will most of them only have children to ease their heartache in their future.Some, but few are lucky enough to get an honest, decent man but you are right in the fact that they don't know the men in which they marry as they only have a few talks with before they decide whether to make a CONTRACT or not. The men ask to meet these women only on basis of looks they know them not at all.These women realize once they age or those looks go or their health changes what the possibility for their future is, the men never once look at themselves thinking what do they appear like to those same females. This doesn't matter to them, it is like we buy automobiles pick out what we like and make the purchase. Don't blame please the females ever, my heart broke when I was there on my visits and talked with both married and single females. These ladies have brains,beauty,and most wish for the choice to say no or yes themselves. Some don't have that choice and only luck of the draw will say if they will be verbally or,and physically abused in their future.You have probably seen this just as I have. The friends that don't speak to you now may be afraid what will happen to them and you if their spouses or family find out about your warnings. This may even be their way of protecting you. Just simply keep them in your heart and prayers and hope for the best for them. Keep your emotions intact yes these same emotions make us targets for scammers and gigolos but they also are part of our humanity.Lets not let the scammers that targeted us take the emotional part of us away and destroy it. I stop and think a lot now what did I really lose? God saved me from a scammer and a liar showed him to be who he was.It took a lot for those women to find each other and me. His brother even admitting he lied and covered his brothers lies and cheating and scamming with women, would not have admitted that to me, if he had no remorse, yet in the next breath he said that he skyped with a lady from canada that was crazy about him and actually laughed about it. They are very backwards in this thinking the men that think this is a pasttime or acceptable to God. NO one has the right to hurt another human being. Keep trying to warn please but first and foremost be stay safe.The male dominated society will not like your warnings at all. Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. Reasoned disagreement is welcome but not comments that are scurrilous, off-topic, commercial, disparaging religions, or otherwise inappropriate. For complete regulations, see the "Guidelines for Reader Comments". Reader comments (21923) on this item
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