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still heartbrokenReader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by completely devasted (United Kingdom), Jan 11, 2015 at 15:34 seven months ago, my husband left me.......................after eight years being together. I am still so very devastated and unhappy words could not express. I find I still cry even now, at the slighest thing or memory that I shared with him. I want the pain to go away so much, but I feel that it never will and this is how I will feel all the time. I did not met him on the internet, I met him in person when I was living and working in egypt. We got together and after a while we realised that we both had romantic feelings about each other. We lived in an apartment, obviously obtaining an orfi for six months in sharm. I was then sent to greece for my company,. and he also came to see me there for a couple of weeks. I then came back to the uk and he also followed, but due to the fact it was only a vistors visa, we had to go back to hurghada this time and we lived together there. We also got married legally in egypt whilst we were there. When my time was finished in hughada, I came back to the UK. We were apart for several months whilst he was trying to get a visa into the country. It was a very long and hard task to get the visa for him and I employed the services of a professional lawyer in uk to do so and in total took up to 8 months before he was allowed to come into the country.....................we were so happy that it was all sorted and looked forward to our life in the UK. I eventually got a job, and in time I got him a job in the same company. We lived at my parents house, due to our low finances, but it suited us in the beginning. As time went on, I really wanted to move out of my parents house, but he was not keen to do this as he told me he thought it was a waste of monies......but I felt that we had no privacy at home and was become a little depressed with the situation. I asked him to start saving but he did not seem keen to do this and when I try to discuss the future, he kept telling me to live in the moment as we dont know what the future brings. We did so much together, lovely holidays, weekends away all the nice fun and happy things. He later on managed to get a job in london which he enjoyed as the company was a very social one and he like to go out drinking with his colleagues quite often, staying out quite late some times, but I alway trusted him, he never gave me a reason ever not too. There is a large age gap in the marriage (17 years in total) but it truely did not seem to matter to us and he never showed me that it did. I sadly never met his family because they lived in a small village near alexandia and he felt that it would not be good to take me there, but they knew about me and knew that he came to the uk to be with me and that we had got marriage in the UK. I had also spoken to his sister over the phone as she does speak some english. In the last six months of the relationship, things were hard as I lost my job due to the company going into liquidation, and finding another job was very hard and it was getting me down, and I felt like I was a burden for him, eventually I did find another job but I was not happy and really should never have taken the job.........he knew that I was not that happy but I did try my best but coupled with the fact, that staying at home was becoming a strain as well, he seemed to get more distant and I found I could never talk about us.........I did tell him that living at home is putting a stain on the marriage, but he said nothing, just nothing so I drop the matter but I did feel so upset as to why he would never talk about this or try to suggest what we can do, apart from the fact he suggested that I get a depoist from my father to buy a property,. but as we had not saved anything in the time we live there, I did not feel that I could ask......I wish I had done now, maybe we would still be together and happy. My family all loved him as well. How can someone, who is loved so deeply, just pack a suitcase whilst I am at work, and leave me and calling me on my mobile to tell me. I realise that marriages end, or things go wrong, but he never gave me any warning, he never talk to me about what was making him unhappy, he just left.................. I realise that age gap relationships have to be with caution, but could someone pretend for 8 years in total.............I want answers but I guess I will never get them. He said that he will find it very hard to ever met anyone like me, and that he wishes me happiness, but all I am is sad, lonely and very depressed. I dont want to say bad things about him,. or dish out blame etc as he truely made me very happy and I will always treasure the memories we had, even though now thinking about them makes me feel so sad and alone.................................I miss him and I want the pain to go away I have been like this for seven months now and just feel like giving up as I cannot see any light at the end of this terrible dark tunnel....... how does a person get over this ?????? Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. Reasoned disagreement is welcome but not comments that are scurrilous, off-topic, commercial, disparaging religions, or otherwise inappropriate. For complete regulations, see the "Guidelines for Reader Comments". Reader comments (21923) on this item
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