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i feel your painReader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by anonymous (United Kingdom), Jan 18, 2015 at 21:36 dear dreams destroyed, what kind words you state to claire, I too feel her pain, and like her I feel that I just cannot cope and that I cannot get up and get to grips with my life. I had eight wonderful years with my husband, there was a very large age gap but I did not meet him over the internet but when I was working and living in egypt. Our friendship grew and we fell in love. I lived with him there in sharm for 6 months, and also in hurghada for 4 months when i was posted there with the company i worked for. We officially married in egypt, but our plan was to come to the UK, so I finally came back to the uk whilst he worked on getting the visa sorted. It was a long hard process but we finally made it and he came to join me in the uk. When I look back over the relationship, I try so hard to analysis things, we were so happy or so I thought. I got a good job, and also managed to get him a job within the same company so we were settled and getting into our life in the uk. We stayed at my parents house, as our finances had taken a beating, and we needed to recoup our monies. However, I did so want to leave my parents house, as I wanted us to live in our own place, but he would never rent, and we did not have the monies to put down on a deposit. We stay living there for over 4 years, and it was getting me down to have no privacy where we could not be ourselves. I told him that I thought it was effecting the marriage, but he said nothing. He would also never talk about the future, and would always say to live in the moment. At the end of last year, I was made redundant, and I felt that this is when the problems seem to happen. Being at home, whilst looking for work was hard, and I was finding it hard to get a job. He by that time had found a new job in london and enjoyed the job as they were a social crowd and enjoyed going out for drinks after work, which was fine as I did not mind. I was feeling depressed because I was worried about what we were going to do in the future, but he would never discuss it, he never really seem to want to talk about us. I have wonderful memories but of late all I can think is that it was not real, there was no intention of staying with me long term............. I never met his family, due to the fact that they lived in a small village and he said that it would not be appropriate for me to go there as I would stand out, but he always reassured me that i would one day meet them. They certainly know of me, and that he was coming here to the uk to marry me and live. I just feel so very very sad, and I want to believe so much that it was real, but people tell me that large age relationships do not last, yet he stayed with me for 8 years noone can pretend that long can they? Even when he worked in the same company as me, people always use to say how happy we look and contented surely these things cannot be just for show ???? Please excuse me for going on so long, I dont look for answers just a hope one day that I will recover because at present I could not feel more down and depressed. He tells me that i was not entirely to blame as he did not try hard enough to make it work but why...........i guess i am looking for answers but i will never get them, never. He wants to remain friends, but this is too hard for me as i want more but feel that i cannot let go, as i just want to see him. In time maybe i will just have to let go, otherwise my health and my sanity will leave me. Thanking you for listening to my woes........................ Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. Reasoned disagreement is welcome but not comments that are scurrilous, off-topic, commercial, disparaging religions, or otherwise inappropriate. For complete regulations, see the "Guidelines for Reader Comments". Reader comments (21923) on this item
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